My spouse and I will be divorcing soon, and I want to get him a gift that will help him out when he moves out. I'm not trying to be mean, but I think a cd or game would be pointless. Any ideas?What can I buy my spouse for Christmas that will help in a divorce transition?
how about a gift card to get new pots and pans or towels and washcloths. Something to start his houseWhat can I buy my spouse for Christmas that will help in a divorce transition?
I think it's sweet you want to buy him something to help him out. I would recommend a nice Christmas card and maybe a gift card for Home Sense or Wal-Mart (you can get ANYTHING there). I wouldn't spend too too much but it's nice of you to do something like this for him. Good for you!
don't rule out the cd idea...my wife and I r pretty much going thru the same exact thing right now and she already informed me that she's getting me a cd that includes a song that we both found to be helpful/inspirational during our difficult time. and I really appreciate that she's doing that.
Dr Phil's book about Divorce %26amp; Coping, an address book with all of his family/friends details %26amp; reminders for birthday etc, and finally a letter recapping the good times and hopes for the future. Good luck in 2009!
If you still care this much for your soon to be Ex then why the divorce?
Maybe a second chance would be a great xmas gift....if there is any hope left at all of saving your marriage....you obviously still have some feelings for him.
if he doesnt have a tv to take with him, than that if u are willing to spend that much...maybe just give him a walmart gift card so he can get whatever he needs himself, because he wont know everything for sure untill hes out.
Wow! This is really a strange question. I can't imagine anything making up for a divorce. I'm sorry, but I am at a loss for suggestions.
pots, pans, plates etc
鈾?Microwave
give him a IOU or a raincheack. if you still love him give him one last night.
?
A microwave, he will be warming a lot up.
A one way but ticket.
if your husband is anything like my ex, a cook book.
dont get him anything
how about a gift card for a dating service that would help me out
blue ray dvd player
when he moves out he can watch good movies
An iron? A coffee pot? Gosh, what a weird situation....
Thursday, April 29, 2010
Why do aquarius females allow spouse/partner to cheat on them and they stay with them?
I know 3 that have cheating husbands, its obvious, they know about it, but they stay with them. Why are aquaruis so weak and dumb to allow themselves to be walked all over and cheated on? Are they that desperate for love or afraid to find new partners?Why do aquarius females allow spouse/partner to cheat on them and they stay with them?
We don't really care hahaWhy do aquarius females allow spouse/partner to cheat on them and they stay with them?
That's a good question. It's not a weakness thing. It's an overwhelming tendency to forgive and see the best in people. To Aquarians, cheating is a bad quality, but not necessarily a deal-breaker. It depends on the other aspects of the relationship.
If my guy cheated on me I would confront him but not necessarily leave him. If it was a continued thing, a constant thing, an obvious thing that made me feel the way you are describing these women (weak, dumb, walked on) I would end it. But cheating in and of itself would be forgiveable to me. Everyone approaches these situations differently.
Zindzi: I agree with everything you said except ';they're probably cheating too.'; It happens occassionally but I've never known an Aquarian woman to cheat. Once they commit they commit, it's one of our defining traits (which to OP is probably another reason they put up with it. Aquarians hate both failing and breaking commitments they've made)
Ah ok that makes sense
Wow, what a way to insult a bunch of people you don't know with a vast generalization. When I found out I was being cheated on I didn't stick around. I cut him out of my life and he was the one calling and trying to get back with me. I can be a forgiving person in a relationship but cheating and lying are where I draw the line. So as far as being dumb and weak, you got the wrong one. Don't base ALL Aquarians on the ones you happen to know. When it comes to relationships Venus signs are more important than the Sun sign anyway.
edit: After reading the answer above, you should definitely know that not all Aquarians are like the ones you described LOL
1. Aquarians never want to come off as 'possessive' so they'd usually rather just stay than to make a fuss.
2. They're probably cheating too.
3. ';Weak'; and ';Dumb'; are the last words I'd use to describe Aquarian women. They're probably doing their own thing.
EDIT: Alex G: I wasn't saying that cheating was an Aquarian trait, I just find that most of the time, people who constantly accept their cheating partners back are either too forgiving, or they're cheating also, regardless of their sign.
So, what the hell R u talkin about? U can't generalise like this.
I could not STAY with a man who cheats on ME. Iw ill dumb and never FOrGIVE him. First of ALL, I have dignity ;), and the most important thing is ME !
Well, aquariuas are not possessive and jealous , probably (your 3 friends)have cheated on their husbands too, or they just DON'T CARE (as someone told). I agree with Tiacola, maybe they have a strong WATER influence in their charts. Aquarian woman have strong personalities, I'm suprised.
What?! You got that totally twisted, yo!!
I'm not married but Ima answer your ? though. If I were married and my hus cheated on me I would most def end this sh!t that's going on! But b4 I even get married Ima know what kinda person he is cuz why would i be with someone that i have doubts about, that's just plain stupid! I don't wanna waste my time for that crap! hell naw!!!!!
I'm not desperate nor am i afraid to find new partners. and to let you know we are not weak and dumb!!!! We are extremely independent and very intellectual so.... the 3 aqua's your talking about must have some dominate water signs in their birth charts. You just can't based your opinions and thoughts just cause you know 3 aqua's who are staying with their huz who are cheating.
p.s. to make sure he don't cheat anymore ill cut his d**k off!!!!!! making sure he doesn't have no children at all heheheh ;)
We don't really care hahaWhy do aquarius females allow spouse/partner to cheat on them and they stay with them?
That's a good question. It's not a weakness thing. It's an overwhelming tendency to forgive and see the best in people. To Aquarians, cheating is a bad quality, but not necessarily a deal-breaker. It depends on the other aspects of the relationship.
If my guy cheated on me I would confront him but not necessarily leave him. If it was a continued thing, a constant thing, an obvious thing that made me feel the way you are describing these women (weak, dumb, walked on) I would end it. But cheating in and of itself would be forgiveable to me. Everyone approaches these situations differently.
Zindzi: I agree with everything you said except ';they're probably cheating too.'; It happens occassionally but I've never known an Aquarian woman to cheat. Once they commit they commit, it's one of our defining traits (which to OP is probably another reason they put up with it. Aquarians hate both failing and breaking commitments they've made)
Ah ok that makes sense
Wow, what a way to insult a bunch of people you don't know with a vast generalization. When I found out I was being cheated on I didn't stick around. I cut him out of my life and he was the one calling and trying to get back with me. I can be a forgiving person in a relationship but cheating and lying are where I draw the line. So as far as being dumb and weak, you got the wrong one. Don't base ALL Aquarians on the ones you happen to know. When it comes to relationships Venus signs are more important than the Sun sign anyway.
edit: After reading the answer above, you should definitely know that not all Aquarians are like the ones you described LOL
1. Aquarians never want to come off as 'possessive' so they'd usually rather just stay than to make a fuss.
2. They're probably cheating too.
3. ';Weak'; and ';Dumb'; are the last words I'd use to describe Aquarian women. They're probably doing their own thing.
EDIT: Alex G: I wasn't saying that cheating was an Aquarian trait, I just find that most of the time, people who constantly accept their cheating partners back are either too forgiving, or they're cheating also, regardless of their sign.
So, what the hell R u talkin about? U can't generalise like this.
I could not STAY with a man who cheats on ME. Iw ill dumb and never FOrGIVE him. First of ALL, I have dignity ;), and the most important thing is ME !
Well, aquariuas are not possessive and jealous , probably (your 3 friends)have cheated on their husbands too, or they just DON'T CARE (as someone told). I agree with Tiacola, maybe they have a strong WATER influence in their charts. Aquarian woman have strong personalities, I'm suprised.
What?! You got that totally twisted, yo!!
I'm not married but Ima answer your ? though. If I were married and my hus cheated on me I would most def end this sh!t that's going on! But b4 I even get married Ima know what kinda person he is cuz why would i be with someone that i have doubts about, that's just plain stupid! I don't wanna waste my time for that crap! hell naw!!!!!
