My spouse and I will be divorcing soon, and I want to get him a gift that will help him out when he moves out. I'm not trying to be mean, but I think a cd or game would be pointless. Any ideas?What can I buy my spouse for Christmas that will help in a divorce transition?
how about a gift card to get new pots and pans or towels and washcloths. Something to start his houseWhat can I buy my spouse for Christmas that will help in a divorce transition?
I think it's sweet you want to buy him something to help him out. I would recommend a nice Christmas card and maybe a gift card for Home Sense or Wal-Mart (you can get ANYTHING there). I wouldn't spend too too much but it's nice of you to do something like this for him. Good for you!
don't rule out the cd idea...my wife and I r pretty much going thru the same exact thing right now and she already informed me that she's getting me a cd that includes a song that we both found to be helpful/inspirational during our difficult time. and I really appreciate that she's doing that.
Dr Phil's book about Divorce %26amp; Coping, an address book with all of his family/friends details %26amp; reminders for birthday etc, and finally a letter recapping the good times and hopes for the future. Good luck in 2009!
If you still care this much for your soon to be Ex then why the divorce?
Maybe a second chance would be a great xmas gift....if there is any hope left at all of saving your marriage....you obviously still have some feelings for him.
if he doesnt have a tv to take with him, than that if u are willing to spend that much...maybe just give him a walmart gift card so he can get whatever he needs himself, because he wont know everything for sure untill hes out.
Wow! This is really a strange question. I can't imagine anything making up for a divorce. I'm sorry, but I am at a loss for suggestions.
pots, pans, plates etc
鈾?Microwave
give him a IOU or a raincheack. if you still love him give him one last night.
?
A microwave, he will be warming a lot up.
A one way but ticket.
if your husband is anything like my ex, a cook book.
dont get him anything
how about a gift card for a dating service that would help me out
blue ray dvd player
when he moves out he can watch good movies
An iron? A coffee pot? Gosh, what a weird situation....
Thursday, April 29, 2010
Why do aquarius females allow spouse/partner to cheat on them and they stay with them?
I know 3 that have cheating husbands, its obvious, they know about it, but they stay with them. Why are aquaruis so weak and dumb to allow themselves to be walked all over and cheated on? Are they that desperate for love or afraid to find new partners?Why do aquarius females allow spouse/partner to cheat on them and they stay with them?
We don't really care hahaWhy do aquarius females allow spouse/partner to cheat on them and they stay with them?
That's a good question. It's not a weakness thing. It's an overwhelming tendency to forgive and see the best in people. To Aquarians, cheating is a bad quality, but not necessarily a deal-breaker. It depends on the other aspects of the relationship.
If my guy cheated on me I would confront him but not necessarily leave him. If it was a continued thing, a constant thing, an obvious thing that made me feel the way you are describing these women (weak, dumb, walked on) I would end it. But cheating in and of itself would be forgiveable to me. Everyone approaches these situations differently.
Zindzi: I agree with everything you said except ';they're probably cheating too.'; It happens occassionally but I've never known an Aquarian woman to cheat. Once they commit they commit, it's one of our defining traits (which to OP is probably another reason they put up with it. Aquarians hate both failing and breaking commitments they've made)
Ah ok that makes sense
Wow, what a way to insult a bunch of people you don't know with a vast generalization. When I found out I was being cheated on I didn't stick around. I cut him out of my life and he was the one calling and trying to get back with me. I can be a forgiving person in a relationship but cheating and lying are where I draw the line. So as far as being dumb and weak, you got the wrong one. Don't base ALL Aquarians on the ones you happen to know. When it comes to relationships Venus signs are more important than the Sun sign anyway.
edit: After reading the answer above, you should definitely know that not all Aquarians are like the ones you described LOL
1. Aquarians never want to come off as 'possessive' so they'd usually rather just stay than to make a fuss.
2. They're probably cheating too.
3. ';Weak'; and ';Dumb'; are the last words I'd use to describe Aquarian women. They're probably doing their own thing.
EDIT: Alex G: I wasn't saying that cheating was an Aquarian trait, I just find that most of the time, people who constantly accept their cheating partners back are either too forgiving, or they're cheating also, regardless of their sign.
So, what the hell R u talkin about? U can't generalise like this.
I could not STAY with a man who cheats on ME. Iw ill dumb and never FOrGIVE him. First of ALL, I have dignity ;), and the most important thing is ME !
Well, aquariuas are not possessive and jealous , probably (your 3 friends)have cheated on their husbands too, or they just DON'T CARE (as someone told). I agree with Tiacola, maybe they have a strong WATER influence in their charts. Aquarian woman have strong personalities, I'm suprised.
What?! You got that totally twisted, yo!!
I'm not married but Ima answer your ? though. If I were married and my hus cheated on me I would most def end this sh!t that's going on! But b4 I even get married Ima know what kinda person he is cuz why would i be with someone that i have doubts about, that's just plain stupid! I don't wanna waste my time for that crap! hell naw!!!!!
I'm not desperate nor am i afraid to find new partners. and to let you know we are not weak and dumb!!!! We are extremely independent and very intellectual so.... the 3 aqua's your talking about must have some dominate water signs in their birth charts. You just can't based your opinions and thoughts just cause you know 3 aqua's who are staying with their huz who are cheating.
p.s. to make sure he don't cheat anymore ill cut his d**k off!!!!!! making sure he doesn't have no children at all heheheh ;)
We don't really care hahaWhy do aquarius females allow spouse/partner to cheat on them and they stay with them?
That's a good question. It's not a weakness thing. It's an overwhelming tendency to forgive and see the best in people. To Aquarians, cheating is a bad quality, but not necessarily a deal-breaker. It depends on the other aspects of the relationship.
If my guy cheated on me I would confront him but not necessarily leave him. If it was a continued thing, a constant thing, an obvious thing that made me feel the way you are describing these women (weak, dumb, walked on) I would end it. But cheating in and of itself would be forgiveable to me. Everyone approaches these situations differently.
Zindzi: I agree with everything you said except ';they're probably cheating too.'; It happens occassionally but I've never known an Aquarian woman to cheat. Once they commit they commit, it's one of our defining traits (which to OP is probably another reason they put up with it. Aquarians hate both failing and breaking commitments they've made)
Ah ok that makes sense
Wow, what a way to insult a bunch of people you don't know with a vast generalization. When I found out I was being cheated on I didn't stick around. I cut him out of my life and he was the one calling and trying to get back with me. I can be a forgiving person in a relationship but cheating and lying are where I draw the line. So as far as being dumb and weak, you got the wrong one. Don't base ALL Aquarians on the ones you happen to know. When it comes to relationships Venus signs are more important than the Sun sign anyway.
edit: After reading the answer above, you should definitely know that not all Aquarians are like the ones you described LOL
1. Aquarians never want to come off as 'possessive' so they'd usually rather just stay than to make a fuss.
2. They're probably cheating too.
3. ';Weak'; and ';Dumb'; are the last words I'd use to describe Aquarian women. They're probably doing their own thing.
EDIT: Alex G: I wasn't saying that cheating was an Aquarian trait, I just find that most of the time, people who constantly accept their cheating partners back are either too forgiving, or they're cheating also, regardless of their sign.
So, what the hell R u talkin about? U can't generalise like this.
I could not STAY with a man who cheats on ME. Iw ill dumb and never FOrGIVE him. First of ALL, I have dignity ;), and the most important thing is ME !
Well, aquariuas are not possessive and jealous , probably (your 3 friends)have cheated on their husbands too, or they just DON'T CARE (as someone told). I agree with Tiacola, maybe they have a strong WATER influence in their charts. Aquarian woman have strong personalities, I'm suprised.
What?! You got that totally twisted, yo!!
I'm not married but Ima answer your ? though. If I were married and my hus cheated on me I would most def end this sh!t that's going on! But b4 I even get married Ima know what kinda person he is cuz why would i be with someone that i have doubts about, that's just plain stupid! I don't wanna waste my time for that crap! hell naw!!!!!
I'm not desperate nor am i afraid to find new partners. and to let you know we are not weak and dumb!!!! We are extremely independent and very intellectual so.... the 3 aqua's your talking about must have some dominate water signs in their birth charts. You just can't based your opinions and thoughts just cause you know 3 aqua's who are staying with their huz who are cheating.
p.s. to make sure he don't cheat anymore ill cut his d**k off!!!!!! making sure he doesn't have no children at all heheheh ;)
How can you help relieve the pain and grief of losing a spouse?
How could you handle this grief, words, time,friends hugging you, a stranger grief support group? When together over 40 yrs, how can one adjust not having that person around. Is it normal to want another companion, is it disloyalty to the spouose of so many years? Does it help overcome the lonliness, or just feel guilty?How can you help relieve the pain and grief of losing a spouse?
Some funeral homes / mortuaries provide to the family the possibility of seeing a grief counselor as a part of their services.
Christian ministers are also willing to speak with you about your grief and the types of questions you ask.
I agree, the pain can be intense. Sometimes in our effort to not feel the pain we push away the very people and moments that others come to offer support or prayers. As hard as it seems at the moment, when you will allow even one or two people into your trust to simply sit nearby, it can take the edge off the loneliness of being alone in the house. Desiring a companion's presence is very normal. Marrying quickly, though, making permanent decisions during a time of intense grief may be misguided and a poor choice. Do find an old friend and appreciate each other's company as the next year passes so you can heal.How can you help relieve the pain and grief of losing a spouse?
not so simple to say!!!!!!!!!!!!!
better u search for a good frnd...............
First of all I am sorry and my prayers are with you. My Father passed away a few years ago and it was really hard on my Mother. She kept really busy..and cried quite a bit but after about a month the down episodes seemed less and less. She still has her moments but I think it is normal. Jumping into another relationship probably isn't the answer. You need to go through the grieving process. Spend time with friends and family..and talk about how you feel with your close friends...they are the best support you have at a time like this.
there is an old saying. time heals all wounds. i lost my wife almost 10 years ago. just now finally getting over the grief, denial, and guilt. each person is different, support groups help some, others it dont. you just have to find out what works for you by trying them out. gl, i feel for your loss since i have been there.
We all handle grief differently,I feel that the reason you are looking for another companion is that you want to fill an empty void,which is very normal,The thing about it is no one will ever take the place of your spouse,Jumping into a partner type relation ship will only worsen things on you,You are not being disloyal you are only going through a grief process and it will take time,My advise is to see a counselor and make some friends that can help you out,I am sorry to hear about your loss and I hope that everything works out for you,Just think of the times you had and be grateful you got to be with that person for so long,They would want you to be happy 8-)
Chin up and God Bless you!
Some funeral homes / mortuaries provide to the family the possibility of seeing a grief counselor as a part of their services.
Christian ministers are also willing to speak with you about your grief and the types of questions you ask.
I agree, the pain can be intense. Sometimes in our effort to not feel the pain we push away the very people and moments that others come to offer support or prayers. As hard as it seems at the moment, when you will allow even one or two people into your trust to simply sit nearby, it can take the edge off the loneliness of being alone in the house. Desiring a companion's presence is very normal. Marrying quickly, though, making permanent decisions during a time of intense grief may be misguided and a poor choice. Do find an old friend and appreciate each other's company as the next year passes so you can heal.How can you help relieve the pain and grief of losing a spouse?
not so simple to say!!!!!!!!!!!!!
better u search for a good frnd...............
First of all I am sorry and my prayers are with you. My Father passed away a few years ago and it was really hard on my Mother. She kept really busy..and cried quite a bit but after about a month the down episodes seemed less and less. She still has her moments but I think it is normal. Jumping into another relationship probably isn't the answer. You need to go through the grieving process. Spend time with friends and family..and talk about how you feel with your close friends...they are the best support you have at a time like this.
there is an old saying. time heals all wounds. i lost my wife almost 10 years ago. just now finally getting over the grief, denial, and guilt. each person is different, support groups help some, others it dont. you just have to find out what works for you by trying them out. gl, i feel for your loss since i have been there.
We all handle grief differently,I feel that the reason you are looking for another companion is that you want to fill an empty void,which is very normal,The thing about it is no one will ever take the place of your spouse,Jumping into a partner type relation ship will only worsen things on you,You are not being disloyal you are only going through a grief process and it will take time,My advise is to see a counselor and make some friends that can help you out,I am sorry to hear about your loss and I hope that everything works out for you,Just think of the times you had and be grateful you got to be with that person for so long,They would want you to be happy 8-)
Chin up and God Bless you!
What does the spouse get from the government if the other spouse dies in combat/service in the Canadian army?
My husband and brother are talking about going into the military and I don't think my husband should, we have three small children. So if somthing should happen to him would the Canadian government help me raise my children alone. What do military wifes do? What happens in the States?What does the spouse get from the government if the other spouse dies in combat/service in the Canadian army?
The Canadian government gives the surviving families an apologetic slap on the back and a boot in the ****. The Canadian Forces gives you two years of your spouse's income (tax free) and has your spouse sign up for SSIP (our insurance provider) to ensure that his will (also drawn up through the military, at no cost to you) and estates are taken care of, and the surviving members aren't tightly strapped for cash. It's never a replacement, but it does help with expenses. My husband has almost 20 years in the military, we have two school age children...I joined less than 3 years ago. Depending on what element your husband and brother are looking in to (land, air, sea) will depend on the amount of risk. If they sign up for the army, their chances of an overseas deployment is very, very high, especially in combat or combat support trades. You want them safe? Chair force...er, air force or navy are the best routes. Best bet is to talk to someone at your local recruiting office, or if you know someone who is enlisted (talk to the junior rates, steer clear of the officers) ask questions!What does the spouse get from the government if the other spouse dies in combat/service in the Canadian army?
In the states military wives get $250,000 (life insurance) and no funeral costs if the husband signs for a military burial.
