Saturday, January 9, 2010

How to tell my spouse he is suffering from paranoid personality disorder with psychotic features.?

He feels that he is perfectly alright and is a very un co-operative patient. Help please. ThanksHow to tell my spouse he is suffering from paranoid personality disorder with psychotic features.?
If he is paranoid then you don't need to tell him anything. he will just see you as part of the problem. the fact that he has psychotic features can make him very dangerous. If he has actually been seen by a mental health professional and received the above stated diagnosis and is being uncooperative or medication non-compliant then you need to contact that mental health professional right away. If you agitate a paranoid person and he reaches an acutely psychotic state you have a serious problem on your hands. If he is not taking his meds contact a mental health professional.How to tell my spouse he is suffering from paranoid personality disorder with psychotic features.?
if what you say is true, then your spouse is either in dinial or he is one difficult person to have to deal with. push the issue, take movies and recordings, and then give him an intervention, if the intervention dont work then give him an ultimatum.
Is that his diagnosis or do you just think that's what he is suffereing from? If it is what his doctors say, you probably can't be the one to slap him with the truth. I went through a similar thing with my husband but he was in your place. I was really sick and depressed after my baby was born but when he pointed things out or asked me to go with him to get help I would lash out at him and defend myself. You are supposed to be your husbands partner and teamate. If he is uncomfortable admitting he needs help, any contradiction of this that comes out of your mouth he is going to view as an attack on him, from someone who is supposed to be routeing for him and standing by him as an equal. You will be heard as over-riding his decision and trying to pull rank, pulling out of the team posistion and trying to be coach. My mom had to be the one to get through to me. She has always been someone that I've seen as higher up than me or in charge of me, someone I respect and listen to and try to emulate. Like a mentor. If you could find someone like this in your husbands life, an old friend he respects, a parent or aunt or uncle, and they felt the same way you do, you could ask their help to talk to your husband. If there is no one like that for him in his life then you need to find a doctor or someone he will feel is an athority on the subject and hopefully he will listen more easily than if you said it. It might still not be all sunshine and lolly pops but it would help him continue to turn to you and see you as his teammate through all of this. He'll be able to look to you for comfort and understanding instead of someone constantly against what he feels. Even if you want to tell him to feel something different or that he needs to clue in and change his attitude don't say it. It will cause damamge to a relationship that really needs to stay intact for him to recovery. You being right there by his side will get him to come around to your way of thinking faster than anything. Just validate everything that is applicable. ';I know you feel like you are fine. I love you no matter what you feel like or say. I'm with you forever. I know when doctors express concern that you don't feel it's warranted. I would have a hard time accepting anything was wrong with me if I didn't feel it. If something still was and I didn't notice but you did, I would want you to quietly tell me what you thought. Then we could sit down and decide together what was really happening. I don't want you to go through anything if you don't have to. Let's just see what this doctor says and maybe you might notice something. What doctor do YOU want to see and maybe we can start from there. Can we just compromise and see 1 doctor and you can pick and answer only the questions you want to. etc.'; The more he feels you are on his side the more he will listen to you and trust you. Because really you are on his side, he just has to feel it.
Sometimes the ones closest to him can't be heard. Try calling his family doctor and explaining your concern, see if he will go for a check-up and let the doctor delve further into it for you. Beware of the drugs they will want to put him on however, sometimes they can be worse for the body than the original problem. A check-up in in order however. I have found a whole fruit product that helps if you are interested go to www.usapowerline.com and read about it.


Good Luck:)
if you are not a mental health specialist, there is no reason why he should listen to you.

Can you sponsor your spouse if your mother recieved social assistance and you were a dependant child?

does recieving social assistance as a dependant child effect your sponsorship eligibility????Can you sponsor your spouse if your mother recieved social assistance and you were a dependant child?
you are not responsible for what happened to you when you were a kid.





basically as long as you have a job NOW, then you can sponsor a spouse.Can you sponsor your spouse if your mother recieved social assistance and you were a dependant child?
If you are the sponsor, then you yourself must have earned income that is at least 125% of the poverty level. If your mother is receiving social assistance then she cannot be a co-sponsor, however your father could (if employed full time with sufficient earned income). The exact income your father would need depends on how many dependents he has (including your spouse).
If you can meet the financial eligibility requirements, then it won't be a problem. You couldn't use your mother as a joint sponsor, it appears.





if someone can meet the 125% of poverty line...ur good to go. Otherwise, you will need to find a joint sponsor that fits the bill.

Is there such a thing as a waiver for the Injured Spouse claim?

The state of Florida holds up intercepts for past child support for 180 days. They say for the spouse to file injured spouse forms. If the spouse does not want to do this is there a waiver that can be signed so the residential parent can get the money quicker?Is there such a thing as a waiver for the Injured Spouse claim?
If you do not include an ';Injured Spouse'; form with your federal income tax return, then the government can hold all the refund due a married couple to pay back child support of one of the individuals. There is no such thing as a waiver. If you want the government to take your part of any tax refund to pay your spouse's past due child support, then just don't include the Injured Spouse form when you file.
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  • What happens if neither spouse can afford the house after divorce?

    Just found out my wife has been cheating on me, and I'll be getting a divorce. Here's the situation: We just refinanced our home in November and have virtually no equity in it. Since the housing market has turned, it's unlikely that we'd get what it appraised for in a sale. So what are my options? If we both stop paying the two mortgages, it will go into foreclosure, but I'm unclear what would happen after that. Could someone please explain?What happens if neither spouse can afford the house after divorce?
    Sell it and pay the rest back to the bank, a foreclosure will not be easy to overcome later.





    YOu are unclear about foreclosure? The banks own it and take it back. They may or may not sell it. They dont really care if they sit vacent for awhile.





    You however, will have a terrible time getting another house, or even renting. Avoid the foreclosure.





    Maybe you guys can rent it out until things are betterWhat happens if neither spouse can afford the house after divorce?
    I'm betting dealing with your house will be harder then dealing with your relationship. If you are stead fast in your position with your wife and you can't heal and find out why she was cheating, then you will have to deal with the house.





    You are correct, in this market a refi to %100 or close is a kiss of death. You are still better off selling it though and splitting the immediate loss with your wife and writing the lender a check up front. I know walking away seems painless, but it's not. As another has pointed out your credit will get dented for years. There is a second hit you will also take. The lender will get the property and hold a fire sale to get rid of it. In this market it will go cheap. Then they will take the over all loss and file a 1099 with the IRS as income to you. Yep...if the bank takes a loss of $50,000USD, you get taxed on it the next year. Then you not only have dented credit but you owe the IRS a bunch of money.





    In the end if you can't reconcile with your wife, the very least you guys should do for each other is remain good business partners until you can unties things and find the right buyer who will give you more or at least be close to how much you owe.





    Unrelated.. If you love her and she loves you...give it a try. If you guys didn't really love each other before, then chuck it. There are a lot of reasons people cheat. It's not cut and dry nor is it always sex or they are looking for someone new. Sometimes it's reaching out for a need they don't know how to deal with. It's at least worth trying to find out before you flush things.
    you need to speak with a attorney that deals with real estate. are you in new york? i know of one.
    Try and sell it for as much as you can get. If you decide to let it go into foreclosure, you might want to ask a Realtor about a short sale. This is not good on your credit, but, it does clear you from the house and debt associated with the house. Let me know if you want me to refer you to an experienced Realtor in your area. I would love to help.


    I am a Realtor and a mortgage broker
    It would be beneficial for you to sell the home and pay off the mortgages, rather than let it go to foreclosure, even if it costs you a little. It will cost you more later on in higher interest rates and the like because your credit rating is screwed.

    How to bring the spouse to canada from india with open work permit?

    iam working in canada with temporary work permit, in this situation can i bring my spouse ?what are the needed forms %26amp; documents? how long it will take?How to bring the spouse to canada from india with open work permit?
    she needs to apply separately. see link below








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    What would you say to a neighbor who unexpectidley lost their spouse?

    She is less than a friend but more than a neighbor. She has a 14 year old daughter as well and was very close to her dad. They both there during this unexpected loss of their husband/father. We just don't know what to say or do for them. Please help. What would you say to a neighbor who unexpectidley lost their spouse?
    first i think you should give them time to cool off, i think they don't want to talk about it so soon and they want to be left alone. what i did for my neighbor was i bought a really nice card and wrote how sorry i was and that if there was anything at all could do for them i was there. then i put that card tucked under their doormat so when they got home they got it. after a certain time we talked about it and he said thank you for the card.What would you say to a neighbor who unexpectidley lost their spouse?
    well just try to talk to them, keep them calm offer help if you can just nice stuff. dont go to deep into the recent decised past though.. just be positive. dont push further than they want to be pushed either

    If I and my spouse decide to retire in Mexico, will we still get our social security checks?

    I cannot find this anywhere, so I ask you Yahooigans.


    If a couple who collects social security moves out of the country, can they still collect social security?If I and my spouse decide to retire in Mexico, will we still get our social security checks?
    Social Security used to not mail checks out of the country, tho I understand they now do. However, mail is unreliable in parts of Mexico. I have mine direct deposited in one of my accounts in the U.S. then just use my ATM card to get money out as needed...same with my pension check.If I and my spouse decide to retire in Mexico, will we still get our social security checks?
    Yes, in fact there was a Social Security office in Guadalajara last time I was there.