I'm not desperate nor am i afraid to find new partners. and to let you know we are not weak and dumb!!!! We are extremely independent and very intellectual so.... the 3 aqua's your talking about must have some dominate water signs in their birth charts. You just can't based your opinions and thoughts just cause you know 3 aqua's who are staying with their huz who are cheating.
p.s. to make sure he don't cheat anymore ill cut his d**k off!!!!!! making sure he doesn't have no children at all heheheh ;)
How can you help relieve the pain and grief of losing a spouse?
How could you handle this grief, words, time,friends hugging you, a stranger grief support group? When together over 40 yrs, how can one adjust not having that person around. Is it normal to want another companion, is it disloyalty to the spouose of so many years? Does it help overcome the lonliness, or just feel guilty?How can you help relieve the pain and grief of losing a spouse?
Some funeral homes / mortuaries provide to the family the possibility of seeing a grief counselor as a part of their services.
Christian ministers are also willing to speak with you about your grief and the types of questions you ask.
I agree, the pain can be intense. Sometimes in our effort to not feel the pain we push away the very people and moments that others come to offer support or prayers. As hard as it seems at the moment, when you will allow even one or two people into your trust to simply sit nearby, it can take the edge off the loneliness of being alone in the house. Desiring a companion's presence is very normal. Marrying quickly, though, making permanent decisions during a time of intense grief may be misguided and a poor choice. Do find an old friend and appreciate each other's company as the next year passes so you can heal.How can you help relieve the pain and grief of losing a spouse?
not so simple to say!!!!!!!!!!!!!
better u search for a good frnd...............
First of all I am sorry and my prayers are with you. My Father passed away a few years ago and it was really hard on my Mother. She kept really busy..and cried quite a bit but after about a month the down episodes seemed less and less. She still has her moments but I think it is normal. Jumping into another relationship probably isn't the answer. You need to go through the grieving process. Spend time with friends and family..and talk about how you feel with your close friends...they are the best support you have at a time like this.
there is an old saying. time heals all wounds. i lost my wife almost 10 years ago. just now finally getting over the grief, denial, and guilt. each person is different, support groups help some, others it dont. you just have to find out what works for you by trying them out. gl, i feel for your loss since i have been there.
We all handle grief differently,I feel that the reason you are looking for another companion is that you want to fill an empty void,which is very normal,The thing about it is no one will ever take the place of your spouse,Jumping into a partner type relation ship will only worsen things on you,You are not being disloyal you are only going through a grief process and it will take time,My advise is to see a counselor and make some friends that can help you out,I am sorry to hear about your loss and I hope that everything works out for you,Just think of the times you had and be grateful you got to be with that person for so long,They would want you to be happy 8-)
Chin up and God Bless you!
Some funeral homes / mortuaries provide to the family the possibility of seeing a grief counselor as a part of their services.
Christian ministers are also willing to speak with you about your grief and the types of questions you ask.
I agree, the pain can be intense. Sometimes in our effort to not feel the pain we push away the very people and moments that others come to offer support or prayers. As hard as it seems at the moment, when you will allow even one or two people into your trust to simply sit nearby, it can take the edge off the loneliness of being alone in the house. Desiring a companion's presence is very normal. Marrying quickly, though, making permanent decisions during a time of intense grief may be misguided and a poor choice. Do find an old friend and appreciate each other's company as the next year passes so you can heal.How can you help relieve the pain and grief of losing a spouse?
not so simple to say!!!!!!!!!!!!!
better u search for a good frnd...............
First of all I am sorry and my prayers are with you. My Father passed away a few years ago and it was really hard on my Mother. She kept really busy..and cried quite a bit but after about a month the down episodes seemed less and less. She still has her moments but I think it is normal. Jumping into another relationship probably isn't the answer. You need to go through the grieving process. Spend time with friends and family..and talk about how you feel with your close friends...they are the best support you have at a time like this.
there is an old saying. time heals all wounds. i lost my wife almost 10 years ago. just now finally getting over the grief, denial, and guilt. each person is different, support groups help some, others it dont. you just have to find out what works for you by trying them out. gl, i feel for your loss since i have been there.
We all handle grief differently,I feel that the reason you are looking for another companion is that you want to fill an empty void,which is very normal,The thing about it is no one will ever take the place of your spouse,Jumping into a partner type relation ship will only worsen things on you,You are not being disloyal you are only going through a grief process and it will take time,My advise is to see a counselor and make some friends that can help you out,I am sorry to hear about your loss and I hope that everything works out for you,Just think of the times you had and be grateful you got to be with that person for so long,They would want you to be happy 8-)
Chin up and God Bless you!
What does the spouse get from the government if the other spouse dies in combat/service in the Canadian army?
My husband and brother are talking about going into the military and I don't think my husband should, we have three small children. So if somthing should happen to him would the Canadian government help me raise my children alone. What do military wifes do? What happens in the States?What does the spouse get from the government if the other spouse dies in combat/service in the Canadian army?
The Canadian government gives the surviving families an apologetic slap on the back and a boot in the ****. The Canadian Forces gives you two years of your spouse's income (tax free) and has your spouse sign up for SSIP (our insurance provider) to ensure that his will (also drawn up through the military, at no cost to you) and estates are taken care of, and the surviving members aren't tightly strapped for cash. It's never a replacement, but it does help with expenses. My husband has almost 20 years in the military, we have two school age children...I joined less than 3 years ago. Depending on what element your husband and brother are looking in to (land, air, sea) will depend on the amount of risk. If they sign up for the army, their chances of an overseas deployment is very, very high, especially in combat or combat support trades. You want them safe? Chair force...er, air force or navy are the best routes. Best bet is to talk to someone at your local recruiting office, or if you know someone who is enlisted (talk to the junior rates, steer clear of the officers) ask questions!What does the spouse get from the government if the other spouse dies in combat/service in the Canadian army?
In the states military wives get $250,000 (life insurance) and no funeral costs if the husband signs for a military burial.
I don't know. I know here in the states spouses get some money. Definitely, not near enough that's for sure
The Canadian government gives the surviving families an apologetic slap on the back and a boot in the ****. The Canadian Forces gives you two years of your spouse's income (tax free) and has your spouse sign up for SSIP (our insurance provider) to ensure that his will (also drawn up through the military, at no cost to you) and estates are taken care of, and the surviving members aren't tightly strapped for cash. It's never a replacement, but it does help with expenses. My husband has almost 20 years in the military, we have two school age children...I joined less than 3 years ago. Depending on what element your husband and brother are looking in to (land, air, sea) will depend on the amount of risk. If they sign up for the army, their chances of an overseas deployment is very, very high, especially in combat or combat support trades. You want them safe? Chair force...er, air force or navy are the best routes. Best bet is to talk to someone at your local recruiting office, or if you know someone who is enlisted (talk to the junior rates, steer clear of the officers) ask questions!What does the spouse get from the government if the other spouse dies in combat/service in the Canadian army?
In the states military wives get $250,000 (life insurance) and no funeral costs if the husband signs for a military burial.
I don't know. I know here in the states spouses get some money. Definitely, not near enough that's for sure
Are you dominant over your spouse?What women think about the men who have low profile personality and vice ver?
By low profile personality i mean the hush hush personality. Which means the person who is not out spoken, quiet , doesn't want confrontations. Does your husband/wife in this way? Are you controlling him/her? Are you man of the house?Are you dominant over your spouse?What women think about the men who have low profile personality and vice ver?
*Are you dominant over your spouse?
No, I respect my husband as the man and provider, and better thinker in our family. Respect being the key and very important word. I get that in return as the wife and mother of the household.
Now, that's not to say that in my emotional time (if you know what I mean) when MOST EVERY WOMAN, to some degree, are emotional, irrational, and for some, down right out of control. (alot of woman deny this fact, deny all you want looool but its true. I repeat MOST EVERY WOMAN). Any way, at that time, I can be a bit domineering and dramatic. When my husband brings it to my attention I say, ';NO, I am just trying to express myself';. And the drama goes on and on and on. looool That's woman.
*What women think about the men who have low profile personality.