I don't know. I know here in the states spouses get some money. Definitely, not near enough that's for sure
The Canadian government gives the surviving families an apologetic slap on the back and a boot in the ****. The Canadian Forces gives you two years of your spouse's income (tax free) and has your spouse sign up for SSIP (our insurance provider) to ensure that his will (also drawn up through the military, at no cost to you) and estates are taken care of, and the surviving members aren't tightly strapped for cash. It's never a replacement, but it does help with expenses. My husband has almost 20 years in the military, we have two school age children...I joined less than 3 years ago. Depending on what element your husband and brother are looking in to (land, air, sea) will depend on the amount of risk. If they sign up for the army, their chances of an overseas deployment is very, very high, especially in combat or combat support trades. You want them safe? Chair force...er, air force or navy are the best routes. Best bet is to talk to someone at your local recruiting office, or if you know someone who is enlisted (talk to the junior rates, steer clear of the officers) ask questions!What does the spouse get from the government if the other spouse dies in combat/service in the Canadian army?
In the states military wives get $250,000 (life insurance) and no funeral costs if the husband signs for a military burial.
I don't know. I know here in the states spouses get some money. Definitely, not near enough that's for sure
Are you dominant over your spouse?What women think about the men who have low profile personality and vice ver?
By low profile personality i mean the hush hush personality. Which means the person who is not out spoken, quiet , doesn't want confrontations. Does your husband/wife in this way? Are you controlling him/her? Are you man of the house?Are you dominant over your spouse?What women think about the men who have low profile personality and vice ver?
*Are you dominant over your spouse?
No, I respect my husband as the man and provider, and better thinker in our family. Respect being the key and very important word. I get that in return as the wife and mother of the household.
Now, that's not to say that in my emotional time (if you know what I mean) when MOST EVERY WOMAN, to some degree, are emotional, irrational, and for some, down right out of control. (alot of woman deny this fact, deny all you want looool but its true. I repeat MOST EVERY WOMAN). Any way, at that time, I can be a bit domineering and dramatic. When my husband brings it to my attention I say, ';NO, I am just trying to express myself';. And the drama goes on and on and on. looool That's woman.
*What women think about the men who have low profile personality.
Some woman like that when it suits them. I think most of us woman want a man who can take charge of the family and at the same time be sweet, soft and caring and appreciate every little thing we do. lool Some woman want that, but don't want to give that in return. That's wrong!!!
There is no perfect man or perfect woman, but you have to give respect to get respect.
I do know its a big subject and a very important one when you wanna live a peaceful loving life with the same person for a lifetime.
*Are you man of the house?
No way, and NO thank you. Wouldn't want that job. :) God bless you good men out there.Are you dominant over your spouse?What women think about the men who have low profile personality and vice ver?
don't think I am dominant over anyone even my friends. I'm just not a very dominant personality. And I don't think I'm the kind of person who could be controling either and my 2 friends just agreed with me about that. I'm also not a confrontational person and I wouldn't want any man who is confrontational either. If a man likes to keep a low profile and is not outspoken or very opinionated that is fine with me. I also don't mind people with a strong personality but I wouldn't want someone who had such a strong personality that he has to have everything his way all the time. That would mean that I could never have what I wanted unless what I wanted was the exact same thing that he wanted all the time. And people are different, there is no one that you are going to agree with 100% of the time. Marriage is about compromise. I think that a good man will not be able to say no to a good wife who treats him well all the time and vise versa. There is an old saying about be his slave and you'll be his master.
My husband is the opposite from what you call a low profile personality. With this kind of personality he wouldn't make it in his job:)).
I would be in deep trouble trying to controll my hubby. There are things only he takes care of and there also things only I take care of. He doesn't controll me either. We know and trust each other and therefore neither him nor me is man/woman of the house.
I know that it wouldn't work without him working outside the house and he knows things inside the house wouldn't work without me.
trust me now the MAIDS are the men of the house!
@thesaudidude
the truth hurts sometimes =P
Dude, don't close till i post my answer :) -later-
I'd like to take the 1st answer :D
Edit :
I'm Back ..
well, I think this issue is kinda irritating for some PPL especially in the mid. east or Arab countries -as I think-
First Of all marital life is not the life of who domnates who .. it's a shared life -%26amp; the one who think about the domination or power of the other Simply he/she is runis his/her life-
any home must be Managed by one -he MUST listen to the other-
any place in the world is run by one -president, king or Queen sometimes-
%26amp; what always ruin our homes that the parents start to sturggle about the domination ..
they keep doin' so till they end up divorced or anything worse ..
I know some powerful %26amp; wise women -they manage their husbands- the best of it that the husband admit that %26amp; the result they got good homes - those wife keep tellin' that our father is so %26amp; so - to keep the Evil's Eye out :D also if they don't want to something they say ';My husband has prohibited that'; which is not real :)
but the parents who waste their time and effort in these endless Tiffs will end to nothing but sparated and bad homes
Finally .. No man can resist his beloved wife and viceversa .. she/he can get the best out of the other by Good ways ..
Maybe i'll add more later .. i've to go now
check this link :
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
thanks to Alhamdulilah for Choosin' my answer :)
@alRobayan
thanks again .. u said before ';All men R jerks'; and now u said somthing offeseive again.
keep Generalizing Sis :)
EDIT :
wow it's a record :D 4 thumbs Down .. it's good to show ur opinion but it'd be better to discuss it further more :)
thanks anyways for Both Parties Up %26amp; Down
@Shimeringstars01
I was discussin' that issue with My Mommy minutes ago .. she mentioned that saying also :)
*Are you dominant over your spouse?
No, I respect my husband as the man and provider, and better thinker in our family. Respect being the key and very important word. I get that in return as the wife and mother of the household.
Now, that's not to say that in my emotional time (if you know what I mean) when MOST EVERY WOMAN, to some degree, are emotional, irrational, and for some, down right out of control. (alot of woman deny this fact, deny all you want looool but its true. I repeat MOST EVERY WOMAN). Any way, at that time, I can be a bit domineering and dramatic. When my husband brings it to my attention I say, ';NO, I am just trying to express myself';. And the drama goes on and on and on. looool That's woman.
*What women think about the men who have low profile personality.
Some woman like that when it suits them. I think most of us woman want a man who can take charge of the family and at the same time be sweet, soft and caring and appreciate every little thing we do. lool Some woman want that, but don't want to give that in return. That's wrong!!!
There is no perfect man or perfect woman, but you have to give respect to get respect.
I do know its a big subject and a very important one when you wanna live a peaceful loving life with the same person for a lifetime.
*Are you man of the house?
No way, and NO thank you. Wouldn't want that job. :) God bless you good men out there.Are you dominant over your spouse?What women think about the men who have low profile personality and vice ver?
don't think I am dominant over anyone even my friends. I'm just not a very dominant personality. And I don't think I'm the kind of person who could be controling either and my 2 friends just agreed with me about that. I'm also not a confrontational person and I wouldn't want any man who is confrontational either. If a man likes to keep a low profile and is not outspoken or very opinionated that is fine with me. I also don't mind people with a strong personality but I wouldn't want someone who had such a strong personality that he has to have everything his way all the time. That would mean that I could never have what I wanted unless what I wanted was the exact same thing that he wanted all the time. And people are different, there is no one that you are going to agree with 100% of the time. Marriage is about compromise. I think that a good man will not be able to say no to a good wife who treats him well all the time and vise versa. There is an old saying about be his slave and you'll be his master.
My husband is the opposite from what you call a low profile personality. With this kind of personality he wouldn't make it in his job:)).
I would be in deep trouble trying to controll my hubby. There are things only he takes care of and there also things only I take care of. He doesn't controll me either. We know and trust each other and therefore neither him nor me is man/woman of the house.
I know that it wouldn't work without him working outside the house and he knows things inside the house wouldn't work without me.
trust me now the MAIDS are the men of the house!
@thesaudidude
the truth hurts sometimes =P
Dude, don't close till i post my answer :) -later-
I'd like to take the 1st answer :D
Edit :
I'm Back ..
well, I think this issue is kinda irritating for some PPL especially in the mid. east or Arab countries -as I think-
First Of all marital life is not the life of who domnates who .. it's a shared life -%26amp; the one who think about the domination or power of the other Simply he/she is runis his/her life-
any home must be Managed by one -he MUST listen to the other-
any place in the world is run by one -president, king or Queen sometimes-
%26amp; what always ruin our homes that the parents start to sturggle about the domination ..
they keep doin' so till they end up divorced or anything worse ..
I know some powerful %26amp; wise women -they manage their husbands- the best of it that the husband admit that %26amp; the result they got good homes - those wife keep tellin' that our father is so %26amp; so - to keep the Evil's Eye out :D also if they don't want to something they say ';My husband has prohibited that'; which is not real :)
but the parents who waste their time and effort in these endless Tiffs will end to nothing but sparated and bad homes
Finally .. No man can resist his beloved wife and viceversa .. she/he can get the best out of the other by Good ways ..
Maybe i'll add more later .. i've to go now
check this link :
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
thanks to Alhamdulilah for Choosin' my answer :)
@alRobayan
thanks again .. u said before ';All men R jerks'; and now u said somthing offeseive again.
keep Generalizing Sis :)
EDIT :
wow it's a record :D 4 thumbs Down .. it's good to show ur opinion but it'd be better to discuss it further more :)
thanks anyways for Both Parties Up %26amp; Down
@Shimeringstars01
I was discussin' that issue with My Mommy minutes ago .. she mentioned that saying also :)
How can a green card holder petition for a non-US citizen spouse who is currently living outside of the US?
I am a green card holder. I just got married to a non-US citizen. My husband is not currently living in the US. I am planning to petition my husband for green card. I filed for I-130. I am new to this immigration thing. Could anyone tell me what the next step is, please. Your help is much appreciated. Thank you.How can a green card holder petition for a non-US citizen spouse who is currently living outside of the US?
Pretty much the same way as any citizen. the primary difference is the time frame. since you're currently a green card holder, the petition you filed for your husband falls into the F2a family preference category, and those take about 5 years from the time they are filed before they are valid for use. Of course, if you become a citizen while you're waiting, the petition would be upgraded to an IR-1 petition and that would be valid immediately. if that happens, be sure to tell USCIS about your petition as they won't go looking for it unless you do.
When your petition gets closer to being valid, you'll be contacted by the National Visa Center for an Affidavit of Support. then, it will be sent out to the embassy or consulate handling immigrant visas where your husband lives. but for now, you're in for a long wait.How can a green card holder petition for a non-US citizen spouse who is currently living outside of the US?
File the Form I-130 which you can find on uscis.gov. Since you are not a US citizen the visa will not be available immediately. If approved monitor the visa bulletin on the state department site to see if your priority date has come up. When it does become available your spouse can file the I-485 and hopefully get admitted to the US as a resident.
You can petition through the USCIS like any US citizen but you will have to wait much longer to get your petition approved (longer means several years).
why dont u get a lawyer,,coz i think u cant petition anyone unless ur a citizen..u do have green card right but still ur not a citizen..ask a lawyer wud be the best solution..
GO BACK TO YOUR COUNTRY WITH THEM ;)john masters oil acne
Pretty much the same way as any citizen. the primary difference is the time frame. since you're currently a green card holder, the petition you filed for your husband falls into the F2a family preference category, and those take about 5 years from the time they are filed before they are valid for use. Of course, if you become a citizen while you're waiting, the petition would be upgraded to an IR-1 petition and that would be valid immediately. if that happens, be sure to tell USCIS about your petition as they won't go looking for it unless you do.
When your petition gets closer to being valid, you'll be contacted by the National Visa Center for an Affidavit of Support. then, it will be sent out to the embassy or consulate handling immigrant visas where your husband lives. but for now, you're in for a long wait.How can a green card holder petition for a non-US citizen spouse who is currently living outside of the US?
File the Form I-130 which you can find on uscis.gov. Since you are not a US citizen the visa will not be available immediately. If approved monitor the visa bulletin on the state department site to see if your priority date has come up. When it does become available your spouse can file the I-485 and hopefully get admitted to the US as a resident.
You can petition through the USCIS like any US citizen but you will have to wait much longer to get your petition approved (longer means several years).
why dont u get a lawyer,,coz i think u cant petition anyone unless ur a citizen..u do have green card right but still ur not a citizen..ask a lawyer wud be the best solution..
GO BACK TO YOUR COUNTRY WITH THEM ;)
How often can an ex-spouse file a motion to modify in Missouri?
I am in the middle of one (make more money than I did when we were divorced two years ago) and feel absolutely helpless. My attorney basically keeps saying theres nothing we can do since Im at the top of the state's table. Can she do this ANY time? Can I file if I make less next year? Should I expect to have to pay her legal fees?How often can an ex-spouse file a motion to modify in Missouri?
Hate to tell you this, but she's got you. The judge can order you to pay her legal fees too. However, if you start making less money, you must go back to court and get the judgement modified. As long as you can prove the change in income, a judge will more than likely reduce it according to the state's income table.How often can an ex-spouse file a motion to modify in Missouri?
Every 30 days if your income has increased or decreased by 20%. That is either parent for child support, since alimony is almost nonexistent in all states I assume we are talking about child support. It is a fairly new law in Missouri.
As often as she wants. She can apply each time you get a raise. Rightfully, she should not get attorney fees. But, she can ask for them.
There are Federal Guidelines for child support.
Provided said judge follows the guidelines and doesn't require more. The only reason you'll need an attorney, is to insure you aren't raped in the courtroom.
Simply retain an attorney to appear with you, to insure your not raped....couple of hours tops. Much lower bill. Explain to said attorney, he is only there to protect your rights, NOT argue the case, unless the judge goes overboard. He (the attorney) will simply explain to the judge, he is only there to protect your rights. The judge will rule...done deal.
The way the law is now, when you get a raise, the ex gets a raise. Not much to argue about there...sorry.
FROM the judges' prospective: You shell out a couple of grand for an attorney, you can afford a couple of hundred extra a month.