    We have an account with Citi in LA that has connections to Banamex in MX.


    We get our checks electronically sent to to L.A. bank, then transfer what we need (no charge) to our MX bank account.


    No problem.
    If you are citizens of the U.S., you can receive your Social Security checks anywhere but Cuba and North Korea.

    How is an executor to an estate named when a persons spouse is deceased and the person is childless?

    My uncle died without leaving a will or naming an executor to his estate. His spouse is deceased and he had no children. It will fall on my aunts and uncles to sort things out. How do they go about naming an executor to his estate? Will we need a lawyer? He lived in Texas.How is an executor to an estate named when a persons spouse is deceased and the person is childless?
    without a will someone who is an interested party applys with the probate court to act as administrator.





    That person will oversee liqudating the assets, paying the bills, distributing personal effects and distributing remaining funds according to the intestancy law.How is an executor to an estate named when a persons spouse is deceased and the person is childless?
    When someone dies intestate(without having made a will) the state, not the individual, determines how much and to whom all the deceased's property will go. Often, the distribution is not as the deceased intended. A personal representative, or executor, is the person who administers the deceased's estate and carries out the terms of the will. when someone dies intestate, the court must appoint the personal representative. This person may not be whom they would have intended or even wished to appoint had they had the choice.





    When a decedent is intestate, state statute determines who among the decedent's heirs receives the decedent's property and in what proportion each takes the property. These laws of succession are designed to insure that a decedent's next of kin, i.e., family, receives the property.





    In general, intestate succession laws, or laws of succession, are based upon the idea that a decedent's property should pass consanguinity, or blood relationships. With the exception of a surviving spouse, who will always take first, all people whom a decedent's property will be distributed will be blood relatives when a decedent dies intestate. hope I have helped.
    Anyone can become the executor by asking the probate court to be appointed. Whomever wants the job should file the necessary appointment petition along with the will for probate. If no one wants the position, the court, upon offering the will for probate, can appoint one but this is a very expensive proposition for the heirs.
    There is a standard in every state. If there is no heirs and no will, the state standard applies. Too bad for the family, they wil not see the inheritance that your uncle probably wanted them to.
    The court can appoint an attorney as the executor, or if you want to be the executor and apply with the court to administer his estate, you can do so as well. If your aunts or uncles apply, the court may appoint them as well. It is not necessary for an attorney to handle this type of situation, however, it may be in your best interests to utilize one, especially if he had a sizeable estate.
    The court appoints an executor - the estate should hire a lawyer (paid out of the estate) who can advise the executor.
    this is going to have to be decided by the probate court. this is why its so important to have a will and that someone knows exactly what you want when you die.

    How to tell your spouse you what join the National Guard?

    I don鈥檛 know how to tell him. We have too small children and I don鈥檛 know how to tell him this something I would like to do. Also Right now either of us are employed and I鈥檓 a full time student. It鈥檚 getting hard to pay for college, books, and diapers. I鈥檓 just scared he is going to jump off the deep end when I tell him.How to tell your spouse you what join the National Guard?
    Well...





    If it's getting hard to pay for expenses then it sounds like you're trying to be a responsible parent and take care of your responsibilities. If he has a problem with it tell him to get a freaking J-O-B. If he was doing as much to support you and your family as you're trying to then you wouldn't have to struggle to take care of two kids.





    So, I sound like a jerk, but I know what I'm talking about. After four years as a Marine my husband came back from Japan to our two kids and me (pregnant). He wanted to get out because after fifteen months he missed his wife and children. He took two months to look for a job, didn't find one, and went back to the Marine Corps because it offered more than any civilian job could (he was six months short of his bachelors' degree at the time). Now, almost three years later he's finishing his Masters' which was paid for by the Corps. We have a roof over our heads, our children are fed, clothed, and happy. And the best part for all five of us? I still get to stay home with them every day, he gets an education, and it really is a good life. We're not necessarily paid well, but the military helps out its' troops in terms of benefits. Imagine how many diapers your drill time could pay for...then imagine how many diapers your lazy hubby pays for and you should KNOW the answer. I think you do in your heart because you're asking in the first place!How to tell your spouse you what join the National Guard?
    I say good choice, tell him your trying to better your family plain and simple and tell him he needs to consider the same option. Their should never be any unemployed people in the US because the military is always hiring. The only ones who can't join are medically challenged people, educationally challenged people and of course law or ethically challenged people. Good for you.
    why don't you tell your husband to enlist.





    if you want to enlist, then do it.





    seeing as he's your husband, he should support you.








    and crazy drummer-your a real jack a s s ..
    look into the guards college first option. if you don't have much time left in school it will prevent you from deploying b4 graduation. the realize the guard does deploy. i say look into the air force reserve as well and air national guard as well. It will give you money for books and tuition, and a check.. just drill pay, but its better than no pay. I think people may see you a being selfish but I see you as willing to sacrifice to make the best life for your kids in the future. As far as telling your husband get all the literature first in regards to job training, pay and benefits. So as you talk he has something to look at and see how it benefits the family as a whole. Talk about the money for college and the extra money every month that can go towards diapers, and how after basic for the most part you are gone one weekend a month and two weeks a year to train.
    you dont get a job once you have 2 small children. thats your your husbands job... if you wanted to be in the national guard, you shouldn't have had kids.





    thats very selfish of you, you had your time to do that.
    Don't Join the Gaurds


    Stay home. yer kids need a mom
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  • How can I start college overseas in germany as an army spouse?

    I know they have programs for spouses to help with enrollment and tuition. I am having a difficult time finding them thoughHow can I start college overseas in germany as an army spouse?
    I am attending University of Phoenix while I'm working full-time and it's awesome. Tons of people are in class that are in the armed forces. Give it a try.


    I'll add the link.


    They will walk you through the process and even get you going with your financial aid stuff.





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    What happens when you are no longer physically attracted to your spouse?

    Do you just ';choose'; to love them anyway, even though the feelings aren't there? Is it ok to stay married if you only feel a platonic love for them? How can people really say ';I DO'; for a lifetime, when people change so much?What happens when you are no longer physically attracted to your spouse?
    Your actions will tell your S.O. and they'll start thinking about your feels toward them. They'll get the message...you love them but don't want them. They might try to figure you out by making some changes to narrow down what you notice. He might change his hair cut, the way he dresses or lose some weight. If he does this for you he loves you, if he just accepts the fact that you don't want him and your just room mates he'll leave. I've been down this road and I think he should try for a few years and if he can't win all of you I think he should leave and maybe you'll regret it or he'll find some one else who will love him. Life is short people should be happy, that goes for both of you.What happens when you are no longer physically attracted to your spouse?
    In a perfect world, that platonic love would be enough to get you through. But in all honesty, it isn't sometimes. It helps you forgive things like him honking when he blows his nose or snoring throughout the night, but there are certain things that love cannot forgive. I think it all depends on you. When there is no physical attraction there any longer, I think you still have to strive to have sex with the other person. Because you're right--people DO change a lot. You could use fantasy to get you libido going before you go in to have sex with him. You could try spicing up your sex life with him in general. That might do something.





    Good luck! :-)
    Its true. People do change. But what you need to do is figure out if you really just are not attracted to them anymore no matter what. Or if your not getting the affection you want. Once you have determined that i think you need to talk to them just tell them the truth about how you feel. My parents were falling out of love for years before deciding to divorce. It was actually my mom we all thought. Surprisingly my dad was falling out of love wit her as well. They are divorced now and are great friends and get along better then when they did when they were married. Who knows maybe you guys will get closer if you split. No matter what guilt trips people give you. You honestly need to think about you. If you just don't feel that *spark* i guess you could say then its ok, find what you really want don't force yourself to do what you think looks better. You will just regret it later if your more unhappier. Do whats best for you =) hope i helped..
    It begs the answer to the age old question... is love a chemical reaction? Or is it a choice? I have seen many people stay in love a lifetime (particularly those who married later, like 30s...) and I have seen people fall out of love. If you make it a choice, it is harder to stay faithful because you are vulnerable to other men, needing that attraction or connection that you no longer have w/ your husband. So see what you can do to rev up that chemical reaction. Scents? Candles? Love letters via poetry or e-mails, etc... GL
    well this happened to my friend. my friends x gained 60 pounds, took a shower every once in awhile, didn't brush his teeth, didn't clean his clothes. she tried to get him help, thinking he was depressed, he refused, and it got worse, the place started looking like a garbage pale, it stunk and roaches were his friends.


    She put up with this for six months, she tried everything.


    She was no longer interested, how could she care for someone who didn't care for himself and refused to do anything to make the marriage work?


    Now divorced.
    Women aren't capable of lifelong marriage and generally cheat or start hating their husband around 7-10 years or 3-4 children after they get married. Men on the other hand can love their wife a lifetime IF she's a good wife and doesn't give him crap all the time or nag.





    If you want to know why you're so confused, there's a book you need to read. http://www.womensinfidelity.com/
    I do IS for a lifetime. Sometimes you're attracted and sometimes your not. Marriage is not something you walk away from for such silly reasons. Why did you get married? You are supposed to work on staying together not finding reasons to leave. Grow up. Otherwise your next husband is going to be left wondering wtf he did wrong when you leave him too...
    I'm going through that right now. It was more because feelings in the relationship weren't nurtured and now it feels like we're more roommates than spouses. I'm hanging in there for my son right now but that may not even be enough.
    i believe your marital love should change right along with the people sharing it; it should be viewed as a natural growth. love is not always hormone raging and sexy. it is perennial as the grass.
    you're in a rut


    find a way out...at one point you loved him more than just platonic..correct?


    if not, then why did you marry him?
    That's why divorce is so prominent in the United States.
    when that happened its called : DIVORCE
    Drink more wine.