Some woman like that when it suits them. I think most of us woman want a man who can take charge of the family and at the same time be sweet, soft and caring and appreciate every little thing we do. lool Some woman want that, but don't want to give that in return. That's wrong!!!
There is no perfect man or perfect woman, but you have to give respect to get respect.
I do know its a big subject and a very important one when you wanna live a peaceful loving life with the same person for a lifetime.
*Are you man of the house?
No way, and NO thank you. Wouldn't want that job. :) God bless you good men out there.Are you dominant over your spouse?What women think about the men who have low profile personality and vice ver?
don't think I am dominant over anyone even my friends. I'm just not a very dominant personality. And I don't think I'm the kind of person who could be controling either and my 2 friends just agreed with me about that. I'm also not a confrontational person and I wouldn't want any man who is confrontational either. If a man likes to keep a low profile and is not outspoken or very opinionated that is fine with me. I also don't mind people with a strong personality but I wouldn't want someone who had such a strong personality that he has to have everything his way all the time. That would mean that I could never have what I wanted unless what I wanted was the exact same thing that he wanted all the time. And people are different, there is no one that you are going to agree with 100% of the time. Marriage is about compromise. I think that a good man will not be able to say no to a good wife who treats him well all the time and vise versa. There is an old saying about be his slave and you'll be his master.
My husband is the opposite from what you call a low profile personality. With this kind of personality he wouldn't make it in his job:)).
I would be in deep trouble trying to controll my hubby. There are things only he takes care of and there also things only I take care of. He doesn't controll me either. We know and trust each other and therefore neither him nor me is man/woman of the house.
I know that it wouldn't work without him working outside the house and he knows things inside the house wouldn't work without me.
trust me now the MAIDS are the men of the house!
@thesaudidude
the truth hurts sometimes =P
Dude, don't close till i post my answer :) -later-
I'd like to take the 1st answer :D
Edit :
I'm Back ..
well, I think this issue is kinda irritating for some PPL especially in the mid. east or Arab countries -as I think-
First Of all marital life is not the life of who domnates who .. it's a shared life -%26amp; the one who think about the domination or power of the other Simply he/she is runis his/her life-
any home must be Managed by one -he MUST listen to the other-
any place in the world is run by one -president, king or Queen sometimes-
%26amp; what always ruin our homes that the parents start to sturggle about the domination ..
they keep doin' so till they end up divorced or anything worse ..
I know some powerful %26amp; wise women -they manage their husbands- the best of it that the husband admit that %26amp; the result they got good homes - those wife keep tellin' that our father is so %26amp; so - to keep the Evil's Eye out :D also if they don't want to something they say ';My husband has prohibited that'; which is not real :)
but the parents who waste their time and effort in these endless Tiffs will end to nothing but sparated and bad homes
Finally .. No man can resist his beloved wife and viceversa .. she/he can get the best out of the other by Good ways ..
Maybe i'll add more later .. i've to go now
check this link :
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
thanks to Alhamdulilah for Choosin' my answer :)
@alRobayan
thanks again .. u said before ';All men R jerks'; and now u said somthing offeseive again.
keep Generalizing Sis :)
EDIT :
wow it's a record :D 4 thumbs Down .. it's good to show ur opinion but it'd be better to discuss it further more :)
thanks anyways for Both Parties Up %26amp; Down
@Shimeringstars01
I was discussin' that issue with My Mommy minutes ago .. she mentioned that saying also :)
*Are you dominant over your spouse?
No, I respect my husband as the man and provider, and better thinker in our family. Respect being the key and very important word. I get that in return as the wife and mother of the household.
Now, that's not to say that in my emotional time (if you know what I mean) when MOST EVERY WOMAN, to some degree, are emotional, irrational, and for some, down right out of control. (alot of woman deny this fact, deny all you want looool but its true. I repeat MOST EVERY WOMAN). Any way, at that time, I can be a bit domineering and dramatic. When my husband brings it to my attention I say, ';NO, I am just trying to express myself';. And the drama goes on and on and on. looool That's woman.
*What women think about the men who have low profile personality.
Some woman like that when it suits them. I think most of us woman want a man who can take charge of the family and at the same time be sweet, soft and caring and appreciate every little thing we do. lool Some woman want that, but don't want to give that in return. That's wrong!!!
There is no perfect man or perfect woman, but you have to give respect to get respect.
I do know its a big subject and a very important one when you wanna live a peaceful loving life with the same person for a lifetime.
*Are you man of the house?
No way, and NO thank you. Wouldn't want that job. :) God bless you good men out there.Are you dominant over your spouse?What women think about the men who have low profile personality and vice ver?
don't think I am dominant over anyone even my friends. I'm just not a very dominant personality. And I don't think I'm the kind of person who could be controling either and my 2 friends just agreed with me about that. I'm also not a confrontational person and I wouldn't want any man who is confrontational either. If a man likes to keep a low profile and is not outspoken or very opinionated that is fine with me. I also don't mind people with a strong personality but I wouldn't want someone who had such a strong personality that he has to have everything his way all the time. That would mean that I could never have what I wanted unless what I wanted was the exact same thing that he wanted all the time. And people are different, there is no one that you are going to agree with 100% of the time. Marriage is about compromise. I think that a good man will not be able to say no to a good wife who treats him well all the time and vise versa. There is an old saying about be his slave and you'll be his master.
My husband is the opposite from what you call a low profile personality. With this kind of personality he wouldn't make it in his job:)).
I would be in deep trouble trying to controll my hubby. There are things only he takes care of and there also things only I take care of. He doesn't controll me either. We know and trust each other and therefore neither him nor me is man/woman of the house.
I know that it wouldn't work without him working outside the house and he knows things inside the house wouldn't work without me.
trust me now the MAIDS are the men of the house!
@thesaudidude
the truth hurts sometimes =P
Dude, don't close till i post my answer :) -later-
I'd like to take the 1st answer :D
Edit :
I'm Back ..
well, I think this issue is kinda irritating for some PPL especially in the mid. east or Arab countries -as I think-
First Of all marital life is not the life of who domnates who .. it's a shared life -%26amp; the one who think about the domination or power of the other Simply he/she is runis his/her life-
any home must be Managed by one -he MUST listen to the other-
any place in the world is run by one -president, king or Queen sometimes-
%26amp; what always ruin our homes that the parents start to sturggle about the domination ..
they keep doin' so till they end up divorced or anything worse ..
I know some powerful %26amp; wise women -they manage their husbands- the best of it that the husband admit that %26amp; the result they got good homes - those wife keep tellin' that our father is so %26amp; so - to keep the Evil's Eye out :D also if they don't want to something they say ';My husband has prohibited that'; which is not real :)
but the parents who waste their time and effort in these endless Tiffs will end to nothing but sparated and bad homes
Finally .. No man can resist his beloved wife and viceversa .. she/he can get the best out of the other by Good ways ..
Maybe i'll add more later .. i've to go now
check this link :
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
thanks to Alhamdulilah for Choosin' my answer :)
@alRobayan
thanks again .. u said before ';All men R jerks'; and now u said somthing offeseive again.
keep Generalizing Sis :)
EDIT :
wow it's a record :D 4 thumbs Down .. it's good to show ur opinion but it'd be better to discuss it further more :)
thanks anyways for Both Parties Up %26amp; Down
@Shimeringstars01
I was discussin' that issue with My Mommy minutes ago .. she mentioned that saying also :)
How can a green card holder petition for a non-US citizen spouse who is currently living outside of the US?
I am a green card holder. I just got married to a non-US citizen. My husband is not currently living in the US. I am planning to petition my husband for green card. I filed for I-130. I am new to this immigration thing. Could anyone tell me what the next step is, please. Your help is much appreciated. Thank you.How can a green card holder petition for a non-US citizen spouse who is currently living outside of the US?
Pretty much the same way as any citizen. the primary difference is the time frame. since you're currently a green card holder, the petition you filed for your husband falls into the F2a family preference category, and those take about 5 years from the time they are filed before they are valid for use. Of course, if you become a citizen while you're waiting, the petition would be upgraded to an IR-1 petition and that would be valid immediately. if that happens, be sure to tell USCIS about your petition as they won't go looking for it unless you do.