Hate to tell you this, but she's got you. The judge can order you to pay her legal fees too. However, if you start making less money, you must go back to court and get the judgement modified. As long as you can prove the change in income, a judge will more than likely reduce it according to the state's income table.How often can an ex-spouse file a motion to modify in Missouri?
Every 30 days if your income has increased or decreased by 20%. That is either parent for child support, since alimony is almost nonexistent in all states I assume we are talking about child support. It is a fairly new law in Missouri.
As often as she wants. She can apply each time you get a raise. Rightfully, she should not get attorney fees. But, she can ask for them.
There are Federal Guidelines for child support.
Provided said judge follows the guidelines and doesn't require more. The only reason you'll need an attorney, is to insure you aren't raped in the courtroom.
Simply retain an attorney to appear with you, to insure your not raped....couple of hours tops. Much lower bill. Explain to said attorney, he is only there to protect your rights, NOT argue the case, unless the judge goes overboard. He (the attorney) will simply explain to the judge, he is only there to protect your rights. The judge will rule...done deal.
The way the law is now, when you get a raise, the ex gets a raise. Not much to argue about there...sorry.
FROM the judges' prospective: You shell out a couple of grand for an attorney, you can afford a couple of hundred extra a month.
What happens if a seperated spouse dosent answer a solicitors letters?
I have been separated from my partner for nearly 2yrs. i have just gone to see a solicitor to work out property affairs etc. I tried 3 x to talk to the x about halving everything, that got me nowhere so last resort is going to solicitor and get him to work it out. But what i would like to know is, my ex has been sent letters and advised to go see a solicitor of their own, But what happens from here if they don't reply or get their own solicitor?
Thank you very much in advance.
Stay safe all.What happens if a seperated spouse dosent answer a solicitors letters?
Eventually, you will go to court and a judge will make a ruling. Other than it taking a long time, you're better off if he doesn't get a lawyer.What happens if a seperated spouse dosent answer a solicitors letters?
Ask your solicitor what happens now, obviously he will know.
Thank you very much in advance.
Stay safe all.What happens if a seperated spouse dosent answer a solicitors letters?
Eventually, you will go to court and a judge will make a ruling. Other than it taking a long time, you're better off if he doesn't get a lawyer.What happens if a seperated spouse dosent answer a solicitors letters?
Ask your solicitor what happens now, obviously he will know.
How do I help my spouse who has depression if I also feel depressed?
My husband has mild depression (suspected, not verified by a medical professional). I've been taking care of him since he stopped working about 1+yr ago. Right now, I'm also starting to feel depressed (having some symptoms like irritability, lethargy, feeling sad and suicidal occasionally). How do I continue to look after him and encourage him to find a new job before I sink deeper into depression? I'm holding a full-time job and cannot be there for him 24/7.How do I help my spouse who has depression if I also feel depressed?
read the bible god will helpHow do I help my spouse who has depression if I also feel depressed?
It totally makes sense that you would start becoming depressed when you're taking care of him 24/7 plus working a full time job. That's why there are such things as support groups for people who take care of ill relatives. I'm not saying he's ill, I have no idea - but its got to be taking a toll on you. Also, I'm confused as to why you have to take care of him all the time. Isn't he a full grown man capable of taking care of himself, especially when you are working full time?
If you have a medical doctor you trust, I would start there. He/She may be able to help or at least refer you to someone who can. You or your spouse may needs meds to help get out of the funk, or at least some counseling might help. If you are a member of a church, talking to your priest/pastor/whatever could be helpful.
The worst thing to do is nothing. Things like this usually keep getting worse unless you ask for help and follow through.
My heart really goes out to you!! I used to be very depressed, too. I came to Jesus and he is the best friend I could ever ask for! I used to think my husband would make me happy, but now I know that Jesus is the only One who can love me perfectly! He loves you more than anyone else can. If you come to him, believing he can save you, he will! You can come to him wherever you are. Just believe he died on the cross for your sins and ask him to forgive you. If you want to be his, you have to give up everything that comes between you and him, but it's so worth it!
I'm praying for you and your husband! That sounds like a really hard situation. I remember being depressed when my first son was a baby. I would try to be happy for his sake, but I knew my sadness affected him. Jesus gives me so much joy now! The more I realize how much he loves me, the more joy I have to share with others!
I would love to be there for you to encourage you. If you ever want to talk, you can email me.
read the bible god will helpHow do I help my spouse who has depression if I also feel depressed?
It totally makes sense that you would start becoming depressed when you're taking care of him 24/7 plus working a full time job. That's why there are such things as support groups for people who take care of ill relatives. I'm not saying he's ill, I have no idea - but its got to be taking a toll on you. Also, I'm confused as to why you have to take care of him all the time. Isn't he a full grown man capable of taking care of himself, especially when you are working full time?
If you have a medical doctor you trust, I would start there. He/She may be able to help or at least refer you to someone who can. You or your spouse may needs meds to help get out of the funk, or at least some counseling might help. If you are a member of a church, talking to your priest/pastor/whatever could be helpful.
The worst thing to do is nothing. Things like this usually keep getting worse unless you ask for help and follow through.
My heart really goes out to you!! I used to be very depressed, too. I came to Jesus and he is the best friend I could ever ask for! I used to think my husband would make me happy, but now I know that Jesus is the only One who can love me perfectly! He loves you more than anyone else can. If you come to him, believing he can save you, he will! You can come to him wherever you are. Just believe he died on the cross for your sins and ask him to forgive you. If you want to be his, you have to give up everything that comes between you and him, but it's so worth it!
I'm praying for you and your husband! That sounds like a really hard situation. I remember being depressed when my first son was a baby. I would try to be happy for his sake, but I knew my sadness affected him. Jesus gives me so much joy now! The more I realize how much he loves me, the more joy I have to share with others!
I would love to be there for you to encourage you. If you ever want to talk, you can email me.
How long to get a spouse visa to United States from Morocco?
I am a U.S citizen I would like to know if anyone knows a time frame for the whole process for him to come to U.S from Morocco? Any info will be helpful Thanks so much! They recieved the papers on Dec. 04, 2007How long to get a spouse visa to United States from Morocco?
There have been others here in the past, trying to petition a spouse from North Africa, and it's taken them over a year. That seems to be longer than the average spouse petition takes.
There have been others here in the past, trying to petition a spouse from North Africa, and it's taken them over a year. That seems to be longer than the average spouse petition takes.
Why was some of my Stimulus payment taken if i filed Injured Spouse?
I filed Injured Spouse this year on my taxes because my husband owes back child support. I got my half of my tax return, but they took half of MY stimulus payment. I understand they are to take my husbands share, but why did they take half of my Stimulus Payment?Why was some of my Stimulus payment taken if i filed Injured Spouse?
They didn't take half of YOUR payment - there isn't a YOUR payment. There is a joint payment to the two of you totalling $900. They took half of it, and because of the injured spouse payment, sent you the other half, $450.Why was some of my Stimulus payment taken if i filed Injured Spouse?
You need to look at line 57 plus line 52 of your tax return to determine the amount of your rebate - not everyone got $600 per person. Some people got $300. Most news reports I heard or read only focused on the $600 amount and did not tell people that some people would not get the full amount.
Since your other question said that you expected $1,500 and you got $900, you probably did not pay enough in taxes to get the full amount of $1,500. You got $300 for you, $300 for your husband and $300 for your kid.
If you had no tax liability you got $300/$600 if married joint. If you had a tax liability of $600 or more, you got the full $600. If you were married, you had to have $1,200 of tax liability to get the full $1,200 rebate.
They didn't take half of YOUR payment - there isn't a YOUR payment. There is a joint payment to the two of you totalling $900. They took half of it, and because of the injured spouse payment, sent you the other half, $450.Why was some of my Stimulus payment taken if i filed Injured Spouse?
You need to look at line 57 plus line 52 of your tax return to determine the amount of your rebate - not everyone got $600 per person. Some people got $300. Most news reports I heard or read only focused on the $600 amount and did not tell people that some people would not get the full amount.
Since your other question said that you expected $1,500 and you got $900, you probably did not pay enough in taxes to get the full amount of $1,500. You got $300 for you, $300 for your husband and $300 for your kid.
If you had no tax liability you got $300/$600 if married joint. If you had a tax liability of $600 or more, you got the full $600. If you were married, you had to have $1,200 of tax liability to get the full $1,200 rebate.
How long after leaving your spouse did you start to feel better?
About 30 seconds....really....How long after leaving your spouse did you start to feel better?
It's different for everybody, and depends on a lot of factors. Who left who, and why. Are there any kids involved. Even how you made out in the divorce settlement can play a part in it.
It took a very long time for me. I was certain my first husband was my soul mate. We were together for 10 years and had 2 kids. I left him, but I was still very sad and bitter that it had to come to that.
It does get better, though. If I had not left him, I would not now be with my second husband, so it was a blessing in disguise.
God never closes a door without opening a window!How long after leaving your spouse did you start to feel better?
It took me about a month to kinda get my life back ( stop crying, start eating, start having a life) And it took me about 6 months to COMPLETELY be ok with being single. I don't even really think about him anymore...or care about him. I never thought I would be like this..but I am and I am soooo glad. I'm much happier now and have recently started dating again...so far so good. :) Hang in there...IT WILL GET BETTER!
I don't think there a time table. It's just like a ';death';. All of us grieve a death in different ways and different lengths of time.
As for me, I felt better knowing I could go home and not be beat, or spit on. I could go home and RELAX.
About 3 months after the relationship ended I found a sexy Marine to ease the pain for a few weeks. I then realized I was much better without the ex after that experience. (I wasnt married to my ex, but I was engaged for like 6 years to him)
Each person is different, but usually the first few weeks are the hardest. After that, things really do start to fall into place. It depends on what you do, do you take up hobbies? Spend time with friends? Work? Start dating again?
you have to keep yourself occupied and eventually you'll stop forgetting that you're waiting to get over the split. it just depends.
I felt kind of good and free but still had feelings for him because we been together for so long and its hard to get over someone that you love
2 long years.
Its different for everybody. Time is a healer.
We split up on palm sunday this year, and I still don't really feel better about it. So I'll let you know.
Immediately right after.
2-1/2 years
It took me about 18 long months.
great question....we're talking about splitting and it's been hard on me...i wonder this too
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It's different for everybody, and depends on a lot of factors. Who left who, and why. Are there any kids involved. Even how you made out in the divorce settlement can play a part in it.
It took a very long time for me. I was certain my first husband was my soul mate. We were together for 10 years and had 2 kids. I left him, but I was still very sad and bitter that it had to come to that.
It does get better, though. If I had not left him, I would not now be with my second husband, so it was a blessing in disguise.
God never closes a door without opening a window!How long after leaving your spouse did you start to feel better?
It took me about a month to kinda get my life back ( stop crying, start eating, start having a life) And it took me about 6 months to COMPLETELY be ok with being single. I don't even really think about him anymore...or care about him. I never thought I would be like this..but I am and I am soooo glad. I'm much happier now and have recently started dating again...so far so good. :) Hang in there...IT WILL GET BETTER!
I don't think there a time table. It's just like a ';death';. All of us grieve a death in different ways and different lengths of time.
As for me, I felt better knowing I could go home and not be beat, or spit on. I could go home and RELAX.
About 3 months after the relationship ended I found a sexy Marine to ease the pain for a few weeks. I then realized I was much better without the ex after that experience. (I wasnt married to my ex, but I was engaged for like 6 years to him)
Each person is different, but usually the first few weeks are the hardest. After that, things really do start to fall into place. It depends on what you do, do you take up hobbies? Spend time with friends? Work? Start dating again?
you have to keep yourself occupied and eventually you'll stop forgetting that you're waiting to get over the split. it just depends.
I felt kind of good and free but still had feelings for him because we been together for so long and its hard to get over someone that you love
2 long years.
Its different for everybody. Time is a healer.
We split up on palm sunday this year, and I still don't really feel better about it. So I'll let you know.
Immediately right after.
2-1/2 years
It took me about 18 long months.
great question....we're talking about splitting and it's been hard on me...i wonder this too
i am in the playpen with sweet mildred
Is is appropriate for a spouse to give boss a gift from Victoria Secret?
A man who you've been seriously dating for some time gives his co-worker (boss) a gift card from Victoria Secrets as a wedding gift. Is that professional? Would you be concerned especially if he has never bought you anything (as far as clothes) and you have never met the person. You were not even invited to the wedding. What do you think?Is is appropriate for a spouse to give boss a gift from Victoria Secret?
I do not think it is professional, however there may be circumstances where it is appropriate. I depends on how close knit the organization is. If there are only a couple of workers and everyone is close. If it is for instance a plant with many workers, and he is just a person working, no, it is not right. Especially only from him. The gift should be sent since you as a couple were not invited and let go at that. Personally, he should go to where they are registered and drop 20 bucks on a gift she has asked for. Other then that, a congrats card would have sufficed.Is is appropriate for a spouse to give boss a gift from Victoria Secret?
You could be over-analyzing the situation (girls tend to do that), but I would be concerned. I definitely know where you are coming from, but all you can really do is ask him about it and tell express to him why this would upset you. How would he feel if the situation i reversed? Playboy subscription for your boss, lol?
Id just say hes not a very good gift giver.
I wouldn't think much of it.
Also, he's just a guy. Guys will always be goofs.
Lastly, if his boss was a male, then yes, it would be unprofessional
:D haha
The woman is getting married. I think maybe he is confused about what a tasteful gift is, but is trying to get her something any way.
I would think of him as a man who doesn't know how to shop for a woman and played it ';safe'; by getting a gift card from Victoria Secret.
If your trying to make a play for the boss, then yes. By all means.
Sounds a little fishy to me.
strange gift for wedding present i would let groom to worry :}
well, if i were you, i'd be really jealous and kinda suspicious. i'd try asking him why he did that. hope that helps!