    What does the Quran say about parents and finding a spouse for their child?

    Is there something in the Quran that says it is fard for the parents to marry off their children?





    What exactly does the Quran say about parents and finding a spouse for their child?





    Is it something religious or something cultural?What does the Quran say about parents and finding a spouse for their child?
    I doesn't say anything about it.





    And it's neither religious nor cultural.





    Here in Egypt, everyone marries who they want, arranged marriages I think are more in India, Pakistan, etc..





    So it would be cultural for them yeah.What does the Quran say about parents and finding a spouse for their child?
    As far as I know, it doesn't say anywhere in the Quran that Parents are responsible for the marriage of their child but yes, definitely its their job to do so. They brought up a child, fed him or her, took care of him or her for these many years, they can think of good n bad for their child. They are more experienced in lives. So, its not the job of parents alone to get their child married, but other relatives and friends should also take care of it especially in the case of a girl, where such matters should be dealt by the elders of the family. ~!
    it says no such thing

    What are good reasons that would make you leave your spouse?

    Would you leave over verbal/mental abuse would it take physical abuse, or cheating. Just trying to figure out what reasons people leave their spouses.What are good reasons that would make you leave your spouse?
    The 3 A's. Adultery, abuse and addiction.What are good reasons that would make you leave your spouse?
    Abuse is abuse no matter what form it takes and is a perfectly reasonable reason to leave a spouse.





    Verbal/mental abuse can be incredably damaging to your self esteme and usually leads to clinical depression.





    Most other reasons are various kinds of abuse anyway. Infidielity is an abuse of trust, FInancial black mail is abuse, untreated alcoholism or drug dependancy is abuse of your good nature and so on.





    The only thing I can think of that is not really abuse is a loveless marriage, but is that not a form of self abuse?



    I would leave my spouse over verbal, mental or physical abuse. I would leave my spouse if there were problems in our marriage that he was not willing to work on in order for both of us to be happy. I believe that both spouses should be able to say they are happy in their marriage. It should be one person doing things to make the other person happy all the time. A marriage is hard work and it definately takes two people to work at it to be successful.
    All of the above would be grounds for leaving. if you choose to not leave just yet, try asking hm to go to some sort of counseling. if he dosnt do that, then he is basically telling you he has no reason to change his ways. which aldo means he dosnt respect you as a person nor himself. another one to add to the list would be if i had falling out of love with the person or they have done the same. what would be the point to continue if there is no love there. just caring for the person is not gonna keep a strong bond strong for very long.
    VERY GOOD QUESTION! I think is depends on what each person wants. Sometimes it takes a lot for a person to leave the other. It really just depends on how much the other person wants to put up with the crap. Most of the time that person has to hit rock bottom before they will leave...
    abuse of any kind, addiction, and cheating...


    i left my ex though because he didn't stop playing video games for literally a year and made me support him. i couldn't take it anymore, and he refused to change.





    finally, i gave it up. i'm now married to my dream guy.
    All of the above and more. If your spouse doesn't trust you but you have done nothing to deserve it. If your spouse tries to control every move you make. If your spouse prefers to spend time with other women and leaves you sitting at home. Should I go on.
    All of the above -especially if he cheated. It would be the hardest thing to do -but I would do it. Or if he was constantly broke-lied all the time-stuff like that.
    all of the above, or any one of the above items u listed, i cannot stay with someone that is abusing me in any way, that is not love, and i am in my marriage for love!
    Unless the verbal/mental is really abusive, my #1 reason is: unfaithfulness. Pass that, I take the vows seriously.
    1. Affair


    2. Addiction


    3. Not Showing me any attention at all.





    -------%26gt; I would never let a man put there hands on me. If he ever tried that he beter make sure I can't get back up, because if i got back up he would be dead.
    All of the above...u can only take physical or mental abuse, cheating and ect..


    For as long as u get tired of it, get smart and get out. Unfortuantely some ppl r 2 dumb to leave.
    One or more of the three A's.....





    1) Affair


    2) Abuse of any kind


    3) Addictions that he refuses to get help with
    physical abuse, mental abuse and cheating are the only reasons i would leave him
    After 31 years of marriage... at this point there are two things that would make me leave.... I call them...BEAT OR CHEAT.


    Either one and I am gone...
    just one of the above.
    any one could be a reason
    sometimes, to make the list shorter;why would they stay?

    What is the biggest compliment you can give to your spouse or partner?

    I always tell my beau..you are my original MABUHAY beauty...that is after he saw the mabuhay beauties pictures on my friendster profile,LOL.[picture of Zanjoe Marudo and Enchong Dee on their swimmingtrunk ramp.]..I mean it though coz for me he's the sexiest and most handsome man on earth...so for those who gave us an odd look when we go out together..I would say..''die in envy he's mine''LOL.What is the biggest compliment you can give to your spouse or partner?
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    What is the biggest compliment you can give to your spouse or partner?
    For Women: Nice Shoes!





    For Men: Ur big! in dreams!
    My wife told that I was the sweetest man that she has ever known.


    I tell my wife that God already linked us together years ago. The prophecy has finally arrived.
    She is the hottest babe near me!
    mmm...


    i don't have and never had a partner but let me try.


    how about ';you're the reason i exist.';?


    haha!
    Tell her always that she is loved by you and tell her how happy you are when you are together.
    i'm happy to be stuck with you
    I honestly don't know. I've run out of compliments and adjectives for him. But let me tell you the biggest compliment he has given me - ';Thank God I found you!'; Yeah, said on New Year's Eve. Priceless!!!!
    thank you for staying with me through the hardest times of our lives
    I would say that I am glad that we are equally important and that I love her truly with all my heart
    how am i suppose to live without you
    you complete me.
    honey,you were great
    I want to spend the rest of my life with you mahal ko.
    for female: where do want to go for shopping?





    for male: come on hon, let's play...
    what a fantastic performance babe :)))

    Can a couple that files separatly get income from other spouse in divorce?

    I filed my taxes as single both years that I was married. Now I'm in the middle of a divorce. Is she entitled to ordinary business income listed on schedule K1?Can a couple that files separatly get income from other spouse in divorce?
    It is very unlikely that your filing status will have any effect on your divorce proceedings. If you filed as single while being legally married and living together you may have another problem. As for the income on the K-1 it would depend on a number of factor including the state in which you filed for divorce. If she is shown as an owner in what ever enterprise issued the K-1 it is very likely that she will be able to count the income listed on that K-1. ( K-1s come from a number of sources which would greatly effect any response).Can a couple that files separatly get income from other spouse in divorce?
    I would think she can. Even tho you filed seperate, you say you were still married. Thats probably how the courts will look at it. I don't think the tax records will have any bearing on it.
    Filing taxes separately has nothing to do with what's granted in a divorce settlement. So yes, the settlement would work the same whether you filed separately or jointly.
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  • What to do for converting a student visa into a spouse visa?

    I want to get marry and wanna change status of visa. So what to do for that ?What to do for converting a student visa into a spouse visa?
    Another person has already advised that you apply for adjustment of status. This will be fine as long as your student visa allows you to do this. If your student visa is due to run out within 3 months of applying to sdjust status it will be more difficult to prove you have a genuine relationship. You need to gather up all the evidence you can of an ongoing relationship with your American partner. If you don't have joint bank accounts, a joint lease etc. don't worry too much. As soon as you marry get your name on the same lease and open a joint account. You can ask friends or family who are US citizens to provide notarised statements that they know both of you as a couple. Your spouse will have to be able to support you at 125% of the poverty level and be willing to sign an affadavit of support which is legally binding as well as provide proof of earning enough money to support you.


    For more information go to http://www.visajourney.com where you will find forums to ask more questions. The members there know more about family based immigration than most here on YA.


    Good LuckWhat to do for converting a student visa into a spouse visa?
    You can file for adjustment of status. Here are all the forms you and your spouse will need to fill out:





    http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis/m鈥?/a>








    Good luck
    Don't try it. Doing so will get you on a terrorist watch list, and flag you as someone who violated previous visa requirements...as you promised, when applying for the student visa, that you would not marry, or try to stay beyond your student visa period. Also, you will be highly suspected of trying to get married just so you can stay here, and such fraud will at least get you deported, and may get you thrown in prison here before being deported. If you are truly in love, and want to get married, go home. While in your country, spend a year, or more, writing to and calling, and emailing, your beloved here. Keep copies of your phone bills, emails, letters. Come back as a tourist, and return home after the tourist visa expires. Have your love visit you in your country on a tourist visa. Take photos of the two of you together whenever one is in the others' country. Then, apply for a fiancee visa, and give full details of your long time relationship. Be ready to show the government here all your letter, email, photo,etc, copies. It is slow, but this is the way that works best.
    Get the f out of my country.

    If a spouse dies before a divorce is granted, does the other spouse get everything?