When your petition gets closer to being valid, you'll be contacted by the National Visa Center for an Affidavit of Support. then, it will be sent out to the embassy or consulate handling immigrant visas where your husband lives. but for now, you're in for a long wait.How can a green card holder petition for a non-US citizen spouse who is currently living outside of the US?
File the Form I-130 which you can find on uscis.gov. Since you are not a US citizen the visa will not be available immediately. If approved monitor the visa bulletin on the state department site to see if your priority date has come up. When it does become available your spouse can file the I-485 and hopefully get admitted to the US as a resident.
You can petition through the USCIS like any US citizen but you will have to wait much longer to get your petition approved (longer means several years).
why dont u get a lawyer,,coz i think u cant petition anyone unless ur a citizen..u do have green card right but still ur not a citizen..ask a lawyer wud be the best solution..
GO BACK TO YOUR COUNTRY WITH THEM ;)john masters oil acne
Pretty much the same way as any citizen. the primary difference is the time frame. since you're currently a green card holder, the petition you filed for your husband falls into the F2a family preference category, and those take about 5 years from the time they are filed before they are valid for use. Of course, if you become a citizen while you're waiting, the petition would be upgraded to an IR-1 petition and that would be valid immediately. if that happens, be sure to tell USCIS about your petition as they won't go looking for it unless you do.
When your petition gets closer to being valid, you'll be contacted by the National Visa Center for an Affidavit of Support. then, it will be sent out to the embassy or consulate handling immigrant visas where your husband lives. but for now, you're in for a long wait.How can a green card holder petition for a non-US citizen spouse who is currently living outside of the US?
File the Form I-130 which you can find on uscis.gov. Since you are not a US citizen the visa will not be available immediately. If approved monitor the visa bulletin on the state department site to see if your priority date has come up. When it does become available your spouse can file the I-485 and hopefully get admitted to the US as a resident.
You can petition through the USCIS like any US citizen but you will have to wait much longer to get your petition approved (longer means several years).
why dont u get a lawyer,,coz i think u cant petition anyone unless ur a citizen..u do have green card right but still ur not a citizen..ask a lawyer wud be the best solution..
GO BACK TO YOUR COUNTRY WITH THEM ;)
How often can an ex-spouse file a motion to modify in Missouri?
I am in the middle of one (make more money than I did when we were divorced two years ago) and feel absolutely helpless. My attorney basically keeps saying theres nothing we can do since Im at the top of the state's table. Can she do this ANY time? Can I file if I make less next year? Should I expect to have to pay her legal fees?How often can an ex-spouse file a motion to modify in Missouri?
Hate to tell you this, but she's got you. The judge can order you to pay her legal fees too. However, if you start making less money, you must go back to court and get the judgement modified. As long as you can prove the change in income, a judge will more than likely reduce it according to the state's income table.How often can an ex-spouse file a motion to modify in Missouri?
Every 30 days if your income has increased or decreased by 20%. That is either parent for child support, since alimony is almost nonexistent in all states I assume we are talking about child support. It is a fairly new law in Missouri.
As often as she wants. She can apply each time you get a raise. Rightfully, she should not get attorney fees. But, she can ask for them.
There are Federal Guidelines for child support.
Provided said judge follows the guidelines and doesn't require more. The only reason you'll need an attorney, is to insure you aren't raped in the courtroom.
Simply retain an attorney to appear with you, to insure your not raped....couple of hours tops. Much lower bill. Explain to said attorney, he is only there to protect your rights, NOT argue the case, unless the judge goes overboard. He (the attorney) will simply explain to the judge, he is only there to protect your rights. The judge will rule...done deal.
The way the law is now, when you get a raise, the ex gets a raise. Not much to argue about there...sorry.
FROM the judges' prospective: You shell out a couple of grand for an attorney, you can afford a couple of hundred extra a month.
Hate to tell you this, but she's got you. The judge can order you to pay her legal fees too. However, if you start making less money, you must go back to court and get the judgement modified. As long as you can prove the change in income, a judge will more than likely reduce it according to the state's income table.How often can an ex-spouse file a motion to modify in Missouri?
Every 30 days if your income has increased or decreased by 20%. That is either parent for child support, since alimony is almost nonexistent in all states I assume we are talking about child support. It is a fairly new law in Missouri.
As often as she wants. She can apply each time you get a raise. Rightfully, she should not get attorney fees. But, she can ask for them.
There are Federal Guidelines for child support.
Provided said judge follows the guidelines and doesn't require more. The only reason you'll need an attorney, is to insure you aren't raped in the courtroom.
Simply retain an attorney to appear with you, to insure your not raped....couple of hours tops. Much lower bill. Explain to said attorney, he is only there to protect your rights, NOT argue the case, unless the judge goes overboard. He (the attorney) will simply explain to the judge, he is only there to protect your rights. The judge will rule...done deal.
The way the law is now, when you get a raise, the ex gets a raise. Not much to argue about there...sorry.
FROM the judges' prospective: You shell out a couple of grand for an attorney, you can afford a couple of hundred extra a month.
What happens if a seperated spouse dosent answer a solicitors letters?
I have been separated from my partner for nearly 2yrs. i have just gone to see a solicitor to work out property affairs etc. I tried 3 x to talk to the x about halving everything, that got me nowhere so last resort is going to solicitor and get him to work it out. But what i would like to know is, my ex has been sent letters and advised to go see a solicitor of their own, But what happens from here if they don't reply or get their own solicitor?
Thank you very much in advance.
Stay safe all.What happens if a seperated spouse dosent answer a solicitors letters?
Eventually, you will go to court and a judge will make a ruling. Other than it taking a long time, you're better off if he doesn't get a lawyer.What happens if a seperated spouse dosent answer a solicitors letters?
Ask your solicitor what happens now, obviously he will know.
Thank you very much in advance.
Stay safe all.What happens if a seperated spouse dosent answer a solicitors letters?
Eventually, you will go to court and a judge will make a ruling. Other than it taking a long time, you're better off if he doesn't get a lawyer.What happens if a seperated spouse dosent answer a solicitors letters?
Ask your solicitor what happens now, obviously he will know.
How do I help my spouse who has depression if I also feel depressed?
My husband has mild depression (suspected, not verified by a medical professional). I've been taking care of him since he stopped working about 1+yr ago. Right now, I'm also starting to feel depressed (having some symptoms like irritability, lethargy, feeling sad and suicidal occasionally). How do I continue to look after him and encourage him to find a new job before I sink deeper into depression? I'm holding a full-time job and cannot be there for him 24/7.How do I help my spouse who has depression if I also feel depressed?
read the bible god will helpHow do I help my spouse who has depression if I also feel depressed?
It totally makes sense that you would start becoming depressed when you're taking care of him 24/7 plus working a full time job. That's why there are such things as support groups for people who take care of ill relatives. I'm not saying he's ill, I have no idea - but its got to be taking a toll on you. Also, I'm confused as to why you have to take care of him all the time. Isn't he a full grown man capable of taking care of himself, especially when you are working full time?
If you have a medical doctor you trust, I would start there. He/She may be able to help or at least refer you to someone who can. You or your spouse may needs meds to help get out of the funk, or at least some counseling might help. If you are a member of a church, talking to your priest/pastor/whatever could be helpful.
The worst thing to do is nothing. Things like this usually keep getting worse unless you ask for help and follow through.
My heart really goes out to you!! I used to be very depressed, too. I came to Jesus and he is the best friend I could ever ask for! I used to think my husband would make me happy, but now I know that Jesus is the only One who can love me perfectly! He loves you more than anyone else can. If you come to him, believing he can save you, he will! You can come to him wherever you are. Just believe he died on the cross for your sins and ask him to forgive you. If you want to be his, you have to give up everything that comes between you and him, but it's so worth it!
I'm praying for you and your husband! That sounds like a really hard situation. I remember being depressed when my first son was a baby. I would try to be happy for his sake, but I knew my sadness affected him. Jesus gives me so much joy now! The more I realize how much he loves me, the more joy I have to share with others!