I do not think it is professional, however there may be circumstances where it is appropriate. I depends on how close knit the organization is. If there are only a couple of workers and everyone is close. If it is for instance a plant with many workers, and he is just a person working, no, it is not right. Especially only from him. The gift should be sent since you as a couple were not invited and let go at that. Personally, he should go to where they are registered and drop 20 bucks on a gift she has asked for. Other then that, a congrats card would have sufficed.Is is appropriate for a spouse to give boss a gift from Victoria Secret?
You could be over-analyzing the situation (girls tend to do that), but I would be concerned. I definitely know where you are coming from, but all you can really do is ask him about it and tell express to him why this would upset you. How would he feel if the situation i reversed? Playboy subscription for your boss, lol?
Id just say hes not a very good gift giver.
I wouldn't think much of it.
Also, he's just a guy. Guys will always be goofs.
Lastly, if his boss was a male, then yes, it would be unprofessional
:D haha
The woman is getting married. I think maybe he is confused about what a tasteful gift is, but is trying to get her something any way.
I would think of him as a man who doesn't know how to shop for a woman and played it ';safe'; by getting a gift card from Victoria Secret.
If your trying to make a play for the boss, then yes. By all means.
Sounds a little fishy to me.
strange gift for wedding present i would let groom to worry :}
well, if i were you, i'd be really jealous and kinda suspicious. i'd try asking him why he did that. hope that helps!
What are the best careers or degrees to hold as a military spouse?
I am looking for careers or degrees that travel well from location to location or those for which you can telecommute. I'm looking for actual military spouses with experience in this realm. Also, advice contrary to a certain career would be helpful as well. (i.e. I was a nurse and had trouble getting recertified each time we moved...)
I have a bachelors degree in Communication and I interned in HR. I am interested in getting my master's soon, but I'm debating into which field I should enter. Any advice?What are the best careers or degrees to hold as a military spouse?
I'm in the same boat. I have a bachelors in anthropology, but there is not much that I can do with it since we have to move every 2-3 years. I am working as an admin at the moment and there is a future at my company, with the option of telecommuting when we psc again. But I really would like to get a masters degree but have no clue what to major in.
Though I am not at all interested in it, you could always get your MBA. They are pretty versatile and so long as you are stationed near a big city there are almost always corporate jobs.What are the best careers or degrees to hold as a military spouse?
I think that Physician Assistants are nationally certified and therefore don't have to be recertified each time they move. I you are already a nurse it probably wouldn't be too difficult to get into PA school.
I have a bachelors degree in Communication and I interned in HR. I am interested in getting my master's soon, but I'm debating into which field I should enter. Any advice?What are the best careers or degrees to hold as a military spouse?
I'm in the same boat. I have a bachelors in anthropology, but there is not much that I can do with it since we have to move every 2-3 years. I am working as an admin at the moment and there is a future at my company, with the option of telecommuting when we psc again. But I really would like to get a masters degree but have no clue what to major in.
Though I am not at all interested in it, you could always get your MBA. They are pretty versatile and so long as you are stationed near a big city there are almost always corporate jobs.What are the best careers or degrees to hold as a military spouse?
I think that Physician Assistants are nationally certified and therefore don't have to be recertified each time they move. I you are already a nurse it probably wouldn't be too difficult to get into PA school.
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Do you and your spouse ever just start laughing in the middle of an argument?
Like the argument has gotten so silly and out of control that you both just start laughing about it...
do any couples ever do this?Do you and your spouse ever just start laughing in the middle of an argument?
Nope. Only during sex. I will wait until she about to climax and I start laughing hysterically. She really hates it when I do that during BJ's.Do you and your spouse ever just start laughing in the middle of an argument?
Don't know because we haven't had an arguement. But we have cracked up laughing so hard in the middle of other conversations. Some of the best are when one of us starts something in bed (conversation) and the other just starts to giggle and can't stop - then that makes the other one start laughing.
Haha, that just happened to my wife and I the other day! We got into an argument about how to cook ramen noodles, and at one point she screamed ';Give me 5 seconds!!!'; I couldn't help it, I just dropped on the floor and started laughing hysterically!!
kinda.. i was the only one laughing... i can laugh sometimes at really inappropriate times. i can't really help it and it always makes things worse.. it's like a nervous reaction or something but it can really make me look like a *********.
It happens to me and my hubby too! Probably about 3/4 of the arguments we get into are really dumb and have no place in our marriage. As soon as we realize how stupid it is we are pretty good at laughing it off. I think it is a healthy release!
Yes, and its one of the best ways that we end our fights (in addtion to make-up ***).
We will just realize that we are getting to a point that makes no sense and we don't even remember why we started in the first place.
I have done this before. I just started laughing and told him that it wasn't important enough to me to continue arguing about. He was not amused and it took him a few minutes to come down. Somethines he tinks I am nuts.
it happens all the time...
its the moment when both of us come to the realization how ridiculous the argument is...
Yes. It has happened to us 2 times. We went from yelling to each other out of the top of our lungs to just not being able to stop laughing.
That happened once to us and while she was laughing I hit her in the head with a frying pan. She doesn't want to argue that much anymore.
One time we were having an argument about the size of my package. I told her it was ';average'; and she started laughing.
Is that what you mean?
Yep, couple of times.
it happens most of the time ........half of our arguments are solved like that
do any couples ever do this?Do you and your spouse ever just start laughing in the middle of an argument?
Nope. Only during sex. I will wait until she about to climax and I start laughing hysterically. She really hates it when I do that during BJ's.Do you and your spouse ever just start laughing in the middle of an argument?
Don't know because we haven't had an arguement. But we have cracked up laughing so hard in the middle of other conversations. Some of the best are when one of us starts something in bed (conversation) and the other just starts to giggle and can't stop - then that makes the other one start laughing.
Haha, that just happened to my wife and I the other day! We got into an argument about how to cook ramen noodles, and at one point she screamed ';Give me 5 seconds!!!'; I couldn't help it, I just dropped on the floor and started laughing hysterically!!
kinda.. i was the only one laughing... i can laugh sometimes at really inappropriate times. i can't really help it and it always makes things worse.. it's like a nervous reaction or something but it can really make me look like a *********.
It happens to me and my hubby too! Probably about 3/4 of the arguments we get into are really dumb and have no place in our marriage. As soon as we realize how stupid it is we are pretty good at laughing it off. I think it is a healthy release!
Yes, and its one of the best ways that we end our fights (in addtion to make-up ***).
We will just realize that we are getting to a point that makes no sense and we don't even remember why we started in the first place.
I have done this before. I just started laughing and told him that it wasn't important enough to me to continue arguing about. He was not amused and it took him a few minutes to come down. Somethines he tinks I am nuts.
it happens all the time...
its the moment when both of us come to the realization how ridiculous the argument is...
Yes. It has happened to us 2 times. We went from yelling to each other out of the top of our lungs to just not being able to stop laughing.
That happened once to us and while she was laughing I hit her in the head with a frying pan. She doesn't want to argue that much anymore.
One time we were having an argument about the size of my package. I told her it was ';average'; and she started laughing.
Is that what you mean?
Yep, couple of times.
it happens most of the time ........half of our arguments are solved like that
What things could your spouse do that would make you immediately leave, no questions asked?
Aside from cheating, what is something that you would walk out over?
Mine would be any sort of abuse toward a child.What things could your spouse do that would make you immediately leave, no questions asked?
Murder. I've thought about this one before. She could do just about anything else, including cheating or hitting a kid, and i might still try to work it out. But if she killed somebody, I would need to separate.What things could your spouse do that would make you immediately leave, no questions asked?
Sleep with one of my family members or friends,
any child related deviance or abuse to any child
need to be listed as a sex offender
drunk driving accident and hurt someone (or maybe just a DUI)
Be a drunk Jack ***
Make a public specticle of either of us
Abuse me
Hitting me or the kids, abusing the kids, drugs or alcohol. I'd also leave if I felt threatened or betrayed financially/emotionally/physically.
He knows this too.
In order of it's importance:
- Suddenly realizing he's a sociopath
- Adultery
- Alcoholism
- Drug addiction
- Gambling
Don't tell him, but I'd forgive one slip of the hand. I can be a pain in the ****.
If he:
-hit me even once
-hurt our child or someone else's child
-arrest for something perverted
My wife can do anything she pleases. What ever makes her happy. I do mean anything. I think the only thing that I would leave my wife, its that if she murder someone.
Perhaps not cheating it depends on the circumstances..the latter you mentioned yes and if he hit me I would not give him a second chance.
Physical abuse toward me or my children.
Physical abuse. Love should never leave physical marks.
Aside from cheating... if he lied about something big, if he hit me, or if he tried to hurt me on purpose in anyway.
Any kind of abuse on a child, me or an animal
Cheating
any abuse of me or our children.
If he hit me.
Harming my daughter in some way...and if that were to happen, I wouldn't walk out, I'd kill him.
Mine would be any sort of abuse toward a child.What things could your spouse do that would make you immediately leave, no questions asked?
Murder. I've thought about this one before. She could do just about anything else, including cheating or hitting a kid, and i might still try to work it out. But if she killed somebody, I would need to separate.What things could your spouse do that would make you immediately leave, no questions asked?
Sleep with one of my family members or friends,
any child related deviance or abuse to any child
need to be listed as a sex offender
drunk driving accident and hurt someone (or maybe just a DUI)
Be a drunk Jack ***
Make a public specticle of either of us
Abuse me
Hitting me or the kids, abusing the kids, drugs or alcohol. I'd also leave if I felt threatened or betrayed financially/emotionally/physically.
He knows this too.
In order of it's importance:
- Suddenly realizing he's a sociopath
- Adultery
- Alcoholism
- Drug addiction
- Gambling
Don't tell him, but I'd forgive one slip of the hand. I can be a pain in the ****.
If he:
-hit me even once
-hurt our child or someone else's child
-arrest for something perverted
My wife can do anything she pleases. What ever makes her happy. I do mean anything. I think the only thing that I would leave my wife, its that if she murder someone.
Perhaps not cheating it depends on the circumstances..the latter you mentioned yes and if he hit me I would not give him a second chance.
Physical abuse toward me or my children.
Physical abuse. Love should never leave physical marks.
Aside from cheating... if he lied about something big, if he hit me, or if he tried to hurt me on purpose in anyway.
Any kind of abuse on a child, me or an animal
Cheating
any abuse of me or our children.
If he hit me.
Harming my daughter in some way...and if that were to happen, I wouldn't walk out, I'd kill him.
How long after receiving entry in to the UK via settlement spouse visa must a person come to the UK?
My father recently received entry into the UK via settlement spouse visa which my mom applied for. Now I just want to be sure on time line of how long he has to come to the is country. We are still waiting to hear from the lawyers but just wondered if anyone here knew b/c we think it may be three months.How long after receiving entry in to the UK via settlement spouse visa must a person come to the UK?
Once he has the Spouse visa, he can use it any time he wishes up to expiry.
What he needs to be aware of though is that to obtain Indefinite Leave to Remain (permanent residence) in order to be free of immigration control, he needs to be actually resident in the UK for two years. If he delays his travel to the UK, he will have to renew his current two year visa as his residency will not entitle him to apply for ILR if he has been in the UK for less than two years Residency is counted from the date he enters the UK, not the date of the visa.
The same is true of his eligibility for citizenship which is going to get much harder to obtain over the next year. He currently must have held ILR for one full year before he is eligible to apply for citizenship. If he delays his ILR, he may find citizenship harder to obtain as the rules tighten over the next year and residency becomes a secondary factor to a migrant's economic and social contribution to British society.
Once he has the Spouse visa, he can use it any time he wishes up to expiry.
What he needs to be aware of though is that to obtain Indefinite Leave to Remain (permanent residence) in order to be free of immigration control, he needs to be actually resident in the UK for two years. If he delays his travel to the UK, he will have to renew his current two year visa as his residency will not entitle him to apply for ILR if he has been in the UK for less than two years Residency is counted from the date he enters the UK, not the date of the visa.
The same is true of his eligibility for citizenship which is going to get much harder to obtain over the next year. He currently must have held ILR for one full year before he is eligible to apply for citizenship. If he delays his ILR, he may find citizenship harder to obtain as the rules tighten over the next year and residency becomes a secondary factor to a migrant's economic and social contribution to British society.
How long after receiving entry in to the UK via settlement spouse visa must a person come to the UK?
My father recently received entry into the UK via settlement spouse visa which my mom applied for. Now I just want to be sure on time line of how long he has to come to the is country. We are still waiting to hear from the lawyers but just wondered if anyone here knew b/c we think it may be three months.How long after receiving entry in to the UK via settlement spouse visa must a person come to the UK?
Once he has the Spouse visa, he can use it any time he wishes up to expiry.
What he needs to be aware of though is that to obtain Indefinite Leave to Remain (permanent residence) in order to be free of immigration control, he needs to be actually resident in the UK for two years. If he delays his travel to the UK, he will have to renew his current two year visa as his residency will not entitle him to apply for ILR if he has been in the UK for less than two years Residency is counted from the date he enters the UK, not the date of the visa.
The same is true of his eligibility for citizenship which is going to get much harder to obtain over the next year. He currently must have held ILR for one full year before he is eligible to apply for citizenship. If he delays his ILR, he may find citizenship harder to obtain as the rules tighten over the next year and residency becomes a secondary factor to a migrant's economic and social contribution to British society.john masters oil acne
Once he has the Spouse visa, he can use it any time he wishes up to expiry.
What he needs to be aware of though is that to obtain Indefinite Leave to Remain (permanent residence) in order to be free of immigration control, he needs to be actually resident in the UK for two years. If he delays his travel to the UK, he will have to renew his current two year visa as his residency will not entitle him to apply for ILR if he has been in the UK for less than two years Residency is counted from the date he enters the UK, not the date of the visa.
The same is true of his eligibility for citizenship which is going to get much harder to obtain over the next year. He currently must have held ILR for one full year before he is eligible to apply for citizenship. If he delays his ILR, he may find citizenship harder to obtain as the rules tighten over the next year and residency becomes a secondary factor to a migrant's economic and social contribution to British society.