    If a divorce action has been filed with the courts, but the final disposition date has not been assigned, or has not yet arrived---and one of the spouses dies, does the other one automatically get everything as if there had not been a divorce pending? What if the dead spouse has no Will? Does that change anything?If a spouse dies before a divorce is granted, does the other spouse get everything?
    depends on the state... in NJ yes it does mean the spouse gets everything... only reason i know that is because i had a friend recently go through a divorce and her final final date isn't until jan 5 of next year.... so if he dies she will get everything still and his fiance will not get anything.If a spouse dies before a divorce is granted, does the other spouse get everything?
    If the divorce is not granted the marriage is valid. If there is no will, the surviving spouse should inherit as if no divorce was filed.





    That being said, anything is open to interpretation in the courts. If nobody contests the inheritance, the survivor should have no problems. However, it's unlikely that the deceased person's family would allow that. They will contest the inheritance.





    Also, every state handles these things differently. If this should happen, only a lawyer in your state will know for sure.
    If the spouse dies without a wil (in testate) the estate will have to go through probate. Probate judges have seen this situation before and the best advice is to get a good probate attorney to represent your rights if you are a potential beneficiary.
    you need to get some legal counsel. although i wanna say yes you never know. in addition, lot's of this stuff can change on a case by case basis. spend the $100-$150 and seek legal counsel.
    Yup. He/she sure does get everything. Unless they had a will....but even with a will, a will can be disputed (look at Anna Nicole Smith) My military lawyer (the Jag) told me a will is just a legal way of telling what you want, but it doesn't make anything set in stone.
    If the spouse died before a divorce was official then you are technically still married, and everything WOULD go to you regardless. As for the will - no idea.





    You should ask an attorney, they'd give you the best answer.
    Until the divorce papers are signed they are legally married, no matter if there is anything pending or not, whether there is a will or not.. the spouse is considered next of kin, up until the divorce papers are signed and sealed..
    Something sounds a little off, unless your spouse has terminal cancer.


    Check with your attorney.
    No.


    Once you file for divorce you are legally separated. at that point the next of kin is who would inherit everything.
    If that happens you better get a good lawyer, cause someone maybe comin after you with murder charges.
    You should contact a lawyer.
    If there is no will, the other spouse inherits. A will would override that.
    THEY GET WHAT IS DICTATED IN THE LAWS OF THE STATE.
    i guess technically their still married
    You sound like you are plotting something so all I am going to say is..Ask a lawyer!

    How to keep the marriage spicy when not living with spouse?

    If you and your spouse don't share the same house how can you keep the marriage spicy? What are some romantic things one can do in a temporary long distance situation?How to keep the marriage spicy when not living with spouse?
    in any relationship communication is the key. you know your partner better than anyone on here and how they think. when you do communicate talk about their feelings and how the separation is effecting them. turn the conversation to what things will be like when you get back together. paint the picture you have in your mind. try to avoid talking about sex. it is frustrating to get in the mood and not be able to act on it and after you hang up you may have doubts about their fidelity. send flowers and notes about how much you miss them and how anxious you are to be together again.How to keep the marriage spicy when not living with spouse?
    Lots of sweaty phone-sex.
    The answer your looking for is called Communication.
    Move in together!
    Maybe phone sex? I don't know.
    zero.. nothing.. it never works.. give-up while you still can...

    How much time should you spend apart before missing your spouse?

    My boyfriend and I had this discussion and he said there was a certain amount of time that had to go by before you miss someone. I feel when you're not with that person, you automatically miss them being around. What's everyone else's opinion? 1 day? 3 days? 1 second?How much time should you spend apart before missing your spouse?
    to me its hmmm lets see...


    usually a second lol I love my BF and I miss him every second we are not together !


    but everyone is different so theres actually no right or wrong answer here

    Can a spouse that is seperated from the other spouse take there kids and move to another state without asking?

    They are not divorced yet but she is planning on leaving after christmas with the kids and moving up north without her husband.Can a spouse that is seperated from the other spouse take there kids and move to another state without asking?
    Only if you have an Oiled up pistol and your spouse is a complete DOLT!Can a spouse that is seperated from the other spouse take there kids and move to another state without asking?
    Yep until there is a legal document that says she can't take them she has every right. Likewise, the husband can also go to her new home %26amp; take the kids right out of school %26amp; bring them back home. I hope she's not using those poor kids to punish him, though. My sister did that with her ex %26amp; her kids %26amp; those poor kids ended up going to 4 different schools in the same year. It's just cruel for parents to do that to those innocent little babies.
    Ok...here is how it works ( just got custody of my husbands son)...She can leave with the children...she can NOT file for custody of those children anywhere but in the county they live in...you have to live somewhere for 6 months with the children BEFORE you file for custody...So when she leaves HE can go to the courts and file for custody and then have her severed where she and the kids are...


    They will have to fight custody where the children have been residents for 6 months...


    So...either get it filed before she leaves or wait for her to file in 6 months where she and the kids end up...or file right now himself...


    If custody has been set then everyone has to follow what is in the order...


    Good luck
    Hell noooooooooo!!!! these women think they can just do whatever they want just because they are the mother and they have the right to do whatever. You have rights and she can't just take them away from you. Go to court right away and request a hearing.
    No. My sister's roomate's ex wanted to move out of state with their kids, he said no and the judge backed him up.
    Yes he/she has the right to them just like you do!

    What happens to a petition by a sibling and their spouse when the sibling dies?

    My aunt sponsored my father and mother to come to the US. My father was my aunt's brother but he has passed away. What happens to the petition for my mother? Does my aunt's original petition still allow for my mother to be sponsored?What happens to a petition by a sibling and their spouse when the sibling dies?
    No, unfortunately, when your father passed away, since he was the principle beneficiary of the petition, the petition becomes invalid. There is no way for your aunt to directly sponsor you and your mother under US immigration law.What happens to a petition by a sibling and their spouse when the sibling dies?
    From what I know, when the person being sponsored dies, the petition becomes invalid. Your dad is the principal being sponsored. You and your mom are derivatives of that petition. Since either you or your mom are not related by blood to your aunt, the petiton becomes void.**
    No it's thrown out. She'd have to start from the beginning.
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  • What are the legalities involved to evict a recently divorced spouse?

    Home is legally deeded to one spouse,the other makes no contribution and the couple are now legally divorced.What are the legalities involved to evict a recently divorced spouse?
    Yes.


    You need to issue the offending spouse with a ';notice to vacate'; which will usually give them 30 days notice that they have to leave the premises, and take their stuff with them.


    Or you can tell them to leave 3 times (in front of an independent witness), and then call the police and have them arrested for trespass - but that might be hard to prove if their name appears on any bills at that residence, because that makes it their residence too.


    If the divorce decree says that one party has sole occupancy of the home, as from a certain date, you can have them removed on that date, and have their stuff removed from the home. But again be careful if they claim that you damaged their stuff in the move they might just sue you. What are the legalities involved to evict a recently divorced spouse?
    well first off i think it's interesting that tiare assumed it was the woman who is not contributing - what's that all about tiare? are you also a non-contributing woman?





    anyway the person whose name is on the deed owns the house if that is how the divorce decree says it is. what does being a non-contributor have to do with it? no title - no house. even if you paid cash for the house you're hosed.





    if you are divorced, change the locks.
    That is a touchy situation, but I think you would have to involve the police. have copies of the divorce decree in hand which awards the home to you alone. does not matter whether or not she contributes, what matters is whose home it is.
    whichever name is on the deed to the house, unless it's involved in the divorce settlement if there is one, has all the say so. if the other won't leave, call the cops and have them removed.
    Once there is a divorce decree without any flaws, then the property belongs to the individual that signs the deed. It really depends on what';s in the divorce decree.

    What are the benefits for newly marrid couples with their spouse in the air force?

    My husband and I just got married but he had to return to a new base for now and I will be moving soon. I was just wondering what kind of benefits come from being married to someone in the military. I just thought I'd like to hear it from someone who has experienced it. Thanks!What are the benefits for newly marrid couples with their spouse in the air force?
    your husband should know..but you get your medical covered if you carry your id card to an extent if you choose to go to someone who doesnt take tricare then its on you..he pays your dental its an alright dental insurance...and his paycheck on the first and 15th as with any other job thats pretty much all you get...oh and expect to spend alot of time alone..when he gets deployed or has to go somewhere other than the base he is stationed at for temporary duty and no you cant go with him..i hope you have a back bone and are the type of person that can cope without him being there every waking second of the day...sounds harsh..but its reality to most..my husband is active duty in the air force and has been over 19 years








    the surcharge at the commissary is 5 percent check your receipt..its for building new commissaries and upkeep on equipment and shopping carts..i listened to this commercial repeatedly while we were stationed in japan...and they commissary is not always cheaper..but is on a good many things...the bx is actually kinda expensive...tax or no taxWhat are the benefits for newly marrid couples with their spouse in the air force?
    When you arrive at the base, check with Family Services to find out when the Spouse 101 class is offered. That is something that you should take so you are aware of everything you are eligible for, what you can do, etc... They usually offer classes on budgeting, buying a vehicle, etc.. as well. These classes are all free of charge. You can also find out if there is a Enlisted or Officer's Wives/Spouse Club on the base too. That might help as well.