I would love to be there for you to encourage you. If you ever want to talk, you can email me.
read the bible god will helpHow do I help my spouse who has depression if I also feel depressed?
It totally makes sense that you would start becoming depressed when you're taking care of him 24/7 plus working a full time job. That's why there are such things as support groups for people who take care of ill relatives. I'm not saying he's ill, I have no idea - but its got to be taking a toll on you. Also, I'm confused as to why you have to take care of him all the time. Isn't he a full grown man capable of taking care of himself, especially when you are working full time?
If you have a medical doctor you trust, I would start there. He/She may be able to help or at least refer you to someone who can. You or your spouse may needs meds to help get out of the funk, or at least some counseling might help. If you are a member of a church, talking to your priest/pastor/whatever could be helpful.
The worst thing to do is nothing. Things like this usually keep getting worse unless you ask for help and follow through.
My heart really goes out to you!! I used to be very depressed, too. I came to Jesus and he is the best friend I could ever ask for! I used to think my husband would make me happy, but now I know that Jesus is the only One who can love me perfectly! He loves you more than anyone else can. If you come to him, believing he can save you, he will! You can come to him wherever you are. Just believe he died on the cross for your sins and ask him to forgive you. If you want to be his, you have to give up everything that comes between you and him, but it's so worth it!
I'm praying for you and your husband! That sounds like a really hard situation. I remember being depressed when my first son was a baby. I would try to be happy for his sake, but I knew my sadness affected him. Jesus gives me so much joy now! The more I realize how much he loves me, the more joy I have to share with others!
I would love to be there for you to encourage you. If you ever want to talk, you can email me.
How long to get a spouse visa to United States from Morocco?
I am a U.S citizen I would like to know if anyone knows a time frame for the whole process for him to come to U.S from Morocco? Any info will be helpful Thanks so much! They recieved the papers on Dec. 04, 2007How long to get a spouse visa to United States from Morocco?
There have been others here in the past, trying to petition a spouse from North Africa, and it's taken them over a year. That seems to be longer than the average spouse petition takes.
There have been others here in the past, trying to petition a spouse from North Africa, and it's taken them over a year. That seems to be longer than the average spouse petition takes.
Why was some of my Stimulus payment taken if i filed Injured Spouse?
I filed Injured Spouse this year on my taxes because my husband owes back child support. I got my half of my tax return, but they took half of MY stimulus payment. I understand they are to take my husbands share, but why did they take half of my Stimulus Payment?Why was some of my Stimulus payment taken if i filed Injured Spouse?
They didn't take half of YOUR payment - there isn't a YOUR payment. There is a joint payment to the two of you totalling $900. They took half of it, and because of the injured spouse payment, sent you the other half, $450.Why was some of my Stimulus payment taken if i filed Injured Spouse?
You need to look at line 57 plus line 52 of your tax return to determine the amount of your rebate - not everyone got $600 per person. Some people got $300. Most news reports I heard or read only focused on the $600 amount and did not tell people that some people would not get the full amount.
Since your other question said that you expected $1,500 and you got $900, you probably did not pay enough in taxes to get the full amount of $1,500. You got $300 for you, $300 for your husband and $300 for your kid.
If you had no tax liability you got $300/$600 if married joint. If you had a tax liability of $600 or more, you got the full $600. If you were married, you had to have $1,200 of tax liability to get the full $1,200 rebate.
They didn't take half of YOUR payment - there isn't a YOUR payment. There is a joint payment to the two of you totalling $900. They took half of it, and because of the injured spouse payment, sent you the other half, $450.Why was some of my Stimulus payment taken if i filed Injured Spouse?
You need to look at line 57 plus line 52 of your tax return to determine the amount of your rebate - not everyone got $600 per person. Some people got $300. Most news reports I heard or read only focused on the $600 amount and did not tell people that some people would not get the full amount.
Since your other question said that you expected $1,500 and you got $900, you probably did not pay enough in taxes to get the full amount of $1,500. You got $300 for you, $300 for your husband and $300 for your kid.
If you had no tax liability you got $300/$600 if married joint. If you had a tax liability of $600 or more, you got the full $600. If you were married, you had to have $1,200 of tax liability to get the full $1,200 rebate.
How long after leaving your spouse did you start to feel better?
About 30 seconds....really....How long after leaving your spouse did you start to feel better?
It's different for everybody, and depends on a lot of factors. Who left who, and why. Are there any kids involved. Even how you made out in the divorce settlement can play a part in it.
It took a very long time for me. I was certain my first husband was my soul mate. We were together for 10 years and had 2 kids. I left him, but I was still very sad and bitter that it had to come to that.
It does get better, though. If I had not left him, I would not now be with my second husband, so it was a blessing in disguise.
God never closes a door without opening a window!How long after leaving your spouse did you start to feel better?
It took me about a month to kinda get my life back ( stop crying, start eating, start having a life) And it took me about 6 months to COMPLETELY be ok with being single. I don't even really think about him anymore...or care about him. I never thought I would be like this..but I am and I am soooo glad. I'm much happier now and have recently started dating again...so far so good. :) Hang in there...IT WILL GET BETTER!
I don't think there a time table. It's just like a ';death';. All of us grieve a death in different ways and different lengths of time.
As for me, I felt better knowing I could go home and not be beat, or spit on. I could go home and RELAX.
About 3 months after the relationship ended I found a sexy Marine to ease the pain for a few weeks. I then realized I was much better without the ex after that experience. (I wasnt married to my ex, but I was engaged for like 6 years to him)
Each person is different, but usually the first few weeks are the hardest. After that, things really do start to fall into place. It depends on what you do, do you take up hobbies? Spend time with friends? Work? Start dating again?
you have to keep yourself occupied and eventually you'll stop forgetting that you're waiting to get over the split. it just depends.
I felt kind of good and free but still had feelings for him because we been together for so long and its hard to get over someone that you love
2 long years.
Its different for everybody. Time is a healer.
We split up on palm sunday this year, and I still don't really feel better about it. So I'll let you know.
Immediately right after.
2-1/2 years
It took me about 18 long months.
great question....we're talking about splitting and it's been hard on me...i wonder this too
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It's different for everybody, and depends on a lot of factors. Who left who, and why. Are there any kids involved. Even how you made out in the divorce settlement can play a part in it.
It took a very long time for me. I was certain my first husband was my soul mate. We were together for 10 years and had 2 kids. I left him, but I was still very sad and bitter that it had to come to that.
It does get better, though. If I had not left him, I would not now be with my second husband, so it was a blessing in disguise.
God never closes a door without opening a window!How long after leaving your spouse did you start to feel better?
It took me about a month to kinda get my life back ( stop crying, start eating, start having a life) And it took me about 6 months to COMPLETELY be ok with being single. I don't even really think about him anymore...or care about him. I never thought I would be like this..but I am and I am soooo glad. I'm much happier now and have recently started dating again...so far so good. :) Hang in there...IT WILL GET BETTER!
I don't think there a time table. It's just like a ';death';. All of us grieve a death in different ways and different lengths of time.
As for me, I felt better knowing I could go home and not be beat, or spit on. I could go home and RELAX.
About 3 months after the relationship ended I found a sexy Marine to ease the pain for a few weeks. I then realized I was much better without the ex after that experience. (I wasnt married to my ex, but I was engaged for like 6 years to him)
Each person is different, but usually the first few weeks are the hardest. After that, things really do start to fall into place. It depends on what you do, do you take up hobbies? Spend time with friends? Work? Start dating again?
you have to keep yourself occupied and eventually you'll stop forgetting that you're waiting to get over the split. it just depends.
I felt kind of good and free but still had feelings for him because we been together for so long and its hard to get over someone that you love
2 long years.
Its different for everybody. Time is a healer.
We split up on palm sunday this year, and I still don't really feel better about it. So I'll let you know.
Immediately right after.
2-1/2 years
It took me about 18 long months.
great question....we're talking about splitting and it's been hard on me...i wonder this too
i am in the playpen with sweet mildred
Is is appropriate for a spouse to give boss a gift from Victoria Secret?