Are you and your spouse opposites? What are your favorite things about being different from one another?
Also - how have you found middle ground?
My future hubby and I are opposites but we are crazy about each other.
Just wondering how your marriage has been enriched by these differences.Are you and your spouse opposites? What are your favorite things about being different from one another?
My husband and I are complete opposites in many areas such as:
I'm very frugle with my finances and he's a spender. He tells me to relax and spend every now and then and tell him, that somehting is not worth spending money on. We always come to an agreement.
He's a talker and I'm more of a listener.
I get stressed out fairly easily and need to get things done in the instant I think of them and he's a major procrastinator. I'm a motivator for him to accomplish more. I know I have been a large reason why he has accomplished so much since we've been married.
While we have many differences in personality and it definatelt makes it fun :) we have the same goals in life moral beliefs, and religion. These would factors that would be very difficult to have different.
A marriage is lots of fun when you make the best all the varieties.
Best wishes to you both!
Are you and your spouse opposites? What are your favorite things about being different from one another?
We are opposite in more ways than we are alike.
But the best things about being different are that when one wants to do something that the other doesn't enjoy, it makes for good time apart. And we all know the value of some time spent away from each other.
Many of her differences have also exposed me to things I wouldn't have ever experienced.
my old man and mom are opposites ...... extreme a la extreme ......
They talk a lot too, i think thats how they find middle ground, pure logic ............ communication is the key
My gf and i cant put the phone down without a fight, but we too are crazy about each other, the decisions that we make sometimes amazes us at our correctness
We have been living for 2 years now, and man i am still crazy about her, telling her what i feel always relaxes her enough to voice her opinions or concerns, this helps us work out around ...........
I learnt having a spouse that is an opposite, keeps the mystery alive, its still hard to predict how will he/she react to situations, this is what i love about her,
though i have seen the like attracts like doesnt work well in the long run
hope this helps
goodluck with your fiance
My future hubby and I are opposites but we are crazy about each other.
Just wondering how your marriage has been enriched by these differences.Are you and your spouse opposites? What are your favorite things about being different from one another?
My husband and I are complete opposites in many areas such as:
I'm very frugle with my finances and he's a spender. He tells me to relax and spend every now and then and tell him, that somehting is not worth spending money on. We always come to an agreement.
He's a talker and I'm more of a listener.
I get stressed out fairly easily and need to get things done in the instant I think of them and he's a major procrastinator. I'm a motivator for him to accomplish more. I know I have been a large reason why he has accomplished so much since we've been married.
While we have many differences in personality and it definatelt makes it fun :) we have the same goals in life moral beliefs, and religion. These would factors that would be very difficult to have different.
A marriage is lots of fun when you make the best all the varieties.
Best wishes to you both!
Are you and your spouse opposites? What are your favorite things about being different from one another?
We are opposite in more ways than we are alike.
But the best things about being different are that when one wants to do something that the other doesn't enjoy, it makes for good time apart. And we all know the value of some time spent away from each other.
Many of her differences have also exposed me to things I wouldn't have ever experienced.
my old man and mom are opposites ...... extreme a la extreme ......
They talk a lot too, i think thats how they find middle ground, pure logic ............ communication is the key
My gf and i cant put the phone down without a fight, but we too are crazy about each other, the decisions that we make sometimes amazes us at our correctness
We have been living for 2 years now, and man i am still crazy about her, telling her what i feel always relaxes her enough to voice her opinions or concerns, this helps us work out around ...........
I learnt having a spouse that is an opposite, keeps the mystery alive, its still hard to predict how will he/she react to situations, this is what i love about her,
though i have seen the like attracts like doesnt work well in the long run
hope this helps
goodluck with your fiance
What should I do to prepare myself as a future military spouse?
My fiance and I will be married in a few months. He's in the Navy. I would like to know any tips anyone has for making things work for the long haul. What should I expect besides deployments (we've already been through him being in Iraq last year). I know that there will be some difficult times but I am excited about facing those challenges with him. I would appreciate any advice anyone has! Thanks!What should I do to prepare myself as a future military spouse?
I'd recommend that you involve yourself in a career or job that can be transferred from location to location. You're going to need something to do when your husband is away on deployments. Deployments are a way of life in today's military.
Good luck.What should I do to prepare myself as a future military spouse?
You should read the book Married to the Military.
My husband has been and is about to be deployed again. The longest I have had him home was when he was a Drill Sergeant, and even that is not easy. Just love, love, love him, support him and be proud of him and make sure he knows it. It is not easy at all when they are gone and just make sure you understand that before you take a step as big as marriage. Soldiers are stressed deployed or not. Don't nag him about things that really don't matter, like how he didn't put the toilet seat down or why he throws his clothes in the middle of the floor. Those are going to be some of the things you miss when he is deployed. Marriage is work, but I'm lovin' it. Good luck to you both!
Alienate yourself from any friends who cheat on their spouses. Deployments do damage to most couples' trust, and no need to further worry him. If you live on on-post housing, it'll be extra hard to stay away from these people, and you will see why he might get worried. Most couples in the military cheat. It's sad, but true.
The best advice I ever received, which my husband gave me, was to stay away from all the rumors (worse than rumors in high school) and ONLY believe something when I hear it directly from him. I don't even believe most of the stuff my FRG (family readiness group) leader tells me. Arguing is petty, avoid it at all costs, it won't help anything. Effective communication is key .... phone calls are all you have during deployments, if you guys can't communicate (verbally) effectively its going to be a lot harder.
I am a military spouse and the best advice I can give you is learn to sacrifice.....alot.....
There are so many things that can be tough, and the worst thing you can do is be mad or hold resentment toward your husband for things that he cannot control. I just found out my husband will be doing training in another state on my birthday and on our 1st wedding anniv. This is tragic to me because it is a very special day....... and I will be alone....in a strange state with no friends and no family. Sacrifice......this is a military wifes duty.....we sacrifice just as much as our men for this country.....and we are very proud to do it!
Another good book is ';Today's Military Wife'; by Cline - it gives you a lot of good information. I re-read mine every time we get ready to do a PCS.
I'd recommend that you involve yourself in a career or job that can be transferred from location to location. You're going to need something to do when your husband is away on deployments. Deployments are a way of life in today's military.
Good luck.What should I do to prepare myself as a future military spouse?
You should read the book Married to the Military.
My husband has been and is about to be deployed again. The longest I have had him home was when he was a Drill Sergeant, and even that is not easy. Just love, love, love him, support him and be proud of him and make sure he knows it. It is not easy at all when they are gone and just make sure you understand that before you take a step as big as marriage. Soldiers are stressed deployed or not. Don't nag him about things that really don't matter, like how he didn't put the toilet seat down or why he throws his clothes in the middle of the floor. Those are going to be some of the things you miss when he is deployed. Marriage is work, but I'm lovin' it. Good luck to you both!
Alienate yourself from any friends who cheat on their spouses. Deployments do damage to most couples' trust, and no need to further worry him. If you live on on-post housing, it'll be extra hard to stay away from these people, and you will see why he might get worried. Most couples in the military cheat. It's sad, but true.
The best advice I ever received, which my husband gave me, was to stay away from all the rumors (worse than rumors in high school) and ONLY believe something when I hear it directly from him. I don't even believe most of the stuff my FRG (family readiness group) leader tells me. Arguing is petty, avoid it at all costs, it won't help anything. Effective communication is key .... phone calls are all you have during deployments, if you guys can't communicate (verbally) effectively its going to be a lot harder.
I am a military spouse and the best advice I can give you is learn to sacrifice.....alot.....
There are so many things that can be tough, and the worst thing you can do is be mad or hold resentment toward your husband for things that he cannot control. I just found out my husband will be doing training in another state on my birthday and on our 1st wedding anniv. This is tragic to me because it is a very special day....... and I will be alone....in a strange state with no friends and no family. Sacrifice......this is a military wifes duty.....we sacrifice just as much as our men for this country.....and we are very proud to do it!
Another good book is ';Today's Military Wife'; by Cline - it gives you a lot of good information. I re-read mine every time we get ready to do a PCS.
Can the wages of spouse be garnished after judgement against husband?
A friend of mine had a business deal that went wrong. He was sued successfully by someone (appeal is pending). In the lawsuit they attached his spouse. His salary has been garnished. She is a stay-at-home mom.
If she got a job now, would her salary be subject to being garnished too?Can the wages of spouse be garnished after judgement against husband?
your question is not very clear but if you are named and the Judgment was granted then yes they could attach your future wages.
If your spouse had known what he was doing and gone to an Atty BEFORE opening the business doors neither of the would be legally liable personally.
If you are a small business person call your Atty immediate and find out what I am talking about when I say protect your personl assets.Can the wages of spouse be garnished after judgement against husband?
If the spouse was named in the lawsuit, then judgment is valid against all parties named in the lawsuit
If she got a job now, would her salary be subject to being garnished too?Can the wages of spouse be garnished after judgement against husband?
your question is not very clear but if you are named and the Judgment was granted then yes they could attach your future wages.
If your spouse had known what he was doing and gone to an Atty BEFORE opening the business doors neither of the would be legally liable personally.
If you are a small business person call your Atty immediate and find out what I am talking about when I say protect your personl assets.Can the wages of spouse be garnished after judgement against husband?
If the spouse was named in the lawsuit, then judgment is valid against all parties named in the lawsuit
How to tell your spouse you want a divorce?
Okay there are millions of divorced people out there. How do you tell your spouse you want a divorce?
What method did you use?
How long before you left did you tell them?
Thanks!How to tell your spouse you want a divorce?
Use the past tense. You tell your spouse that you left them, not leaving them, not thinking about leaving them. I did it by saying, ';I ended this marriage a couple of days ago and thought you should know...';How to tell your spouse you want a divorce?
Thinking back... I do not recall telling him :) He cheated on me, I walked in on him and the ';woman';. He lost his temper the next day, so I called the MP's and they removed him from the house. I served him with papers at JAG that week.
I think its a strong misconception that you have to tell your spouse that you want a divorce. You certainly do not need their permission to file, nor do you need their signature in most states.
If you think it will be a fight, you'll need a lawyer to help you, if you think he'll agree to the divorce just prepare the papers, serve them and wait for his response.
Do you really want a divorce? If you're not sure you can tell your spouse maybe you still have an unconscious hope that it can work out.
I told my ex-husband over the phone because he was violent. I didn't know how he would react. I already had my stuff packed in the car and a place to stay.
If you want a divorce becuase you've met someone else, I would probably do it over the phone and have your stuff...things could get violent...they don't call them ';crimes of passion'; for nothing.
If you aren't in love anymore...get counseling. Find that spark again. You do not want to be single it sucks.
Good luck!
Depends on you and your husbands relationship...
For me, he was never home and when he was he was drunk and on drugs... so it was impossible for me to ';tell him'; ... much easier to just do it on my own and leave when he's not home... let him sit and wallow and continue his loser life of alcohol and drugs. He never took the time to stop pointing the finger at me instead of himself, and still continues to blame me for absolutely everything.
So I knew, telling him would do nothing but piss him off and make him storm out of the house and/or argue with me about it.
Much better to just do what I need to do on my own and get the hell out.
you just come out and tell them. Theres no since on waiting and making the process any longer. Just sit them down tell them how you feel tell them you are past the part and process of working it out and you are tired and just want the marriage to be over. Just be blunt (dont worry about hurting feelings, cause the divorce part is hurt enough)
My ex was a selfish and mentally abusive s.o.b. He went hunting for the weekend and I moved out. I left him a voice mail on his cellphone telling him that I wouldn't be there when he got home. Cold and inconsiderate I know, but he always twists around my words when I try talking to him. It took me 24 years to leave and that's the only way I could see to do it without involving the police.
My dear I see that you aren't happy and I'm not happy and your boyfriend';s not to happy either so I'm going to make us all Happy. Bye Bye
I said that and packed my car got in it and damn thing wouldn't crank so I got in the company truck and left .
Just tell them ace to face and move out immediately. There needs to be a legal separation period in some states.
Say ';I want a divorce.'; Chances are they will not be that surprised.
Just say it..mines did and I have to cope with...good luck
Just let it out!
well, if it's come this far, i don't think he/she will be too surprised.
What method did you use?
How long before you left did you tell them?
Thanks!How to tell your spouse you want a divorce?
Use the past tense. You tell your spouse that you left them, not leaving them, not thinking about leaving them. I did it by saying, ';I ended this marriage a couple of days ago and thought you should know...';How to tell your spouse you want a divorce?
Thinking back... I do not recall telling him :) He cheated on me, I walked in on him and the ';woman';. He lost his temper the next day, so I called the MP's and they removed him from the house. I served him with papers at JAG that week.
I think its a strong misconception that you have to tell your spouse that you want a divorce. You certainly do not need their permission to file, nor do you need their signature in most states.
If you think it will be a fight, you'll need a lawyer to help you, if you think he'll agree to the divorce just prepare the papers, serve them and wait for his response.
Do you really want a divorce? If you're not sure you can tell your spouse maybe you still have an unconscious hope that it can work out.
I told my ex-husband over the phone because he was violent. I didn't know how he would react. I already had my stuff packed in the car and a place to stay.
If you want a divorce becuase you've met someone else, I would probably do it over the phone and have your stuff...things could get violent...they don't call them ';crimes of passion'; for nothing.
If you aren't in love anymore...get counseling. Find that spark again. You do not want to be single it sucks.
Good luck!
Depends on you and your husbands relationship...
For me, he was never home and when he was he was drunk and on drugs... so it was impossible for me to ';tell him'; ... much easier to just do it on my own and leave when he's not home... let him sit and wallow and continue his loser life of alcohol and drugs. He never took the time to stop pointing the finger at me instead of himself, and still continues to blame me for absolutely everything.