    You will be eligible for Tricare (medical) as soon as your information is entered into the DEERS system. This means that at first you have a yearly deductible and co-pay. Once you have your military ID card you can change to Tricare Prime in which there is no deductible or co-pay. You can be seen on base hospital/clinic by the medical staff. There is also a pharmacy in which you get free prescriptions. There is also United Concordia which is dental. For 1 person this is $12 per month and you are provided with 2 free cleanings, 1 free x-ray and then discounts on work. That is something you must sign up and find on your own when it comes to dentists. You will qualify for military housing or get an allowance (BAH) to live out in town. You can use the base facilities from teh commissary (grocery store) to the exchange (department store), gym, bowling alley, pool, theater, etc...
    There are some programs that help the spouse go to school... If u have children they have day cares.. Play groups.. there are gyms on the base.... There are also base groups online u can join to meet other spouses and be able to have get togethers.... You can also in some cases get a one time refrence for a job on base from your husband not sure how that all works though... You will just have to contact the family readiness group on that base they can tell u more!!! You also get housing if u r on base... And his pay goes up for being married... And you will have your health insurance... If anything else let me know!!!
    You get free medical care for yourself and kids. Reasonably priced dental insurance. A lot of other young wives to make friends with. Shopping in the commissary to save about 25% on groceries. They charge wholesale price for items and then 4% is added to the total check for overhead. Plus no sales tax. So the paycheck goes a little farther. Please don't sit in the house all day watching TV while your husband is at work. Get out and meet people.
    Yous husband can tell you.
    search the internet

    When a person remarries is it typical for the ex spouse to remain benificiary on everything?

    Married for two years-husband's ex and their 13 year old daughter are his benificiaries on everything, and they are covered under his health coverage etc while I'm none of the above. He filed joint taxes with his ex-he makes all of these decisions on his own. He lists ex as current wife on some things where lower rates apply, or she will benefit-is this typical?When a person remarries is it typical for the ex spouse to remain benificiary on everything?
    The child should remain covered because he will always have an obligation to her. But, as for the ex-spose, I think that's VERY abnormal, and I think you need to seek some proffessional advise about approaching him about it. No normal person would want to take care of their ex when they're remarried. You need to get some help with this because he's obviously conned you into thinking it's okay for 2 years now. THIS IS WRONG ON EVERY LEVEL!!When a person remarries is it typical for the ex spouse to remain benificiary on everything?
    Life insurance policies usually have a clause in the contract that terminates a spouse as a beneficiary when the divorce is finalized unless there is specific wording in the decree that proves otherwise. If the child is your husbands, it is normal for the child to be a beneficiary and a dependant under the health insurance policy. As far as the health insurance for the ex, this is fraud. Insurance companies do not extend health insurance coverage to people outside of the family unless they live in the same house. If this were the case entire cities could form a union and get one huge policy. This is hypothetical, but I am just making a point. In addition, most (insurance) companies do not allow an ex spouse to remain a beneficiary on life insurance due to a vast increase in ';moral hazard.';
    No, none of this is typical; to have an ex spouse remain as benificiary is silly, you are married to him now and if he should die you are out in the cold. What happens if you get sick and need medical coverage? It is typical to leave a child as partial benificiary and to continue with health coverage for said child but not the ex. You should be listed as other benificiary and have health coverage. He should be filing joint taxes with you not his ex. You should really talk to him about this and discuss his reasons for doing things this way. Why does he want to make sure she benifits and not you two as a couple. I do understand he wants to take care of his daughter, but he should also want whats best for his wife.
    no, to keep a child as beneficiary with the other parent in control until old enough to make decisions is normal. However, if the judge in the divorce put it in the papers, then yeah. But none of this should stop you from being on them as well.
    No it's not typical. Sounds like a marital problem. Good luck,since he is continuing to be deceitful about who is spouse I would be concerned about my place in his life.
    uh sounds weird to me. I would not stand for that one bit

    How many people know someone who has remarried an ex spouse?

    I have a friend who is planning to remarry her ex husband. Reconciliation has been made and things are better than they ever were before. I was curious as to how many people have done this?How many people know someone who has remarried an ex spouse?
    I knew a couple who married and divorced 2 times and then remarried a 3rd time, he passed away before they could divorce that last time.


    I am going to a wedding in 3 weeks for a couple who are getting married for the 2nd time, the funny thing, they were only divorced 2 months!How many people know someone who has remarried an ex spouse?
    My husband has a cousin who married this man and had 2 kids with him, then divorced him due to his drug problems. They remarried, had another kid and then a few years go by and they divorce a second time.
    A friend told me her parents did that, but I never met them. From what she said, they got divorced, then got remarried and hated it when anybody ever mentioned that they had been divorced.
    Growing up my best friend's parents divorced and then remarried.
    my best freinds parents :):)


    they remarried 4 times...i think
    I haven't heard of anyone, except for on t.v. I guess if they have worked out all their issues, it's all good.
    my mom and dad

    Who gets credit for child in home when filing injured spouse?

    I am the injured spouse, and we have 1 child together. I filled the form and I was wondering who the $1000 credit for the child that we have together in our home goes to.





    Do they give part to my husband to be applied to back debts, or do I get the child credit along with my own?





    Thanks!Who gets credit for child in home when filing injured spouse?
    It depends on how you filled out the injured spouse form. When you fill out the form, you allocate children and other credits and deductions to one spouse or the other. If the child is assigned to you then you will get the child tax credit. If the child is assigned to your husband then it goes to pay back his offset.





    For the injured spouse form to be beneficial, you should always assign as many good things (like children) to the injured spouse as possible. Children can always be assigned to the injured spouse even if the child was not your biologically, since the child became yours as soon as you married its father.Who gets credit for child in home when filing injured spouse?
    Line 10. Allocate the exemptions claimed on the joint return


    to the spouse who would have claimed them if separate


    returns had been filed. Enter whole numbers only. For


    example, you cannot allocate 3 exemptions by giving 1.5


    exemptions to each spouse.





    Line 11. Allocate any child tax credit, child and dependent


    care credit, and additional child tax credit to the spouse who


    was allocated the qualifying child鈥檚 exemption. Do not include


    any earned income credit here; the IRS will allocate it based


    on each spouse鈥檚 income.

    Can the IRS hold a husband liable if his alien spouse wins the lottery in her foreign country?

    Filipino spouse of American citizen retired and living in the Philippines wins lottery. Can the IRS assume the husband is liable for taxes on at least half of the winnings? What if the Filipino refuses to pay?Can the IRS hold a husband liable if his alien spouse wins the lottery in her foreign country?
    As long as the American citizen files a separate tax return, he has no U.S. tax liability.Can the IRS hold a husband liable if his alien spouse wins the lottery in her foreign country?
    Yes he has to report income since he is assumed to own 50% of the lottery proceeds. You need to consult with a Tax attorney as there are legal considerations to be made since the Phillippines are a protectorate of the US.





    I don't know if you have to report 50% or 100% on a joint return. Would require a lot of research.
    Did you win the UK lottery? Me too!
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  • What are the requirements to go overseas with your military spouse?

    It depends on the branch. For the Marines %26amp; Navy the AD member must be E4 or higher to get accompanied orders. Large families (meaning above 3 dependents) will require an approved waiver as well. For Army %26amp; AF they do not require that at all.





    All require a EFMP (medical) and dental screening. Command has to give approval and sponsorship given to the family. Then if a foreign country a No Fee Government Issued Passport to be applied for all and given to them. They should also get a regular Tourist Passport. The branch may require the AD member to get there and acquire housing first before they will allow the family to join them.What are the requirements to go overseas with your military spouse?
    The main thing to have is your passport along with your own medical clearance. Your wife will be briefed about everything and there will be a checklist for the doctors to complete. If you have any pets, make sure they are up to date on their shots and you book a ticket for them, the ticket is tax deductible due to the military move. Check with the US State Dept. website about pets allowed and not allowed in certain places.


    Also, if you are not exactly ready to follow your wife, she can request a deferment, which is 30 days I think, which will give you enough time to settle all affairs and then the military will send you over with her.What are the requirements to go overseas with your military spouse?
    You mean to an overseas post, or a deployment? Korea, Iraq, Afghanistan, Africa, etc are all off-limits for family members because they are considered deployments. Italy, Germany, England, Japan etc allow spouses to relocate with their service members because they are simply stations outside of the US.
    As everyone else said; as long as it is a Permanent Change of Station (A PCS) that allows dependents to accompany, then you and your family may go. Her orders she received should state if dependents are allowed to come.





    Documentation needed:


    - A valid passport


    - Proof of all Vaccinations (If for whatever reason you never got them, you have to have them, as do your children)
    To be married.





    If it's a deployment (to the middle east) you can't go, period.
    as long its a non-deployement you should be okay


    meaning something like being stationed in japan

    Can a person in a de facto relationship get a spouse visa in Singapore?

    In Australia I got a spouse visa as I have been in a relationship long term. In Singapore the spouse visa mentions you need a marriage certificate. Do they accept other legal documents to show you're in a long term relationship but not married?Can a person in a de facto relationship get a spouse visa in Singapore?
    No , a legal and binding marriage certificate is required in Singapore since you need a fiancee petition before you could marry which will be processed in your country of origin;s Singapore Embassy . This will entail all the legal procedures and verification before you are allowed to marry a Singaporean Citizen .When you have obtained the fiancee visa then you could marry and then thats the only time you could be petitioned for spousal visa.





    Sorry Girl , Singapore is not Australia , where they recognize gay marriage and others.

    How long for k-3 visa for a foreign spouse to immigrate to US?