A man who you've been seriously dating for some time gives his co-worker (boss) a gift card from Victoria Secrets as a wedding gift. Is that professional? Would you be concerned especially if he has never bought you anything (as far as clothes) and you have never met the person. You were not even invited to the wedding. What do you think?Is is appropriate for a spouse to give boss a gift from Victoria Secret?
I do not think it is professional, however there may be circumstances where it is appropriate. I depends on how close knit the organization is. If there are only a couple of workers and everyone is close. If it is for instance a plant with many workers, and he is just a person working, no, it is not right. Especially only from him. The gift should be sent since you as a couple were not invited and let go at that. Personally, he should go to where they are registered and drop 20 bucks on a gift she has asked for. Other then that, a congrats card would have sufficed.Is is appropriate for a spouse to give boss a gift from Victoria Secret?
You could be over-analyzing the situation (girls tend to do that), but I would be concerned. I definitely know where you are coming from, but all you can really do is ask him about it and tell express to him why this would upset you. How would he feel if the situation i reversed? Playboy subscription for your boss, lol?
Id just say hes not a very good gift giver.
I wouldn't think much of it.
Also, he's just a guy. Guys will always be goofs.
Lastly, if his boss was a male, then yes, it would be unprofessional
:D haha
The woman is getting married. I think maybe he is confused about what a tasteful gift is, but is trying to get her something any way.
I would think of him as a man who doesn't know how to shop for a woman and played it ';safe'; by getting a gift card from Victoria Secret.
If your trying to make a play for the boss, then yes. By all means.
Sounds a little fishy to me.
strange gift for wedding present i would let groom to worry :}
well, if i were you, i'd be really jealous and kinda suspicious. i'd try asking him why he did that. hope that helps!
I do not think it is professional, however there may be circumstances where it is appropriate. I depends on how close knit the organization is. If there are only a couple of workers and everyone is close. If it is for instance a plant with many workers, and he is just a person working, no, it is not right. Especially only from him. The gift should be sent since you as a couple were not invited and let go at that. Personally, he should go to where they are registered and drop 20 bucks on a gift she has asked for. Other then that, a congrats card would have sufficed.Is is appropriate for a spouse to give boss a gift from Victoria Secret?
You could be over-analyzing the situation (girls tend to do that), but I would be concerned. I definitely know where you are coming from, but all you can really do is ask him about it and tell express to him why this would upset you. How would he feel if the situation i reversed? Playboy subscription for your boss, lol?
Id just say hes not a very good gift giver.
I wouldn't think much of it.
Also, he's just a guy. Guys will always be goofs.
Lastly, if his boss was a male, then yes, it would be unprofessional
:D haha
The woman is getting married. I think maybe he is confused about what a tasteful gift is, but is trying to get her something any way.
I would think of him as a man who doesn't know how to shop for a woman and played it ';safe'; by getting a gift card from Victoria Secret.
If your trying to make a play for the boss, then yes. By all means.
Sounds a little fishy to me.
strange gift for wedding present i would let groom to worry :}
well, if i were you, i'd be really jealous and kinda suspicious. i'd try asking him why he did that. hope that helps!
What are the best careers or degrees to hold as a military spouse?
I am looking for careers or degrees that travel well from location to location or those for which you can telecommute. I'm looking for actual military spouses with experience in this realm. Also, advice contrary to a certain career would be helpful as well. (i.e. I was a nurse and had trouble getting recertified each time we moved...)
I have a bachelors degree in Communication and I interned in HR. I am interested in getting my master's soon, but I'm debating into which field I should enter. Any advice?What are the best careers or degrees to hold as a military spouse?
I'm in the same boat. I have a bachelors in anthropology, but there is not much that I can do with it since we have to move every 2-3 years. I am working as an admin at the moment and there is a future at my company, with the option of telecommuting when we psc again. But I really would like to get a masters degree but have no clue what to major in.
Though I am not at all interested in it, you could always get your MBA. They are pretty versatile and so long as you are stationed near a big city there are almost always corporate jobs.What are the best careers or degrees to hold as a military spouse?
I think that Physician Assistants are nationally certified and therefore don't have to be recertified each time they move. I you are already a nurse it probably wouldn't be too difficult to get into PA school.
I have a bachelors degree in Communication and I interned in HR. I am interested in getting my master's soon, but I'm debating into which field I should enter. Any advice?What are the best careers or degrees to hold as a military spouse?
I'm in the same boat. I have a bachelors in anthropology, but there is not much that I can do with it since we have to move every 2-3 years. I am working as an admin at the moment and there is a future at my company, with the option of telecommuting when we psc again. But I really would like to get a masters degree but have no clue what to major in.
Though I am not at all interested in it, you could always get your MBA. They are pretty versatile and so long as you are stationed near a big city there are almost always corporate jobs.What are the best careers or degrees to hold as a military spouse?
I think that Physician Assistants are nationally certified and therefore don't have to be recertified each time they move. I you are already a nurse it probably wouldn't be too difficult to get into PA school.
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Do you and your spouse ever just start laughing in the middle of an argument?
Like the argument has gotten so silly and out of control that you both just start laughing about it...
do any couples ever do this?Do you and your spouse ever just start laughing in the middle of an argument?
Nope. Only during sex. I will wait until she about to climax and I start laughing hysterically. She really hates it when I do that during BJ's.Do you and your spouse ever just start laughing in the middle of an argument?
Don't know because we haven't had an arguement. But we have cracked up laughing so hard in the middle of other conversations. Some of the best are when one of us starts something in bed (conversation) and the other just starts to giggle and can't stop - then that makes the other one start laughing.
Haha, that just happened to my wife and I the other day! We got into an argument about how to cook ramen noodles, and at one point she screamed ';Give me 5 seconds!!!'; I couldn't help it, I just dropped on the floor and started laughing hysterically!!
kinda.. i was the only one laughing... i can laugh sometimes at really inappropriate times. i can't really help it and it always makes things worse.. it's like a nervous reaction or something but it can really make me look like a *********.
It happens to me and my hubby too! Probably about 3/4 of the arguments we get into are really dumb and have no place in our marriage. As soon as we realize how stupid it is we are pretty good at laughing it off. I think it is a healthy release!
Yes, and its one of the best ways that we end our fights (in addtion to make-up ***).
We will just realize that we are getting to a point that makes no sense and we don't even remember why we started in the first place.
I have done this before. I just started laughing and told him that it wasn't important enough to me to continue arguing about. He was not amused and it took him a few minutes to come down. Somethines he tinks I am nuts.
it happens all the time...
its the moment when both of us come to the realization how ridiculous the argument is...
Yes. It has happened to us 2 times. We went from yelling to each other out of the top of our lungs to just not being able to stop laughing.
That happened once to us and while she was laughing I hit her in the head with a frying pan. She doesn't want to argue that much anymore.
One time we were having an argument about the size of my package. I told her it was ';average'; and she started laughing.
Is that what you mean?
Yep, couple of times.
it happens most of the time ........half of our arguments are solved like that
do any couples ever do this?Do you and your spouse ever just start laughing in the middle of an argument?
Nope. Only during sex. I will wait until she about to climax and I start laughing hysterically. She really hates it when I do that during BJ's.Do you and your spouse ever just start laughing in the middle of an argument?
Don't know because we haven't had an arguement. But we have cracked up laughing so hard in the middle of other conversations. Some of the best are when one of us starts something in bed (conversation) and the other just starts to giggle and can't stop - then that makes the other one start laughing.
Haha, that just happened to my wife and I the other day! We got into an argument about how to cook ramen noodles, and at one point she screamed ';Give me 5 seconds!!!'; I couldn't help it, I just dropped on the floor and started laughing hysterically!!
kinda.. i was the only one laughing... i can laugh sometimes at really inappropriate times. i can't really help it and it always makes things worse.. it's like a nervous reaction or something but it can really make me look like a *********.