So I knew, telling him would do nothing but piss him off and make him storm out of the house and/or argue with me about it.
Much better to just do what I need to do on my own and get the hell out.
you just come out and tell them. Theres no since on waiting and making the process any longer. Just sit them down tell them how you feel tell them you are past the part and process of working it out and you are tired and just want the marriage to be over. Just be blunt (dont worry about hurting feelings, cause the divorce part is hurt enough)
My ex was a selfish and mentally abusive s.o.b. He went hunting for the weekend and I moved out. I left him a voice mail on his cellphone telling him that I wouldn't be there when he got home. Cold and inconsiderate I know, but he always twists around my words when I try talking to him. It took me 24 years to leave and that's the only way I could see to do it without involving the police.
My dear I see that you aren't happy and I'm not happy and your boyfriend';s not to happy either so I'm going to make us all Happy. Bye Bye
I said that and packed my car got in it and damn thing wouldn't crank so I got in the company truck and left .
Just tell them ace to face and move out immediately. There needs to be a legal separation period in some states.
Say ';I want a divorce.'; Chances are they will not be that surprised.
Just say it..mines did and I have to cope with...good luck
Just let it out!
well, if it's come this far, i don't think he/she will be too surprised.
As a seperated military spouse how long is the process of collecting support for our child?
My husband has just been activated to deploy to Iraq for the second time. We have been living seperately for 3 years and he has paid SOME support during that time. If there is no court order for support can the military force him to pay support and if so who do I contact and how long is the process. P.S. I have learned that he is receiving BAH II. I thought he was supposed to be still residing with his spouse at the time of deployment to receive this type of BAH.As a seperated military spouse how long is the process of collecting support for our child?
I suggest you get an attorney. You have been living seperately for 3 years and haven't been getting the constant support that is needed for your child.
Your husband (ex husband!) has a responsiblity to insure his child(ren) are taken care of. If he is not fullfilling his responsiblity as you have indicated, then you will have to 'force him' to do so.
I suggest you realize that you no longer have a marriage and you ex is not being responsible so you need to step up and do what's right for your children. Get an attorney and get the custody and financial responsibility issues resolved.
Good luck!As a seperated military spouse how long is the process of collecting support for our child?
Unless you are divorced he is not required to pay support. That said he does need to provide for you and your child. Most units will make him turn over his BAH to you if you are not living together. They are not required to though. Do you realize that your marriage is a sham and the govt could make you payback any medical benefits you may have used while you were seperated. I suggest you either make your marriage work or get divorce. Stop trying to hold onto him for the BAH and other benefits.
You are right. He shouldn't be collecting BAH. If any spouse is living single meaning no kids, wife ect... they will be given opportunities to live on base in dorms or a major decrease in BAH. When it comes to child support the military is very strict on that. You should have a court order though. If you don't want to go through that and can come up with an agreement with him, one thing you can do is contact his Commander. Tell his commander the situation and tell him he is not paying you child support. Since military laws are very strict they will not want him to have to go through court and all of that so they will get on him to pay you.john masters oil acne
I suggest you get an attorney. You have been living seperately for 3 years and haven't been getting the constant support that is needed for your child.
Your husband (ex husband!) has a responsiblity to insure his child(ren) are taken care of. If he is not fullfilling his responsiblity as you have indicated, then you will have to 'force him' to do so.
I suggest you realize that you no longer have a marriage and you ex is not being responsible so you need to step up and do what's right for your children. Get an attorney and get the custody and financial responsibility issues resolved.
Good luck!As a seperated military spouse how long is the process of collecting support for our child?
Unless you are divorced he is not required to pay support. That said he does need to provide for you and your child. Most units will make him turn over his BAH to you if you are not living together. They are not required to though. Do you realize that your marriage is a sham and the govt could make you payback any medical benefits you may have used while you were seperated. I suggest you either make your marriage work or get divorce. Stop trying to hold onto him for the BAH and other benefits.
You are right. He shouldn't be collecting BAH. If any spouse is living single meaning no kids, wife ect... they will be given opportunities to live on base in dorms or a major decrease in BAH. When it comes to child support the military is very strict on that. You should have a court order though. If you don't want to go through that and can come up with an agreement with him, one thing you can do is contact his Commander. Tell his commander the situation and tell him he is not paying you child support. Since military laws are very strict they will not want him to have to go through court and all of that so they will get on him to pay you.
How does a military spouse get an education overseas?
Im going to be in germany for about 2 to 3 years with my husband. Is there colleges or something? Im not to sure about online degrees, I just want to know if anybody else has gotten an education overseas.How does a military spouse get an education overseas?
There are many universities in Germany but all of the courses will be taught in German. You can receive a student visa that will allow you to study there but it won't do you much good unless you're very fluent in German. Other than that, you should look into distance education programs. They are operated by many real brick and mortar universities and you submit your coursework online, but for quizzes and exams you can take them at accredited institutions around the world who will just supervise you to make sure you don't cheat.How does a military spouse get an education overseas?
I ';met'; several military spouses during my studies in Baker College's online program.
Baker is very affordable at $180.00 per credit hour.
4 semesters per year, 2 sessions per semester.
Participation required 5 of 7 days per week.
Easy as reading e-mails or blogs.
Check out : https://www.baker.edu/online/main.cfm
There are many universities in Germany but all of the courses will be taught in German. You can receive a student visa that will allow you to study there but it won't do you much good unless you're very fluent in German. Other than that, you should look into distance education programs. They are operated by many real brick and mortar universities and you submit your coursework online, but for quizzes and exams you can take them at accredited institutions around the world who will just supervise you to make sure you don't cheat.How does a military spouse get an education overseas?
I ';met'; several military spouses during my studies in Baker College's online program.
Baker is very affordable at $180.00 per credit hour.
4 semesters per year, 2 sessions per semester.
Participation required 5 of 7 days per week.
Easy as reading e-mails or blogs.
Check out : https://www.baker.edu/online/main.cfm
What happens when your spouse personally guartanee a business loan?
My spouse has personally guaranteed a business loan (without my knowledge). The loan was to purchase equipment which there is no longer work for (economy driven). What happens if defaults on the loan? What happens to our joint assets? Specifically, my house and car? I am no way connected to the business which is incorporated. Am I liable for this debt?
Any feedback would be greatly appreciated.What happens when your spouse personally guartanee a business loan?
It depends if the business was formed as a LLC (Limited Liability Corp). Personal assets are shielded from the company.
If it is actually a personal business, then everything you own jointly can be used to satisfy the debts of the company unless he put the house up as collateral without your knowledge.
But, not knowing how the loan was drawn up, personally guaranteeing the loan may expose everything you own, regardless of being an LLC. You need to check with an attorney and get copies of the loan documents and business documents.What happens when your spouse personally guartanee a business loan?
Being a small business owner, you need to pay extra attention to management of financial resources. Since growth of your business somehow depends on its financial position, you should always be cautious about cash flaw within or outside your business. It is quite true that lack of finance can become a big problem in the way of the success of your small business.
http://www.worldbestloans.com/businessloans.htm
Since market is crowded with various business loan schemes, every small business owner can manage to get the desired amount without any problem. Therefore if you own a new and small business organization and financial shortfall is bothering you, then these loans can prove to be the best help for you.
Any feedback would be greatly appreciated.What happens when your spouse personally guartanee a business loan?
It depends if the business was formed as a LLC (Limited Liability Corp). Personal assets are shielded from the company.
If it is actually a personal business, then everything you own jointly can be used to satisfy the debts of the company unless he put the house up as collateral without your knowledge.
But, not knowing how the loan was drawn up, personally guaranteeing the loan may expose everything you own, regardless of being an LLC. You need to check with an attorney and get copies of the loan documents and business documents.What happens when your spouse personally guartanee a business loan?
Being a small business owner, you need to pay extra attention to management of financial resources. Since growth of your business somehow depends on its financial position, you should always be cautious about cash flaw within or outside your business. It is quite true that lack of finance can become a big problem in the way of the success of your small business.
http://www.worldbestloans.com/businessloans.htm
Since market is crowded with various business loan schemes, every small business owner can manage to get the desired amount without any problem. Therefore if you own a new and small business organization and financial shortfall is bothering you, then these loans can prove to be the best help for you.
How do I, the spouse of someone in the Canadian Forces, apply for the Public Service Health Plan?
My husband recently joined the Canadian Forces and is at basic training. I know I get his health benefits, but I was wondering if anyone knows how I apply for these benefits? If you are not sure, who do I call to find out about canadian forces health care programs?How do I, the spouse of someone in the Canadian Forces, apply for the Public Service Health Plan?
My boyfriend is in the Air Force (Canada) and for you to receive his benefits he would have to fill out the paperwork and sign you up as his dependent. He would have to speak to someone about it at work to tell him who to talk to. Otherwise, you should check out the Canadian Forces website.
http://www.forces.ca/v3/engraph/resource鈥?/a>How do I, the spouse of someone in the Canadian Forces, apply for the Public Service Health Plan?
im not sure about canada, but my husband is currently working on enrolling me into deers etc., and i dont have to do anything, except maybe fax over my birth certificate, so you probably dont have to do anything either, he probably has to do it.
My boyfriend is in the Air Force (Canada) and for you to receive his benefits he would have to fill out the paperwork and sign you up as his dependent. He would have to speak to someone about it at work to tell him who to talk to. Otherwise, you should check out the Canadian Forces website.
http://www.forces.ca/v3/engraph/resource鈥?/a>How do I, the spouse of someone in the Canadian Forces, apply for the Public Service Health Plan?
im not sure about canada, but my husband is currently working on enrolling me into deers etc., and i dont have to do anything, except maybe fax over my birth certificate, so you probably dont have to do anything either, he probably has to do it.
What is the best relationship to have with your lover or spouse?
:)What is the best relationship to have with your lover or spouse?
I agree with a previous answer, being friends, good friends, for years before any kind of deepening of the relationship is best.
and to ';onallfoursladies';: with a username like that, you are awfully touchy about having an honest and open dialogue that involves sex. yes, she is young, and you know what? young people have the same urges and desires that adults do. not talking to them about it is a recipe for neuroses at worst and experimentation without knowledge at best. Knowledge is the best protection.What is the best relationship to have with your lover or spouse?
You must be best friends, love being together, have respect for each other, keep Harmony with both families, communication is very important. cry on each others shoulders , respect her opinion and listen to her when she has something to say, and do not by shy to say ';I Love You'; in words and in actions. Often !!
A great one. My boyfriend and I look at our relationship as being best friends and lovers.
I beleve you have to be bestfriends for a relationship to work!
Best friends are honest....share secrets.....never shy around each other.....always want to be together....i could go on and on......
I would say an honest one!
best friend.. someone you can believe in,. lover as well as helpmate.....one that will be there through the tough times as well as the good times......almost impossible to find.....one that thinks of her as well as he does hisself........shows love and concern in many ways.........gee do i expect to much.....that is why i am staying single.........for now on.....oh i almost forgot a man that is not abusive and is really in love and treasures his wife.........
It depends on what you are referring too, but I would have to say that an intellectual relationship is best. Lets face it, you can only have sex so often, the rest of your time is spent just getting to know your partner.
probably to have either a lover or a spouse... not both.
Honesty,and loving care within that relationship are the best things.
Edit:
';onallfoursladies'; ain't you a little moody!!!
I'm well aware of Sigy's age and I see no wrong with her asking that question. Go get a cup of coffee and relax ~_~
I think a good relationship must cross all relationship boundaries and include, parent-child, friend-friend, and lovers.
A loving, communicative, understanding, kind, caring relationship is wonderful!
Edit: Her age isnt listed on her YA profile...how am I to know she is 15?
There are so many different dynamics that a relationship can have but regardless of what type it is there are a few things required for it to be a happy one. Mutual trust, honesty, loyalty, compassion and concern for one anothers well being.
One where both people respect one another, and where there is no belittling going on. I hear so many women describe their husbands as their biggest child, and I think that is an unhealthy relationship.
Have you ever answered questions on Polls %26amp; Surveys, one of the entertainment categories?
It's a lot fun than this category.
A lot of people in that category answer reltaionship questions all the time.
Good friends and lovers
Respected and respectful
Supportive
Sense of humor
Enjoys debating interesting topics
Moral
Trustworthy
Grows rather than stagnates as a couple and as individuals
To the first poster ';onallfoursladies'; (above): What difference does it make if Sigy is 15 or 50? You are pitching a fit for nothing.
Edit to ';on all fours ladies';---a telling name by the way. Yahoo requires members to be 13 or above and I accept that age line.
The one where he took my breath away.
I agree with a previous answer, being friends, good friends, for years before any kind of deepening of the relationship is best.
and to ';onallfoursladies';: with a username like that, you are awfully touchy about having an honest and open dialogue that involves sex. yes, she is young, and you know what? young people have the same urges and desires that adults do. not talking to them about it is a recipe for neuroses at worst and experimentation without knowledge at best. Knowledge is the best protection.What is the best relationship to have with your lover or spouse?
You must be best friends, love being together, have respect for each other, keep Harmony with both families, communication is very important. cry on each others shoulders , respect her opinion and listen to her when she has something to say, and do not by shy to say ';I Love You'; in words and in actions. Often !!
A great one. My boyfriend and I look at our relationship as being best friends and lovers.
I beleve you have to be bestfriends for a relationship to work!
Best friends are honest....share secrets.....never shy around each other.....always want to be together....i could go on and on......
I would say an honest one!
best friend.. someone you can believe in,. lover as well as helpmate.....one that will be there through the tough times as well as the good times......almost impossible to find.....one that thinks of her as well as he does hisself........shows love and concern in many ways.........gee do i expect to much.....that is why i am staying single.........for now on.....oh i almost forgot a man that is not abusive and is really in love and treasures his wife.........
It depends on what you are referring too, but I would have to say that an intellectual relationship is best. Lets face it, you can only have sex so often, the rest of your time is spent just getting to know your partner.
probably to have either a lover or a spouse... not both.