    The website for US immigrations is purposely vague, and immigrations attorneys don't even want to guesstimate without a hefty retainer. Anybody have experience with this? My fiance lives in France and we plan to marry there after my divorce is final. Also, if anyone knows the approximate $ figure for the k-3 visa and his green card, that would be helpful as we have to plan for it financially. Thanks!How long for k-3 visa for a foreign spouse to immigrate to US?
    First off the K-3 is virtually obsolete


    Use the CR1


    Follow the flowcharts here





    http://familybasedimmigration.com/forum/鈥?/a>





    Overall say about $1500 without a lawyerHow long for k-3 visa for a foreign spouse to immigrate to US?
    DO NOT USE K-3!!!! If you marry your fiance in France, or wherever you marry her....DO NOT USE K-3 to bring her over. Use I-130. It is faster. In fact, nobody uses k-3 anymore. It should cost, all in all, less than $2000, and should take up to 1 year after you submit the 1st petition. If you live inthe USA, please see a responsible lawyer about this. If you live in the Washington DC area, I strongly recommend Luis Paoli or Orlando Gamarra. You probably won't get charged more than $150 for consultation, but it's worthwhile. Or, visit the below website for a list of recommended attorneys in your area.
    Hi Kate





    The other 2 answers you got are rubbish. The CR1 is a Conditional Resident so if you enter the U.S. on CR1 it has a 2 year expiration date before you can apply for an adjustment of status and Permanent Resident. Being it will take 12 to 14 months for the K3 Visa you can apply for the PRC 90 days before your 2 year anniversary date. Then you will have a 10 year PRC and not a 2 year Conditional. Less Time, less money.





    The I-130 you will file in addition to the I-129f and after that is approved it will be forward to France for review. Your Fiance will get 2 letter from the US Consulate the second will be an interview date for the K3 visa. I work with people that marry in China. The wait time for an interview after you file with USCIS is about 10 to 12 months. The cost for my people is about $2200 over that 14 month time frame. I have a free series for my subscriber an last about 28 days. You are welcome to to subscribe at my website. The see the source below. Good Luck to you and your fiance.

    What would you do if you found out your spouse was having an affair?

    Serious answers only. Would you just up and file for divorce? Try to get to the root of the problem and try to work things out? Would it be easy for you to leave the one you love? What would your honest reaction be to the situation?What would you do if you found out your spouse was having an affair?
    Well, If I was married, (I'm not) and my wife cheated on me that would be the end of it. It would be hard. It would be SO hard. You see, i'm not the kind of guy that looks at marriage as a convenience, a solution to loneliness. When I marry, I will love my wife so much... our life would never be drab or boring. I would make sure that she knew everyday how much I love her.





    If she under any circumstance, trashed our relationship and cheated... it would be over. I think when someone gets to the point where they cheat on you, love is gone. The only reason they may say that they are sorry is because they don't want to loose that security. Whether it is financial, social, or emotional security... they don't want to loose it. They say they are so ashamed, they'll never do it again! Why did they do it in the first place?? Because love is gone. Respect is a joke. Trust is dead. Before someone cheats, they have a desire to cheat. When someone other than your spouse is sexy to you---- you have a problem. it's not up to the innocent spouse to try and understand it, it is up to the guilty spouse to explain to themselves and their spouse why things are going bad. But remember, no matter how bad a marriage gets cheating is a sin. The cheater is the guilty party. There is no excuse!





    You asked four questions





    Would you just up and file for divorce? Yes, for reasons stated up above, I would feel trust is dead. Will it happen again, When will it happen again. Can I ever trust her again. How much must she not love, respect or care about me to have done that. I don't think it would be healthy to stay together.





    Try to get to the root of the problem and try to work things out? The problem is not anything between us it in the cheating spouse. If they feel the marriage is falling a part the solution is not to cheat. The solution is to confront your spouse, seek marriage councling, try and fix things. Or just get a divorce. Honestly no one cheats because a marriage is falling apart. They cheat because it has fallen apart and they choose that sleezy path!





    Would it be easy for you to leave the one you love? God no! As I said I'm not married. But I could imagine how much I would love my wife if I ever get married. I would think back on all of the special times in my life.... every one of them would become painful, thinking of where things have gotten to. I would think of all the things I wanted to do with her, and for her. Any love song would be a dagger in my heart. Every sad song would be my shadow. I would be a mess and not really suitable for company.





    What would your honest reaction be to the situation?


    I don't think I could hate her. I would probably still love her. Love is not a faucet that you just turn off and on! If it's real it will take a long time to heal your heart. I would try and handle things calmly, but there would be a tornado of emotions storming in my heart. I would feel like diing. I would want the divorce to be fair. In fact, I would want to be generous with things. I don't think I would ask ';why.'; I think it would be obvious that she doesn't love me anymore, and I wouldn't want to put her in the situation of telling me a lie. I wouldn't feel guilty... there is nothing I could have done to drive her into someone elses bed.





    I think if I ever get married, I can totally trust my wife. We would have the same definition of what love really is!!





    Hope this helps. feel free to contact me for any follow ups!What would you do if you found out your spouse was having an affair?
    It would be heartbreaking to find out and difficult to leave him but Your self respect demands it.A woman who puts up with a cheating snake is allowing him to torment her soul.It would be better for her to take the responsibilty to stand up and say.No;I don't deserve this disrespect;I do deserve to be Loved and you will not have another woman on the side.I would kick his sorry tail out;and file for a divorce and be very serious about it;or sell my stuff and leave and start over again.It would be difficult but I got myself a counsoler to help me get through my divorce and have become a much stronger person for it....
    Well if I had been asked this question 2 days ago, i would say that automatic divorce would be the answer.But last night I found out that he slept with another woman last year.I am going crazy! He sincerely regrets it and we also have 2 small children so i have to be honest. I don't love him anymore, because after the words came out of his mouth i lost everything i ever had for him.but now...I told him that i would stay with him and see if i MIGHT have it in me to somehow get past it and learn to forgive him...but i don't see i happening.
    It's not easy to leave the one you love. I'm not sure what my reaction would be but I'd probably confront the man she was having an affair with and convince him it wasn't in the interest of maintaining his health to mess with my wife. No I wouldn't just up and file for a divorce but I'd talk it over with her. An affair sounds more like a love affair more than it does a sexual encounter or affair and I think a love affair would be much worst to handle.
    I guess no-one really knows what they would do unless or until they are actually in that situation. I have thought about it though, and I honestly don't think I'd be angry. I'd be way past angry into that more calculating zone of cool indifference. I suspect a sort of cold determination would set over me. I wouldn't want him anymore, ever, and yes we would certainly separate immediately and divorce as quickly as practicable. I just wouldn't have any desire to ';work things out'; if it had come to the ultimate betrayal. I would take the kids and go. I would maintain a civil relationship with him for the sake of the children, but I would never reconcile with him. Our marriage would be over, forever. He knows that though, so if he ever does have an affair, he knows what the consequences will be. And he feels exactly the same way. I know if I would ever cheat and I got caught, I'd be out, no turning back. I would lose him forever. It's a sobering thought.
    If my husband were cheating on me, I would first want to know why he did it...like was he getting something from her that I wasn't doing for him?


    Then I would want him to choose, and if he choose me then we could work it out, but If I in anyway thought he was going to keep going back to her, i would get a divorce..A marriage could only work if both people are giving it their all and If one person isn't working as hard as the other and is going outside the relationship then it isn't worth it.





    But if you can't find it in your heart to forgvie and forget then you need to leave him even if he wants to work it out. If you say you forgive him, then you have to stop talking about it and using it against him in fights or whatever.. don't say that you will forgive him and then keep bringing it up.
    I would be shocked but my first reaction would really depend on HOW I found out. If I find out by snooping I would be so angry that I wouldn't even consider trying to work it out because who knows how long it's been going or would continue to go. If it was a one time thing and he told me right away then honestly I don't know what I'd do. I already have trust issues and would want to believe it would be a one time thing but I don't think it would be so I'm sure I'd leave if I didn't things would def. spiral down hill from that point anyways and I'd drive him farther away for sure.
    Its the worst feeling ever. I cheated on my wife because there were rumors of her having an affair with numerous men. My wife was so hurt so she went out and cheated with one of my friends and it hurt me worst. We are still together 2 years later and the marriage is never the same but we have tried to work it out. Its hard looking at the guy that was my friend knowing that he knows how my wife looks naked and how she feels and how she moans. She really got me back good and I have not cheated since.
    I honestly think that it would depend on the situation. There is always 2 sides to a story and I would want to know his. But depending on the situation and only cause we have kids I would give him a chance to change and earn back the trust. Some of the happiest peopl are people who have survived infedelity. It has made people understand and appretiate eachother more and brought them together. THere is always a positive side to things and I think people need to think more positive.
    I think I would want to understand what the situation was first. Did it happen once, or did it happen many times? If it happened once, you may be able to forgive and forget (after long hard work, and couples counseling)...and if it happened over an extensive period of time or more than once, I'd say the relationship is probably over at least from a trust standpoint...and without the trust you cannot continue a relationship.
    well the first time he cheated...i was forgiving...i blamed myself and thought i wasn't doing enough or being what he needed. the next time i hated him and blamed him and said i was leaving. he fought hard to keep me and said he'd get counseling and make things better and never hurt me again. i believed him. i didn't want to leave the person i have loved for so long and gave my life to. the third time i realized i didn't love him anymore because he didn't love me enough to not hurt me on purpose. is it easy to leave? no...it never is. in the long run is it the best thing you can do for yourself....yes.
    when my ex husband cheated and left me for the other woman my first reaction was to try to reconcile to get to the problem and work it out, after all when u invest 10 yrs in someone and u have a home and your older the last thing u want is to be divorced and alone. but due to how he chose to deal with it, telling me to find someone new that he wanted to pursue this and he would let me know later i just decided he had already chosen her over me and it was best to get a divorce. had he been remorseful, had he agreed to come home and try i probably would have accepted him back. but looking back now the best thing u can do when a spouse is unfaithful is to divorce them because its something u never get over.
    Ask him why? Are you in LOVE with me? Do you want to leave or stay? Ask would he like to go to counseling. I would not hold anybody if they were not happy with me. I would let them go no matter how bad its hurts. I would feel he lost a good thing. One mans lost is another mans treasurer. Good Luck :-)
    follow ur heart, some people would just leave, but my hubby of 13 years cheated, got a chic pregnant, wants to leave cause he thinks i wont truly forgive him, but i still love him and wanna make it work, why? cause my heart is not done with this love yet, so follow ur heart dear. and it helps to seek JESUS, he is what is helping me through.
    give him what he's having the affair to get... if he's wanting a certain sex act and you won't give it up if you want to keep him give it up!





