What happens when you are no longer physically attracted to your spouse?

Do you just ';choose'; to love them anyway, even though the feelings aren't there? Is it ok to stay married if you only feel a platonic love for them? How can people really say ';I DO'; for a lifetime, when people change so much?What happens when you are no longer physically attracted to your spouse?
Your actions will tell your S.O. and they'll start thinking about your feels toward them. They'll get the message...you love them but don't want them. They might try to figure you out by making some changes to narrow down what you notice. He might change his hair cut, the way he dresses or lose some weight. If he does this for you he loves you, if he just accepts the fact that you don't want him and your just room mates he'll leave. I've been down this road and I think he should try for a few years and if he can't win all of you I think he should leave and maybe you'll regret it or he'll find some one else who will love him. Life is short people should be happy, that goes for both of you.What happens when you are no longer physically attracted to your spouse?
In a perfect world, that platonic love would be enough to get you through. But in all honesty, it isn't sometimes. It helps you forgive things like him honking when he blows his nose or snoring throughout the night, but there are certain things that love cannot forgive. I think it all depends on you. When there is no physical attraction there any longer, I think you still have to strive to have sex with the other person. Because you're right--people DO change a lot. You could use fantasy to get you libido going before you go in to have sex with him. You could try spicing up your sex life with him in general. That might do something.





Good luck! :-)
Its true. People do change. But what you need to do is figure out if you really just are not attracted to them anymore no matter what. Or if your not getting the affection you want. Once you have determined that i think you need to talk to them just tell them the truth about how you feel. My parents were falling out of love for years before deciding to divorce. It was actually my mom we all thought. Surprisingly my dad was falling out of love wit her as well. They are divorced now and are great friends and get along better then when they did when they were married. Who knows maybe you guys will get closer if you split. No matter what guilt trips people give you. You honestly need to think about you. If you just don't feel that *spark* i guess you could say then its ok, find what you really want don't force yourself to do what you think looks better. You will just regret it later if your more unhappier. Do whats best for you =) hope i helped..
It begs the answer to the age old question... is love a chemical reaction? Or is it a choice? I have seen many people stay in love a lifetime (particularly those who married later, like 30s...) and I have seen people fall out of love. If you make it a choice, it is harder to stay faithful because you are vulnerable to other men, needing that attraction or connection that you no longer have w/ your husband. So see what you can do to rev up that chemical reaction. Scents? Candles? Love letters via poetry or e-mails, etc... GL
well this happened to my friend. my friends x gained 60 pounds, took a shower every once in awhile, didn't brush his teeth, didn't clean his clothes. she tried to get him help, thinking he was depressed, he refused, and it got worse, the place started looking like a garbage pale, it stunk and roaches were his friends.


She put up with this for six months, she tried everything.


She was no longer interested, how could she care for someone who didn't care for himself and refused to do anything to make the marriage work?


Now divorced.
Women aren't capable of lifelong marriage and generally cheat or start hating their husband around 7-10 years or 3-4 children after they get married. Men on the other hand can love their wife a lifetime IF she's a good wife and doesn't give him crap all the time or nag.





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I do IS for a lifetime. Sometimes you're attracted and sometimes your not. Marriage is not something you walk away from for such silly reasons. Why did you get married? You are supposed to work on staying together not finding reasons to leave. Grow up. Otherwise your next husband is going to be left wondering wtf he did wrong when you leave him too...
I'm going through that right now. It was more because feelings in the relationship weren't nurtured and now it feels like we're more roommates than spouses. I'm hanging in there for my son right now but that may not even be enough.
i believe your marital love should change right along with the people sharing it; it should be viewed as a natural growth. love is not always hormone raging and sexy. it is perennial as the grass.
you're in a rut


find a way out...at one point you loved him more than just platonic..correct?


if not, then why did you marry him?
That's why divorce is so prominent in the United States.
when that happened its called : DIVORCE
Drink more wine.