It happens to me and my hubby too! Probably about 3/4 of the arguments we get into are really dumb and have no place in our marriage. As soon as we realize how stupid it is we are pretty good at laughing it off. I think it is a healthy release!
Yes, and its one of the best ways that we end our fights (in addtion to make-up ***).
We will just realize that we are getting to a point that makes no sense and we don't even remember why we started in the first place.
I have done this before. I just started laughing and told him that it wasn't important enough to me to continue arguing about. He was not amused and it took him a few minutes to come down. Somethines he tinks I am nuts.
it happens all the time...
its the moment when both of us come to the realization how ridiculous the argument is...
Yes. It has happened to us 2 times. We went from yelling to each other out of the top of our lungs to just not being able to stop laughing.
That happened once to us and while she was laughing I hit her in the head with a frying pan. She doesn't want to argue that much anymore.
One time we were having an argument about the size of my package. I told her it was ';average'; and she started laughing.
Is that what you mean?
Yep, couple of times.
it happens most of the time ........half of our arguments are solved like that
What things could your spouse do that would make you immediately leave, no questions asked?
Aside from cheating, what is something that you would walk out over?
Mine would be any sort of abuse toward a child.What things could your spouse do that would make you immediately leave, no questions asked?
Murder. I've thought about this one before. She could do just about anything else, including cheating or hitting a kid, and i might still try to work it out. But if she killed somebody, I would need to separate.What things could your spouse do that would make you immediately leave, no questions asked?
Sleep with one of my family members or friends,
any child related deviance or abuse to any child
need to be listed as a sex offender
drunk driving accident and hurt someone (or maybe just a DUI)
Be a drunk Jack ***
Make a public specticle of either of us
Abuse me
Hitting me or the kids, abusing the kids, drugs or alcohol. I'd also leave if I felt threatened or betrayed financially/emotionally/physically.
He knows this too.
In order of it's importance:
- Suddenly realizing he's a sociopath
- Adultery
- Alcoholism
- Drug addiction
- Gambling
Don't tell him, but I'd forgive one slip of the hand. I can be a pain in the ****.
If he:
-hit me even once
-hurt our child or someone else's child
-arrest for something perverted
My wife can do anything she pleases. What ever makes her happy. I do mean anything. I think the only thing that I would leave my wife, its that if she murder someone.
Perhaps not cheating it depends on the circumstances..the latter you mentioned yes and if he hit me I would not give him a second chance.
Physical abuse toward me or my children.
Physical abuse. Love should never leave physical marks.
Aside from cheating... if he lied about something big, if he hit me, or if he tried to hurt me on purpose in anyway.
Any kind of abuse on a child, me or an animal
Cheating
any abuse of me or our children.
If he hit me.
Harming my daughter in some way...and if that were to happen, I wouldn't walk out, I'd kill him.
Mine would be any sort of abuse toward a child.What things could your spouse do that would make you immediately leave, no questions asked?
Murder. I've thought about this one before. She could do just about anything else, including cheating or hitting a kid, and i might still try to work it out. But if she killed somebody, I would need to separate.What things could your spouse do that would make you immediately leave, no questions asked?
Sleep with one of my family members or friends,
any child related deviance or abuse to any child
need to be listed as a sex offender
drunk driving accident and hurt someone (or maybe just a DUI)
Be a drunk Jack ***
Make a public specticle of either of us
Abuse me
Hitting me or the kids, abusing the kids, drugs or alcohol. I'd also leave if I felt threatened or betrayed financially/emotionally/physically.
He knows this too.
In order of it's importance:
- Suddenly realizing he's a sociopath
- Adultery
- Alcoholism
- Drug addiction
- Gambling
Don't tell him, but I'd forgive one slip of the hand. I can be a pain in the ****.
If he:
-hit me even once
-hurt our child or someone else's child
-arrest for something perverted
My wife can do anything she pleases. What ever makes her happy. I do mean anything. I think the only thing that I would leave my wife, its that if she murder someone.
Perhaps not cheating it depends on the circumstances..the latter you mentioned yes and if he hit me I would not give him a second chance.
Physical abuse toward me or my children.
Physical abuse. Love should never leave physical marks.
Aside from cheating... if he lied about something big, if he hit me, or if he tried to hurt me on purpose in anyway.
Any kind of abuse on a child, me or an animal
Cheating
any abuse of me or our children.
If he hit me.
Harming my daughter in some way...and if that were to happen, I wouldn't walk out, I'd kill him.
How long after receiving entry in to the UK via settlement spouse visa must a person come to the UK?
My father recently received entry into the UK via settlement spouse visa which my mom applied for. Now I just want to be sure on time line of how long he has to come to the is country. We are still waiting to hear from the lawyers but just wondered if anyone here knew b/c we think it may be three months.How long after receiving entry in to the UK via settlement spouse visa must a person come to the UK?
Once he has the Spouse visa, he can use it any time he wishes up to expiry.
What he needs to be aware of though is that to obtain Indefinite Leave to Remain (permanent residence) in order to be free of immigration control, he needs to be actually resident in the UK for two years. If he delays his travel to the UK, he will have to renew his current two year visa as his residency will not entitle him to apply for ILR if he has been in the UK for less than two years Residency is counted from the date he enters the UK, not the date of the visa.
The same is true of his eligibility for citizenship which is going to get much harder to obtain over the next year. He currently must have held ILR for one full year before he is eligible to apply for citizenship. If he delays his ILR, he may find citizenship harder to obtain as the rules tighten over the next year and residency becomes a secondary factor to a migrant's economic and social contribution to British society.
Once he has the Spouse visa, he can use it any time he wishes up to expiry.
What he needs to be aware of though is that to obtain Indefinite Leave to Remain (permanent residence) in order to be free of immigration control, he needs to be actually resident in the UK for two years. If he delays his travel to the UK, he will have to renew his current two year visa as his residency will not entitle him to apply for ILR if he has been in the UK for less than two years Residency is counted from the date he enters the UK, not the date of the visa.
The same is true of his eligibility for citizenship which is going to get much harder to obtain over the next year. He currently must have held ILR for one full year before he is eligible to apply for citizenship. If he delays his ILR, he may find citizenship harder to obtain as the rules tighten over the next year and residency becomes a secondary factor to a migrant's economic and social contribution to British society.
How long after receiving entry in to the UK via settlement spouse visa must a person come to the UK?
My father recently received entry into the UK via settlement spouse visa which my mom applied for. Now I just want to be sure on time line of how long he has to come to the is country. We are still waiting to hear from the lawyers but just wondered if anyone here knew b/c we think it may be three months.How long after receiving entry in to the UK via settlement spouse visa must a person come to the UK?
Once he has the Spouse visa, he can use it any time he wishes up to expiry.
What he needs to be aware of though is that to obtain Indefinite Leave to Remain (permanent residence) in order to be free of immigration control, he needs to be actually resident in the UK for two years. If he delays his travel to the UK, he will have to renew his current two year visa as his residency will not entitle him to apply for ILR if he has been in the UK for less than two years Residency is counted from the date he enters the UK, not the date of the visa.
The same is true of his eligibility for citizenship which is going to get much harder to obtain over the next year. He currently must have held ILR for one full year before he is eligible to apply for citizenship. If he delays his ILR, he may find citizenship harder to obtain as the rules tighten over the next year and residency becomes a secondary factor to a migrant's economic and social contribution to British society.john masters oil acne
Once he has the Spouse visa, he can use it any time he wishes up to expiry.
What he needs to be aware of though is that to obtain Indefinite Leave to Remain (permanent residence) in order to be free of immigration control, he needs to be actually resident in the UK for two years. If he delays his travel to the UK, he will have to renew his current two year visa as his residency will not entitle him to apply for ILR if he has been in the UK for less than two years Residency is counted from the date he enters the UK, not the date of the visa.
The same is true of his eligibility for citizenship which is going to get much harder to obtain over the next year. He currently must have held ILR for one full year before he is eligible to apply for citizenship. If he delays his ILR, he may find citizenship harder to obtain as the rules tighten over the next year and residency becomes a secondary factor to a migrant's economic and social contribution to British society.