    it's amazing the number of marriages that break up over a what amounts to a BJ a week.
    It depends on what you really want. Stop, and breathe before you make any irrational decisions. Anything can be repaired with time. If it was me, honestly I would be upset at first, but I would look at the bigger picture and see what was really important to me.
    Try to get to the root of the problem and try to work things out, if that didnt work, i would file for divorce.
    I would kick him to the curb! Then I would slowly die from the loss, hurt, and betrayal. It would kill me to lose my husband, but I will NOT be cheated on ever again! Been there and done that, too many times. Never, ever again!
    Depends on all the circumstances surrounding it but if it was his first time, I would attempt marriage counseling to get to the root of the problem. Best of luck!
    the only 2 things that would cause me to divorce my husband is 1) if he cheats and 2) he starts abusing me or the kids








    so ys i would file for divorce the sec i found out
    We would be in counseling before the sun set today to get to the root of the problem. I've always told my husband he gets one oopsie.
    i would let her know she don't have to cheat she can just leave. I wouldn't jump to divorce i want her to decide who she wants.
    if u habe kids dont itll be hard on them and try to seee IF hes cheating if he his devorce if u have kids dont aand work it out
    Walk out to the Lawyers office and get the divorce I informed I would if she cheated again!
    I really don't think that anyone knows what they would do unless it has happened to them.
    I would leave him because i would not be able to get rid of the fact that he cheated... and if he had really loved u he would of not done that.
    divorce. 'nuff said

    What is the maximum policy amount a spouse can take out without that spouses signature?

    Can a spouse have a policy for another spouse in excess of 50,000 without that spouses signature?What is the maximum policy amount a spouse can take out without that spouses signature?
    Might be able to as part of a employment package spousal coverage.





    Otherwise, it's going to require a signature

    What things do you occasionally do to make your spouse happy?

    And what does he occasionally do for you to make you happy?





    I'm not talking about a *1* time thing, something you do over and over just not all the time.What things do you occasionally do to make your spouse happy?
    Dont nag.


    Be excited to see him when he walks in the door.


    Suprise him with unexpected action ;]


    Tell him you love him


    rub his back


    when its crazy and chaotic just hug him and give him a kiss


    remind him that you are thankful for all he does


    remind him that you are grateful to have him in your life


    tell him you are happy.What things do you occasionally do to make your spouse happy?
    Me and my boyfriend have text sex when we are bored and need a daily dose of excitment

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    I will sit beside him on the couch and watch a movie or two with him. It only happens about twice a week because I hate sitting and watching tv or movies. Yesterday I sat with him while he watched the Pro Bowl, and although I like football I just read a book and he was still happy just because I sat with him and not clear across the room at the computer desk.
    -bake his favorite cookies from scratch


    -slip love notes in his lunch for work


    -suprise him at work on his lunch break


    -let him have the tv remote


    -rub his back before bedtime





    -he writes me notes to find when I wake up


    -he comes home on his lunch break to suprise me


    -he walks the dog at 6am so that I can sleep in on the weekends
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  • Does a military spouse have to pay out of state tuition fees?

    I'm a resident from Florida, while my husband is deployed, meanwhile I'm planning to go to Texas and go to college. Is there a way I could not pay out of state tuition fees? I know about that u have to live in the area for about one year, but is there a chance i could waive that somehow.Does a military spouse have to pay out of state tuition fees?
    Of course they have to since your spouse is in the militaryDoes a military spouse have to pay out of state tuition fees?
    they are working on letting all military pay in state tuition for what ever state they are living in but I don't think it is passed yet. Look into the new GI bill and you might not have to pay anything depending on how long your husband has been in.

    Is a joint spouse assignment hard to get in the Air force?

    Seriously, I want to join for 4 years, and my husband is already in. Some people tell me to say goodbye to him for 4 years, and some of them say that it's no problem.Is a joint spouse assignment hard to get in the Air force?
    Air force usually station them together, about 85% of the timeIs a joint spouse assignment hard to get in the Air force?
    It is dependent on your MOS and Where you are wanting to go. Also take into consideration your different ranks, there is higher demand for different MOS's and ranks at different locations.


    It will not be easy, although not impossible and ';no problem'; is something I would bank on.


    You failed to mention children, current or future. Dual Active Duty with children offers it own set of challenges and hurdles.
    I was in the service U.S.M.C but they went overboard to keep you together,Back then they called it family service's.But in today's world you would spend no longer than 1 year apart.and with your leave time you can cut that in half,although for a couple week's of make up love. Good Luck and happy to see you wanting to serve.God Bless America!

    What is something special that you did for your spouse on your wedding anniversary?

    My wedding anniversary is coming up and I was trying to come up with some ideas as to what I could do to make that day even more special. So, if you would like to share your stories or have any good dieas of your own, feel free! Thank-you %26amp; god bless!What is something special that you did for your spouse on your wedding anniversary?
    A hot air balloon ride is amazing and unique. My boyfriend did this for me as a surprise and it completely took my breath away. I never would have thought of it. Google it in your area, but it's expensive, so search before committing to the first service you see!What is something special that you did for your spouse on your wedding anniversary?
    My husband made me a scrapbook. I was totaly blow away he used the little stickers and everything for scrapbooking, put in pictures of us throughout the years and at the end of it wrote me a note telling me he loved me ect.





    It was by far the best gift I have ever got.
    My anniversary was last Friday.


    We both had to work but I started her day off with a gift bag.


    Then, I had roses delivered to her office.


    Finally, I arranged for a sitter for the kids and took her out to dinner.


    She really seemed to appreciate how the day went.
    Cooked a really nice meal, opened a bottle of wine, lit some candles, and put on some smoky/jazzy music. I'm a hopeless romantic.
    I went out shopping to buy a toilet seat for my bathroom he finished for me in our house.

    What if your spouse is deployed and he starts to treat you meanly for no reason?

    So, If he gets deployed and wants you to move into housing and you leave a really good job to move on base with him and once you move you are unemployed then he go to Iraq and starts treating you like crap and starts arguments with you then hang up in your face and don't call email nothing to you for like two months don't even ask how his child is doing.... what could cause this? Why is he being this way?What if your spouse is deployed and he starts to treat you meanly for no reason?
    He acts like that because he is a jerk, always was and always will and don't let this army, Irak business give you an excuse for his attitude. There is no reason why he does not even care about his own child, if he has psychological issues, then he should bang his head against the wall or maybe pull out his teeth but how convenient to just be rude to you and not care about his child. I would serve him with divorce papers before he changes to next channel.What if your spouse is deployed and he starts to treat you meanly for no reason?
    He is scared that you are going to leave him. When you are deployed, most of the men get ';dear john'; letters and it scares the s*** out of people. In all of the MP's only 2 of us didn't get one of those letters. And when you are surrounded by it everyday, your imagination runs wild.





    Just write him and tell him that you know he is scared, but you are there for him and love him. He needs it right now, you know, that reassurance.





    EDIT: I'm just telling you this from a man who has been deployed before, I'm not in your shoes and him not checking on his kid is 100% wrong wrong wrong. But sometimes, you have to be the bigger person and say sorry because if something happens to him out there, you will never forgive yourself for not speaking up and apologizing. Every day is precious, remember that.





    EDIT AGAIN: Has he been checked for PTSD? He most likely has it and has had it for along time if it is his 4th.....
    my husband did that and he was planning to marry another woman when he got home. i am on my way back over there for my 3rd time and have never been in a relationship while gone so idk what's going on with him. but i like to talk to people at home when deployed. especially people i love. i check on my kids ALL the time. even if i don't like the people they are with (my in laws). be patient with him on this one. if he's doing something it wont be secret for long.
    It takes two....who starts the arguments?


    But, it could also be control, with him not being there, he tries to control and manipulate.....


    I guess yes, we have to understand he could be frustrated and in horrible circumstances which we cannot comprehend, apart from the documentaries we get to see.
    My husband just got back from Iraq. For some people it is normal. A lot of people that go over there change because of what they are going through. They have to worry about if they are going to die that day. He is probably just taking it out on you and can't really concentrate on what's going on at home when he is constantly scared for his life.
    Gee...and everyone thinks being married to a military man is so romantic.