Honesty,and loving care within that relationship are the best things.
Edit:
';onallfoursladies'; ain't you a little moody!!!
I'm well aware of Sigy's age and I see no wrong with her asking that question. Go get a cup of coffee and relax ~_~
I think a good relationship must cross all relationship boundaries and include, parent-child, friend-friend, and lovers.
A loving, communicative, understanding, kind, caring relationship is wonderful!
Edit: Her age isnt listed on her YA profile...how am I to know she is 15?
There are so many different dynamics that a relationship can have but regardless of what type it is there are a few things required for it to be a happy one. Mutual trust, honesty, loyalty, compassion and concern for one anothers well being.
One where both people respect one another, and where there is no belittling going on. I hear so many women describe their husbands as their biggest child, and I think that is an unhealthy relationship.
Have you ever answered questions on Polls %26amp; Surveys, one of the entertainment categories?
It's a lot fun than this category.
A lot of people in that category answer reltaionship questions all the time.
Good friends and lovers
Respected and respectful
Supportive
Sense of humor
Enjoys debating interesting topics
Moral
Trustworthy
Grows rather than stagnates as a couple and as individuals
To the first poster ';onallfoursladies'; (above): What difference does it make if Sigy is 15 or 50? You are pitching a fit for nothing.
Edit to ';on all fours ladies';---a telling name by the way. Yahoo requires members to be 13 or above and I accept that age line.
The one where he took my breath away.
What kind of funny jokes or movies that you and your spouse laugh about?
With us anything with Mel Brooks or Monty Python is funny. History of the world and Life of brian was laughable. We like to laugh at the sleep number bed commercials because we joke about someone else changing the numbers on their side of the bed. Give us some funnies!What kind of funny jokes or movies that you and your spouse laugh about?
My husband and I don't always have the same sense of humor. I'm not much into ';stupid funny'; type movies. Like the Pineapple Express, I was miserable, I felt tortured, he thought it was funny. However, I can watch SuperBad 50 times and still like it.
He hates Reality shows, and I love them, but we are both into Million Dollar Listing and we laugh about what a prick Chad is.
Often we laugh about our kids. They are a great source of entertainment. Just a little while ago I was cooking dinner and my husband fell asleep on the couch. The baby (he's 2) kept uncovering his toes, and poking them. He had on his froggy rain boots and was dancing in front of him too, but of course, he was asleep, he didn't see. It was funny though.
My husband constantly does funny things, especially when I am angry. He will start singing and dancing and stripping to make me laugh. The way our house is set up there's a round ';track'; all around our living room furniture and through the kitchen. Sometimes we put the dog outside (cuz she goes nuts) and all chase each other and play hide and seek. (our kids are 2 and 6). We have wrestling matches on my bed with the kids, that's funny.
A few nights ago we were having sex, and for some reason I got the giggles so bad. I could not stop laughing, I forget what was so funny, but it was hilarious, While we were doing it. I laughed the entire time.What kind of funny jokes or movies that you and your spouse laugh about?
steve harvey and jackie chan and monique and jim carey and robin williams just to name a few...
peter sellers in the original pink panther movies
White chicks...this is not a funny TV show but we love watching Amazing Race together.
OMG! Sparkly vampires.... lol
any thing with jim carry
';Reba'; still runs our house!
My husband and I don't always have the same sense of humor. I'm not much into ';stupid funny'; type movies. Like the Pineapple Express, I was miserable, I felt tortured, he thought it was funny. However, I can watch SuperBad 50 times and still like it.
He hates Reality shows, and I love them, but we are both into Million Dollar Listing and we laugh about what a prick Chad is.
Often we laugh about our kids. They are a great source of entertainment. Just a little while ago I was cooking dinner and my husband fell asleep on the couch. The baby (he's 2) kept uncovering his toes, and poking them. He had on his froggy rain boots and was dancing in front of him too, but of course, he was asleep, he didn't see. It was funny though.
My husband constantly does funny things, especially when I am angry. He will start singing and dancing and stripping to make me laugh. The way our house is set up there's a round ';track'; all around our living room furniture and through the kitchen. Sometimes we put the dog outside (cuz she goes nuts) and all chase each other and play hide and seek. (our kids are 2 and 6). We have wrestling matches on my bed with the kids, that's funny.
A few nights ago we were having sex, and for some reason I got the giggles so bad. I could not stop laughing, I forget what was so funny, but it was hilarious, While we were doing it. I laughed the entire time.What kind of funny jokes or movies that you and your spouse laugh about?
steve harvey and jackie chan and monique and jim carey and robin williams just to name a few...
peter sellers in the original pink panther movies
White chicks...this is not a funny TV show but we love watching Amazing Race together.
OMG! Sparkly vampires.... lol
any thing with jim carry
';Reba'; still runs our house!
Where to vacation with spouse and 1 yr old?
We live in WV and spouse and I have about $1500 for vacation. Want to go in summer and haven't been on real vacation together yet. Any good suggestions with a 1 yr old?Where to vacation with spouse and 1 yr old?
My first instinct is anywhere with a beach! Virginia Beach is great, or even Myrtle Beach, neither would be too far from you. The baby would probably love the water and the beach, just be extra cautious with sunscreen and coverage, etc.Where to vacation with spouse and 1 yr old?
Stay away from beaches and water. You'd spend all your time making sure he was away from the water, covered with sunblock, etc. and it wouldn't be any fun for you.
Consider going to visit an historic city, somewhere family-friendly like Seattle or Chicago, with lots to see and do like museums, art galleries, shows, zoos, aquariums, etc.
Anywhere that has a respectable kids club or creche where you can drop the kid off for a couple of hours in the day so you and your spouse can spend some time together.
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I was also going to suggest a cruise. There are some that only go for 3-4 nights or as long as 7-8 nights, and they are actually really reasonably priced! You don't have to pay for a hotel every night or food, that all comes with it. Cruises are also great because they are scheduled so you can have a schedule with your little ones nap times. Cruises also have different kinds, like family cruises or cruises for the younger crowd cruises. Plus they are really very relaxing! Check them out in your area, they port all down the seacoast.
Good luck on your search. Hope my suggestion helped a little.
Ocean City
I would recommend a cruise. You can get fairly cheap ones and I know there are some that leave out of South Carolina, so you wouldn't have to fly. The nice thing with a cruise is that they have a kid program, so you can spend some alone time with your hubby.john masters oil acne
My first instinct is anywhere with a beach! Virginia Beach is great, or even Myrtle Beach, neither would be too far from you. The baby would probably love the water and the beach, just be extra cautious with sunscreen and coverage, etc.Where to vacation with spouse and 1 yr old?
Stay away from beaches and water. You'd spend all your time making sure he was away from the water, covered with sunblock, etc. and it wouldn't be any fun for you.
Consider going to visit an historic city, somewhere family-friendly like Seattle or Chicago, with lots to see and do like museums, art galleries, shows, zoos, aquariums, etc.
Anywhere that has a respectable kids club or creche where you can drop the kid off for a couple of hours in the day so you and your spouse can spend some time together.
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I was also going to suggest a cruise. There are some that only go for 3-4 nights or as long as 7-8 nights, and they are actually really reasonably priced! You don't have to pay for a hotel every night or food, that all comes with it. Cruises are also great because they are scheduled so you can have a schedule with your little ones nap times. Cruises also have different kinds, like family cruises or cruises for the younger crowd cruises. Plus they are really very relaxing! Check them out in your area, they port all down the seacoast.
Good luck on your search. Hope my suggestion helped a little.
Ocean City
I would recommend a cruise. You can get fairly cheap ones and I know there are some that leave out of South Carolina, so you wouldn't have to fly. The nice thing with a cruise is that they have a kid program, so you can spend some alone time with your hubby.
Are you and your spouse going to do anything special on the Autumnal Equinox?
I think my husband and I are going to dance naked in the cornfields that are adjacent to our neighborhood if it isn't raining. What are you and your spouse doing to celebrate?Are you and your spouse going to do anything special on the Autumnal Equinox?
We are going to dance naked in the desert...with tin foil hats.Are you and your spouse going to do anything special on the Autumnal Equinox?
We're getting out the sharpies and playing ';connect the moles';. I suspect he has the big dipper on his upper back, and it's very visible in the sky tonight, so I'll be able to compare.
Probably just some basic exercises for elemental absorption including howling at the moon.
My farmer hubby already cut down the corn in the fields around our house, so maybe we'll just make love in the bedroom...
We are going to sit on the couch nursing our colds...and think about fall leaves.
hmm... maybe we'll go skinny dipping to end the season.
winter is on its way now....
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We are going to dance naked in the desert...with tin foil hats.Are you and your spouse going to do anything special on the Autumnal Equinox?
We're getting out the sharpies and playing ';connect the moles';. I suspect he has the big dipper on his upper back, and it's very visible in the sky tonight, so I'll be able to compare.
Probably just some basic exercises for elemental absorption including howling at the moon.
My farmer hubby already cut down the corn in the fields around our house, so maybe we'll just make love in the bedroom...
We are going to sit on the couch nursing our colds...and think about fall leaves.
hmm... maybe we'll go skinny dipping to end the season.
winter is on its way now....
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Did you and your spouse argue more once you had kids?
My hubby and I are planning to conceive early next year. Right now, our marriage is almost picture perfect. We never fight, have no money issues, no sex issues, etc. Once we have a baby do you think we will argue more? I assume the lack of sleep combined with the stress of a baby will be tough. Any advice on how to get through it and not let the stress get to us?Did you and your spouse argue more once you had kids?
Lots and lots of patients. My husband and I would argue about who's turn it was to get up with the baby. Both sleep deprived. You will get threw it just take a deep breath and count to 25. Keep saying to your self this getting up all night will not last for ever. If you have a good relationship like you say then the baby will only make it better.Did you and your spouse argue more once you had kids?
You've got it right.
Baby=lack of sleep=stress=irritability+arguing
To combat it you need to forgive and forget. Remember that what ever is said under stress is not meant.
It helps to give your spouse more of what they like even if you don't feel like it or want to do it just fake it.
Give hubby's more sex.
Give wives more affection and help around the house!
A good sense of Humor!!
I am in a relationship with my 4 year live in boyfriend with no kids of his own. We are pretty much together as you can get. I also have an 8 year old son from a previous marriage.
Parenting is our major issue, we would almost never fight if it wasn't for that difference in our relationship.
Kinda sucks.
I think if you have the chance to talk about your styles beforehand you have a better chance of knowing if you agree where the other person stands. All the other daily stresses can be worked through if your relationship was good in the first place.
to answer your question, yes, we argue more once we had kids.... well my first one, he was in the process of learning everything so i took care of most of it and it made me stress... a baby does test your patience BUT they are so worth it in the end... you'll begin to wonder where you would be without them... anyways, my advice is to make changing the diapers, feeding, bathing, etc. into a game so you both can share chores.... for example, my hubby and i play 'paper, rock, scissor' when one of the baby has a dirty diaper... and giving each other ';me'; time is always great... one watch baby for a hour of the day while the other one does whatever helps to relax... all i can say is good luck...
Yes we did. Stress, lack of sleep, family thinking they know more about your baby than you do...it all adds up to arguing! The main thing is to know that life is going to change, no matter what, and just keep pushing through together.
Well it depends if you do all the work then yes you will be a little pissy at him due to all the work and stress and somethings you would not fight about you might fight when the baby comes try a test what if. ask what if our child goes to a friends house how old would he or she have to be and see your response and his is you will be surprised on what he says about things and yes it will change your sex life too you will have to pick your moments there was a spot on TV that says a baby will change everything and it does.
Lots and lots of patients. My husband and I would argue about who's turn it was to get up with the baby. Both sleep deprived. You will get threw it just take a deep breath and count to 25. Keep saying to your self this getting up all night will not last for ever. If you have a good relationship like you say then the baby will only make it better.Did you and your spouse argue more once you had kids?
You've got it right.
Baby=lack of sleep=stress=irritability+arguing
To combat it you need to forgive and forget. Remember that what ever is said under stress is not meant.
It helps to give your spouse more of what they like even if you don't feel like it or want to do it just fake it.
Give hubby's more sex.
Give wives more affection and help around the house!
A good sense of Humor!!
I am in a relationship with my 4 year live in boyfriend with no kids of his own. We are pretty much together as you can get. I also have an 8 year old son from a previous marriage.
Parenting is our major issue, we would almost never fight if it wasn't for that difference in our relationship.
Kinda sucks.
I think if you have the chance to talk about your styles beforehand you have a better chance of knowing if you agree where the other person stands. All the other daily stresses can be worked through if your relationship was good in the first place.
to answer your question, yes, we argue more once we had kids.... well my first one, he was in the process of learning everything so i took care of most of it and it made me stress... a baby does test your patience BUT they are so worth it in the end... you'll begin to wonder where you would be without them... anyways, my advice is to make changing the diapers, feeding, bathing, etc. into a game so you both can share chores.... for example, my hubby and i play 'paper, rock, scissor' when one of the baby has a dirty diaper... and giving each other ';me'; time is always great... one watch baby for a hour of the day while the other one does whatever helps to relax... all i can say is good luck...
Yes we did. Stress, lack of sleep, family thinking they know more about your baby than you do...it all adds up to arguing! The main thing is to know that life is going to change, no matter what, and just keep pushing through together.
Well it depends if you do all the work then yes you will be a little pissy at him due to all the work and stress and somethings you would not fight about you might fight when the baby comes try a test what if. ask what if our child goes to a friends house how old would he or she have to be and see your response and his is you will be surprised on what he says about things and yes it will change your sex life too you will have to pick your moments there was a spot on TV that says a baby will change everything and it does.
What happens if your spouse forges your name on income taxes?
What kind of trouble do they get in? Where does the money go? back to the state or to the other spouse?What happens if your spouse forges your name on income taxes?