Are you and your spouse opposites? What are your favorite things about being different from one another?
Also - how have you found middle ground?
My future hubby and I are opposites but we are crazy about each other.
Just wondering how your marriage has been enriched by these differences.Are you and your spouse opposites? What are your favorite things about being different from one another?
My husband and I are complete opposites in many areas such as:
I'm very frugle with my finances and he's a spender. He tells me to relax and spend every now and then and tell him, that somehting is not worth spending money on. We always come to an agreement.
He's a talker and I'm more of a listener.
I get stressed out fairly easily and need to get things done in the instant I think of them and he's a major procrastinator. I'm a motivator for him to accomplish more. I know I have been a large reason why he has accomplished so much since we've been married.
While we have many differences in personality and it definatelt makes it fun :) we have the same goals in life moral beliefs, and religion. These would factors that would be very difficult to have different.
A marriage is lots of fun when you make the best all the varieties.
Best wishes to you both!
Are you and your spouse opposites? What are your favorite things about being different from one another?
We are opposite in more ways than we are alike.
But the best things about being different are that when one wants to do something that the other doesn't enjoy, it makes for good time apart. And we all know the value of some time spent away from each other.
Many of her differences have also exposed me to things I wouldn't have ever experienced.
my old man and mom are opposites ...... extreme a la extreme ......
They talk a lot too, i think thats how they find middle ground, pure logic ............ communication is the key
My gf and i cant put the phone down without a fight, but we too are crazy about each other, the decisions that we make sometimes amazes us at our correctness
We have been living for 2 years now, and man i am still crazy about her, telling her what i feel always relaxes her enough to voice her opinions or concerns, this helps us work out around ...........
I learnt having a spouse that is an opposite, keeps the mystery alive, its still hard to predict how will he/she react to situations, this is what i love about her,
though i have seen the like attracts like doesnt work well in the long run
hope this helps
goodluck with your fiance
My future hubby and I are opposites but we are crazy about each other.
Just wondering how your marriage has been enriched by these differences.Are you and your spouse opposites? What are your favorite things about being different from one another?
My husband and I are complete opposites in many areas such as:
I'm very frugle with my finances and he's a spender. He tells me to relax and spend every now and then and tell him, that somehting is not worth spending money on. We always come to an agreement.
He's a talker and I'm more of a listener.
I get stressed out fairly easily and need to get things done in the instant I think of them and he's a major procrastinator. I'm a motivator for him to accomplish more. I know I have been a large reason why he has accomplished so much since we've been married.
While we have many differences in personality and it definatelt makes it fun :) we have the same goals in life moral beliefs, and religion. These would factors that would be very difficult to have different.
A marriage is lots of fun when you make the best all the varieties.
Best wishes to you both!
Are you and your spouse opposites? What are your favorite things about being different from one another?
We are opposite in more ways than we are alike.
But the best things about being different are that when one wants to do something that the other doesn't enjoy, it makes for good time apart. And we all know the value of some time spent away from each other.
Many of her differences have also exposed me to things I wouldn't have ever experienced.
my old man and mom are opposites ...... extreme a la extreme ......
They talk a lot too, i think thats how they find middle ground, pure logic ............ communication is the key
My gf and i cant put the phone down without a fight, but we too are crazy about each other, the decisions that we make sometimes amazes us at our correctness
We have been living for 2 years now, and man i am still crazy about her, telling her what i feel always relaxes her enough to voice her opinions or concerns, this helps us work out around ...........
I learnt having a spouse that is an opposite, keeps the mystery alive, its still hard to predict how will he/she react to situations, this is what i love about her,
though i have seen the like attracts like doesnt work well in the long run
hope this helps
goodluck with your fiance
What should I do to prepare myself as a future military spouse?
My fiance and I will be married in a few months. He's in the Navy. I would like to know any tips anyone has for making things work for the long haul. What should I expect besides deployments (we've already been through him being in Iraq last year). I know that there will be some difficult times but I am excited about facing those challenges with him. I would appreciate any advice anyone has! Thanks!What should I do to prepare myself as a future military spouse?
I'd recommend that you involve yourself in a career or job that can be transferred from location to location. You're going to need something to do when your husband is away on deployments. Deployments are a way of life in today's military.
Good luck.What should I do to prepare myself as a future military spouse?
You should read the book Married to the Military.
My husband has been and is about to be deployed again. The longest I have had him home was when he was a Drill Sergeant, and even that is not easy. Just love, love, love him, support him and be proud of him and make sure he knows it. It is not easy at all when they are gone and just make sure you understand that before you take a step as big as marriage. Soldiers are stressed deployed or not. Don't nag him about things that really don't matter, like how he didn't put the toilet seat down or why he throws his clothes in the middle of the floor. Those are going to be some of the things you miss when he is deployed. Marriage is work, but I'm lovin' it. Good luck to you both!
Alienate yourself from any friends who cheat on their spouses. Deployments do damage to most couples' trust, and no need to further worry him. If you live on on-post housing, it'll be extra hard to stay away from these people, and you will see why he might get worried. Most couples in the military cheat. It's sad, but true.
The best advice I ever received, which my husband gave me, was to stay away from all the rumors (worse than rumors in high school) and ONLY believe something when I hear it directly from him. I don't even believe most of the stuff my FRG (family readiness group) leader tells me. Arguing is petty, avoid it at all costs, it won't help anything. Effective communication is key .... phone calls are all you have during deployments, if you guys can't communicate (verbally) effectively its going to be a lot harder.
I am a military spouse and the best advice I can give you is learn to sacrifice.....alot.....
There are so many things that can be tough, and the worst thing you can do is be mad or hold resentment toward your husband for things that he cannot control. I just found out my husband will be doing training in another state on my birthday and on our 1st wedding anniv. This is tragic to me because it is a very special day....... and I will be alone....in a strange state with no friends and no family. Sacrifice......this is a military wifes duty.....we sacrifice just as much as our men for this country.....and we are very proud to do it!
Another good book is ';Today's Military Wife'; by Cline - it gives you a lot of good information. I re-read mine every time we get ready to do a PCS.
I'd recommend that you involve yourself in a career or job that can be transferred from location to location. You're going to need something to do when your husband is away on deployments. Deployments are a way of life in today's military.
Good luck.What should I do to prepare myself as a future military spouse?
You should read the book Married to the Military.
My husband has been and is about to be deployed again. The longest I have had him home was when he was a Drill Sergeant, and even that is not easy. Just love, love, love him, support him and be proud of him and make sure he knows it. It is not easy at all when they are gone and just make sure you understand that before you take a step as big as marriage. Soldiers are stressed deployed or not. Don't nag him about things that really don't matter, like how he didn't put the toilet seat down or why he throws his clothes in the middle of the floor. Those are going to be some of the things you miss when he is deployed. Marriage is work, but I'm lovin' it. Good luck to you both!
Alienate yourself from any friends who cheat on their spouses. Deployments do damage to most couples' trust, and no need to further worry him. If you live on on-post housing, it'll be extra hard to stay away from these people, and you will see why he might get worried. Most couples in the military cheat. It's sad, but true.
The best advice I ever received, which my husband gave me, was to stay away from all the rumors (worse than rumors in high school) and ONLY believe something when I hear it directly from him. I don't even believe most of the stuff my FRG (family readiness group) leader tells me. Arguing is petty, avoid it at all costs, it won't help anything. Effective communication is key .... phone calls are all you have during deployments, if you guys can't communicate (verbally) effectively its going to be a lot harder.
I am a military spouse and the best advice I can give you is learn to sacrifice.....alot.....
There are so many things that can be tough, and the worst thing you can do is be mad or hold resentment toward your husband for things that he cannot control. I just found out my husband will be doing training in another state on my birthday and on our 1st wedding anniv. This is tragic to me because it is a very special day....... and I will be alone....in a strange state with no friends and no family. Sacrifice......this is a military wifes duty.....we sacrifice just as much as our men for this country.....and we are very proud to do it!
Another good book is ';Today's Military Wife'; by Cline - it gives you a lot of good information. I re-read mine every time we get ready to do a PCS.
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