    This is entirely too complicated to even get into with you. Sorry you have to flounder but this is a typical marriage problem, military or not that the two of you have to address and work out. Like adults....if you can fathom that.
    Have you asked him? Deployment is not the ideal situation for married people. He could be under a great deal of stress, and if you are dumping on him AT ALL, it may be too much.





    You can get help on base. I suggest you seek it out. They may be able to help you cope.
    one of the main reasons why a man changes and begins to disrespect and fault fine and argue is that he is cheating on u, and doesn't value or respect or love u like he use to. its hard to take but when it happened in my marriage it was due to betrayal.
    because before you were independent and he needed you... but now that you are fully dependent of him he knows he can treat you like crap and you have no where to go!!!
    maybe it's because he's in IRAQ.





    you might want to give the guy a break.
    hes going through things well never know just stick it out but let him know its hurting your feeling

    Why would a spouse need to provide sensitive information on a small business loan?

    Why would a spouse need to provide sensitive information (banking statements / paycheck stubs ) if only one person would be on the loan?





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    Please be thoroughWhy would a spouse need to provide sensitive information on a small business loan?
    What would keep you from giving your spouse the big paycheck, moving assets, etc, and then later on filing business bankruptcy? Most likely both will have to sign the loan. Another would be so that they can see whether your family income is adequate for the bills, whether you both have good credit, etc.

    Can spouse claim entire rental income on a joint property?

    My wife and I jointly own a flat, my name being first. We also have a joint home loan. However, I am paying the entire loan and also claiming income tax rebate on the principal and interest portions. We are now planning to give the flat on rent. I wanted to know if its possible for the agreement to be made only in her name and the tenant makes the rental payment only in her name. My wife doesnt have any other income and this way the tax slab would be lower when compared to my income. Is this legally correct and valid?





    Can spouse claim entire rental income on a joint property?
    no you have to make it in the ratio of ownership








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    You can certainly have the lease in your wife's name and make it her income. The problem will come if you file jointly--then it's your income, too. If you file separately, she'll need to show the expenses of the property, too. So, if expenses exceed income and that's her only income, they'll question how she got the money.
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  • Why does my spouse worry about things she will not change?

    For example, she worries about getting diabetes to the point of being OCD sometimes, but won't jump on the exercise bike, eat well (and stop hoarding and closet-eating candy), or change her lifestyle at all.





    It's as if she believes one can't change her own fate.





    Have you ever experienced this?Why does my spouse worry about things she will not change?
    I used to be a borderline hypochondriac. I would worry about every little thing wrong with me, that it was a symptom of a serious illness, or if I read or heard about some disease, I'd worry about contracting it. I've lost two people very close to me, and I don't know whether that has anything to do with it or not, but I quit worrying about stuff like that. I try to take care of myself and lead as good a life as I can. If your wife is worried about getting diabetes, I suspect it's something she is turning over in her mind, about wanting to change her lifestyle to a healthier one. For whatever reason, she just isn't quite ready yet. This is something that no one else can decide for you. When she decides, she will do something.


    I doubt her inaction is strictly from a belief that no one can change their own fate. I think she may be using food as a way of coping with or avoiding something she doesn't want to confront in her life. The inactive lifestyle goes along with that because she doesn't really want to change right now. I wish her well!Why does my spouse worry about things she will not change?
    No. I can definitely be a worrier, but when it comes to a worry that I can prevent, I have always done what is necessary.





    Sometimes, for some people, at least in my opinion, worrying becomes something that takes over--almost pathological. Tolle talks about this in a New Earth. From what I have seen, it is often about health related situations, and often accompanies an overall 'victim' mentality. For example, the people I know of who do this are ALWAYS talking like this: 'and then she said this to me, and can you believe she would say that to me.' *oh poor me, woe is me. I'm such a victim.*





    It may not be true of your wife, (hope it's not!) but that's what I have seen from those I know. It sucks. These people are my least favorite and drain my energy consistently.
    Women are classic worriers, regardless.





    As far as worrying but refusing to change a habit, maybe she needs your help.





    Next time she picks up that bag of candy, fall out and start writhing in agony on the floor. Tell her that's what will happen to her if she eats it. At least you will momentarily distract her.





    As far as the bike, ask her to go to the gym with you. She might say ';Do you think I'm fat?'; To which you could reply ';Hell yes woman now lets go!'; or ';No honey, I just want you to be healthy because I love you.'; The choice is yours.





    As far as eating well, that's a hard habit to change. Try cooking healthy things, and refusing to eat junk in front of her.





    Sometimes our spouses can motivate us in both subtle and not so subtle ways. It's up to her to change, but you can gently nudge her in the right direction.
    making lifestyle changes is very difficult for most of the women, they get glued to concepts and theories and would not change easily. Also many a times lack scientific approach. e.g. How much she reads about the latest developments in diabetes ? This is nature of a person , you cannot do anything !
    She doesn't know the Serenity Prayer?





    Perhaps we all could do better with this. At least I could... Heck, these days, everything causes cancer. My personal approach to this information was to stop reading labels. Because the number one killer (in my unprofessional opinion) is still STRESS.
    She needs you to express love and support. She needs to be reassured that you love her and find her attractive no matter her weight.
    Perhaps she is a hypochondriac.
    She sounds like a hypochondriac. Go get her seen my a licensed professional.

    What would you do if you found out your spouse committed insurance fraud for over $10K?

    The money was deposited into a joint account and was explained away as a loan. This could implicated both parties of the joint account in the theft. What would you do?What would you do if you found out your spouse committed insurance fraud for over $10K?
    I had a very similar experience with my ex-husband. He filed a claim for some stereo equipment that he claimed was ';stolen'; and it was not. I did not find out about it for some time. I immediately opened my own bank account, took my name off the joint account. My ex was finally found out, it basically ruined his army career, (he was an officer no less), ruined our marriage. He had to pay back the money along with a penalty to keep out of jail. I imagine he has a criminal record still due to the fraud. Distance yourself from this and cover you tail, if need be, report the spouse as that is a felony offense.What would you do if you found out your spouse committed insurance fraud for over $10K?
    Having a joint account with this person doesn't implicate you just because they deposited it into a joint account. If you had no knowledge of this fraud taking place beforehand, then you are innocent. If you actively took place %26amp; knew the fraud was happening, then you can be implicated as well. For now, it's completely up to you whether you want to report your spouse or confront them about this, but you will not be prosecuted if your spouse's fraud is discovered because you were not aware of it.
    Get a good criminal lawyer and separate my money from his. A.S.A.P!








    The law may not want to hear that you had no knowledge of this. When it comes time to pay they will take your money regardless of what you knew or didn鈥檛 know simply because you name is on the account.
    separate my money as quickly as possible, get an attorney and see what they say





    good luck to you
    You could get in a lot of trouble....that's a felony and mandatory jail time, call a lawyer, you're going to need one.........
    turn her in and start the divorce process. you cant stay married to someone who is lying to you.
    Hire a good lawyer.
    I would confront him but dont go running around asking questions to the wrong people. I work for an insurance company and trust me they will NAIL HIM TO THE WALL. Find out what the crap he was thinking and work through it. But no one needs to know because it will not turn out good.
    You need to turn him in to the company. Since he was the one who put the money in the joint account you will be in the clear. If you don't report him you become an accessory now that you do know about the fraud.
    get a lawyer %26amp; get my money into a separate acct.
    I would be shocked. I would have a long discussion with my spouse over what to do. I wouldn't throw him under a bus.


    He's a good man. If he wasn't then I would never have married him. In the end, we would probably contact the insurance company or consult an attorney first. Do what we need to do in order to set it right.

    What is the regulation and rules about moving my spouse to my ait location?

    I have been getting yes and no for moving my spouse. My orders said i was not athorized to move her but i have been told that I need to get my orders amended. I need to know the accepted time. I have been told 20 weeks and 21 weeks of training. I am currently undergoing 20 weeks 4 days of training so it is getting confusing. If you know the rule could you tell me and also give me the AR ###-## so I could have proof.What is the regulation and rules about moving my spouse to my ait location?
    If it goes for more than 20+ weeks then you are TECHNICALLY entitled to receive accompanied orders, and you may move your wife at the government's expense. Of course, 20+ weeks really means ';21 weeks and up'; because 20 weeks PLUS 1 to 6 days is still within the timeframe where you cannot get accompanied orders. However, such orders depend on a large extent on your commanding officer for the following reason: even with accompanied orders, a soldier may not be able to get out of post before 9 weeks. Commanding officers do not like soldiers at AIT to leave so they are tight about it. Even after 9 weeks you may not stay over at night and the timeframe for visiting is pretty limited. So, in your case, Im sure you will NOT get accompanied orders. In which case, you will have to wait until AIT is done. Then you may bring your wife at government's expense and live off post OR at post if space is available.What is the regulation and rules about moving my spouse to my ait location?
    If your wife is not on your orders, then they will not pay to move her.





    There are alot of variations that are taken into account.





    IE: If your AIT has more than one course you attend, then one of those courses must be 20 weeks.





    Plus, it depends on the service branch.





    Some services moved from the old 26 weeks to 20 weeks, but that doesn't mean they all did.
    I think it's over 22 weeks of training. But if your orders do not include your family, well, you go alone.