At first, there is no way for the IRS to know there is even a problem unless you filed a separate return.
If you had no job or the joint return includes all w-2s, the IRS may decide that the return was legitimate (tacit consent) and that the division of the refund is a civil issue.
If money is owed or there are conflicting returns, the IRS will request copies of your signature to verify the forgery.
At first, there is no way for the IRS to know there is even a problem unless you filed a separate return.
If you had no job or the joint return includes all w-2s, the IRS may decide that the return was legitimate (tacit consent) and that the division of the refund is a civil issue.
If money is owed or there are conflicting returns, the IRS will request copies of your signature to verify the forgery.
What is the least painful and easiest way to forgive your spouse for cheating?
Can you ever trust them again? How do you not stop thinking about it, or bring it up when the next arguement hits?Does the marriage eventually break up anyways? Can people be happy after cheating and the spouse finds out?What is the least painful and easiest way to forgive your spouse for cheating?
If you are going to make this marriage a life sentence of punishment for him then you have not really forgiven him. It takes time but if you keep bringing it up in arguments there is no way to rebuild the relationship and trust. Go to counseling.What is the least painful and easiest way to forgive your spouse for cheating?
No one can speak for all couples or individuals, but this is my experience.
After being accused of cheating regularly for over 8 years, I finally did. When I got my head back on right I confessed to her and asked her forgiveness, and threw myself back into the marriage 110%. Thought everything was fine for the next 9 years, even though I had to hear about it every time she got angry about anything. Well, the guy she used to date 22 years ago wrote her a letter and she immediately snuck out and jumped straight into bed with him. 5 months ago, she threw away our 21 year marriage, forced me out and moved him in. So now I'm going through a divorce that I did not expect or want, not because I could not forgive her, but because she is obviously incapable of forgiveness. So make up your own mind on this. From what I see from MOST of the women on here, and their attitude toward forgiveness, I wouldn't give a plug nickle for your chances. But it's really going to depend on how much of this the two of you can committ into the hands of God, because that is where real forgiveness comes from.
Yes, there are marriages that work through this together and end up very happy. But there is no easy way of doing it. You both need to be tuned into working through it together. Therapy or counseling can help so much because a third person can objectively make you see things you wouldn`t yourself and for your husband also.
Is it easy? No, it is not. It takes a lot of effort, strength, forgivness, patience and perseverance, which many couples give up into.
Bu he needs to be very willing to want to make it work, and that makes it a little bit easier for you to want to make it work as well...I believe every marriage has a solution no matter what the problem, as long as the couple wants to give it another chance. But it`s got to be about both wanting...
I just read everyone`s answers and they are very very negative ones, immediate discouragement for you right now. Most people can`t make it because the couple together, as one, wasn`t willing to try...but if you are it is worth a shot, if you both are, things can get better. How long will it take, a long time probably, but is it worth it...yes it is because marriage is not easy, it doesn`t have to be perfect and it comes with very difficult times, even unffair ones.
Its possible to happy again yes, but probably 98% of the time the relationship ends. Even if not right away, the lack of trust slowly erodes at your emotions and your feelings towards your partner. The questions you should ask yourself are:
What was his/her reason for cheating?
Do I think that is a valid reason?
What would I be thinking if I was in his/her shoes the moment before they cheated?
Why am I with this person If I cant even trust them?
Finally, look inside yourself and ask if you could ever be with someone who was willing to throw you away for someone else.
answering the question:The better way out of that situation,is only getting divorce as soon as possible.Start again a new relationship; and forget that
terrible and wrong past time.There is not a way at all, to be happy after a cheating (does not matter who is the cheater).Couples try to work out sometimes,having a counseling time,etc.But at the end the picture of the cheating is always in their minds.Good question.
I get thumbs down every time I share this, BUT I decided it was his mistake, it had nothing to do with me, and I dismissed it. We stayed married another 12 years, and divorced for an unrelated reason.
This worked. I never thought about it again, I wasn't suspicious of him, and we were happy.
I could have reacted the way others think I should have, but I was happy and married. They were happy (and I question that, they SEEM bitter) and alone.
I wouldn't.I couldn't.I'd be gone before you could say divorce.
Although I've never been married, I have been cheated on several different times by two men that claimed they loved me , wanted to marry me...blah ,blah blah.
boy am I glad I never married the fools!
some people, although they must be far and few, can manage to pick up and continue on in a marrige wherein one has betrayed the other.
I always wondered about peoples reasons for marrying especially when they knew themselves enough to know they'd cheat on their spouse.
It would take a saint to handle living with a cheater.
i couldn't do it and i'd have to bite my lip to not bring it up all the time.
Nope. Not me. I have no tolerance left.
Betrayal is such a horrible, ugly thing to do.I could never do it to anyone.
No you can never trust them again. You never stop thinking about it or bringing it up. The marriage does eventually break up anyways. People can be happy after cheating and the spouse finds out - just not with the person that cheated on them. You know what they say ';once a cheater, always a cheater';. Something to think about...if you had not found out about the cheating - how long would it have gone on?
To have faith in Jesus Christ so that He can provide you with the grace needed to forgive. You should know, however, that trust in your husband is earned (not respect), so it will take time to trust him again.
God bless you for not giving up on your husband. Please, please, rent or buy the movie Fireproof and watch it together. That is a GREAT STARTING POINT for where you are now.
well u can forgive them but if they lied to u about u should just live them cause chances are they are still sleeping behind your back
Divorce
It's been almost 2 years, I still do not stop thinking about it. But I do realize we all make mistakes. He is human. It's no excuse for cheating, but we are not perfect. Trust, I'm not sure if you ever fully trust them again. I want to trust my husband, but I know down deep inside I don't. It gets easier and I can say I do not think it about it 24/7 like I use to. And eventually you have to decide if you want the marriage to work or not. If you do, you have to learn not to throw it up to them every time you argue. Eventually they will get tired of hearing about their mistake and they will want out. As my husband told me, ';I'm sorry for what I did to you and I will spend every day of my life trying to make it up to you. But you cannot keep throwing my mistake up to me and making me feel worse than I already do. And if you do, then I know you do not forgive me and I will let you go.'; We have to live and learn. Was there a reason he cheated? I'm not saying you did anything wrong. But a lot of times, but not always, a person is looking for something that is missing at home. That's when we find out why the cheated and we do our part as well to make sure they are happy at home. I'm sorry you had to go through this. I'm sorry anyone does. I know exactly how much it hurts. It does get easier as the days go by. And marriage counseling wouldn't hurt. Just remind yourself as I do each day, he may have went to that little homewrecking tramp for awhile, but it was me that he finally came home to and has stayed home with. I promise it will get easier to deal with if you allow it. But I will not lie to you and say that you will not think about it from time to time. But yes, you can be happy again. You have to ask yourself, ';Do I love him?'; ';Do I want to spend the rest of my life with him?'; And if you can answer yes, then with a lot of work and a lot of love, you can make it through it. Just remind yourself, he isn't perfect. I told myself that, he isn't perfect, but he is perfect for me. He made a mistake and we will make it through it. I wish you the very best of luck!
If you are going to make this marriage a life sentence of punishment for him then you have not really forgiven him. It takes time but if you keep bringing it up in arguments there is no way to rebuild the relationship and trust. Go to counseling.What is the least painful and easiest way to forgive your spouse for cheating?
No one can speak for all couples or individuals, but this is my experience.
After being accused of cheating regularly for over 8 years, I finally did. When I got my head back on right I confessed to her and asked her forgiveness, and threw myself back into the marriage 110%. Thought everything was fine for the next 9 years, even though I had to hear about it every time she got angry about anything. Well, the guy she used to date 22 years ago wrote her a letter and she immediately snuck out and jumped straight into bed with him. 5 months ago, she threw away our 21 year marriage, forced me out and moved him in. So now I'm going through a divorce that I did not expect or want, not because I could not forgive her, but because she is obviously incapable of forgiveness. So make up your own mind on this. From what I see from MOST of the women on here, and their attitude toward forgiveness, I wouldn't give a plug nickle for your chances. But it's really going to depend on how much of this the two of you can committ into the hands of God, because that is where real forgiveness comes from.
Yes, there are marriages that work through this together and end up very happy. But there is no easy way of doing it. You both need to be tuned into working through it together. Therapy or counseling can help so much because a third person can objectively make you see things you wouldn`t yourself and for your husband also.
Is it easy? No, it is not. It takes a lot of effort, strength, forgivness, patience and perseverance, which many couples give up into.
Bu he needs to be very willing to want to make it work, and that makes it a little bit easier for you to want to make it work as well...I believe every marriage has a solution no matter what the problem, as long as the couple wants to give it another chance. But it`s got to be about both wanting...
I just read everyone`s answers and they are very very negative ones, immediate discouragement for you right now. Most people can`t make it because the couple together, as one, wasn`t willing to try...but if you are it is worth a shot, if you both are, things can get better. How long will it take, a long time probably, but is it worth it...yes it is because marriage is not easy, it doesn`t have to be perfect and it comes with very difficult times, even unffair ones.
Its possible to happy again yes, but probably 98% of the time the relationship ends. Even if not right away, the lack of trust slowly erodes at your emotions and your feelings towards your partner. The questions you should ask yourself are:
What was his/her reason for cheating?
Do I think that is a valid reason?
What would I be thinking if I was in his/her shoes the moment before they cheated?
Why am I with this person If I cant even trust them?
Finally, look inside yourself and ask if you could ever be with someone who was willing to throw you away for someone else.
answering the question:The better way out of that situation,is only getting divorce as soon as possible.Start again a new relationship; and forget that
terrible and wrong past time.There is not a way at all, to be happy after a cheating (does not matter who is the cheater).Couples try to work out sometimes,having a counseling time,etc.But at the end the picture of the cheating is always in their minds.Good question.
I get thumbs down every time I share this, BUT I decided it was his mistake, it had nothing to do with me, and I dismissed it. We stayed married another 12 years, and divorced for an unrelated reason.
This worked. I never thought about it again, I wasn't suspicious of him, and we were happy.
I could have reacted the way others think I should have, but I was happy and married. They were happy (and I question that, they SEEM bitter) and alone.
I wouldn't.I couldn't.I'd be gone before you could say divorce.
Although I've never been married, I have been cheated on several different times by two men that claimed they loved me , wanted to marry me...blah ,blah blah.
boy am I glad I never married the fools!
some people, although they must be far and few, can manage to pick up and continue on in a marrige wherein one has betrayed the other.
I always wondered about peoples reasons for marrying especially when they knew themselves enough to know they'd cheat on their spouse.
It would take a saint to handle living with a cheater.
i couldn't do it and i'd have to bite my lip to not bring it up all the time.
Nope. Not me. I have no tolerance left.
Betrayal is such a horrible, ugly thing to do.I could never do it to anyone.
No you can never trust them again. You never stop thinking about it or bringing it up. The marriage does eventually break up anyways. People can be happy after cheating and the spouse finds out - just not with the person that cheated on them. You know what they say ';once a cheater, always a cheater';. Something to think about...if you had not found out about the cheating - how long would it have gone on?
To have faith in Jesus Christ so that He can provide you with the grace needed to forgive. You should know, however, that trust in your husband is earned (not respect), so it will take time to trust him again.
God bless you for not giving up on your husband. Please, please, rent or buy the movie Fireproof and watch it together. That is a GREAT STARTING POINT for where you are now.
well u can forgive them but if they lied to u about u should just live them cause chances are they are still sleeping behind your back
Divorce
It's been almost 2 years, I still do not stop thinking about it. But I do realize we all make mistakes. He is human. It's no excuse for cheating, but we are not perfect. Trust, I'm not sure if you ever fully trust them again. I want to trust my husband, but I know down deep inside I don't. It gets easier and I can say I do not think it about it 24/7 like I use to. And eventually you have to decide if you want the marriage to work or not. If you do, you have to learn not to throw it up to them every time you argue. Eventually they will get tired of hearing about their mistake and they will want out. As my husband told me, ';I'm sorry for what I did to you and I will spend every day of my life trying to make it up to you. But you cannot keep throwing my mistake up to me and making me feel worse than I already do. And if you do, then I know you do not forgive me and I will let you go.'; We have to live and learn. Was there a reason he cheated? I'm not saying you did anything wrong. But a lot of times, but not always, a person is looking for something that is missing at home. That's when we find out why the cheated and we do our part as well to make sure they are happy at home. I'm sorry you had to go through this. I'm sorry anyone does. I know exactly how much it hurts. It does get easier as the days go by. And marriage counseling wouldn't hurt. Just remind yourself as I do each day, he may have went to that little homewrecking tramp for awhile, but it was me that he finally came home to and has stayed home with. I promise it will get easier to deal with if you allow it. But I will not lie to you and say that you will not think about it from time to time. But yes, you can be happy again. You have to ask yourself, ';Do I love him?'; ';Do I want to spend the rest of my life with him?'; And if you can answer yes, then with a lot of work and a lot of love, you can make it through it. Just remind yourself, he isn't perfect. I told myself that, he isn't perfect, but he is perfect for me. He made a mistake and we will make it through it. I wish you the very best of luck!
How does the whole spouse thing work when you are on active duty?
Like if I were to go off to boot camp and decide after that I wanted to get married, how would I go about ensuring that she came with me? I am looking to know from someone who has seen it happen in the military or knows of a place in which I can read about it. Thank youHow does the whole spouse thing work when you are on active duty?
You would have to turn in a marriage certificate and work on getting your wife on your orders. Sometimes it can be done in a timely manner before you go to your first station if you are saying you would marry between basic and ait, but often times she would just be moving on her own to your first station and would then be added to future orders when you PCS. If you are sure you want to marry her and take her to your first station after training, the best idea would be to marry before you leave for basic so you have your marriage certificate in with your papers at the beginning.How does the whole spouse thing work when you are on active duty?
First thing you are going to want to do is enroll her into DEERS and then TRICARE. After that you can get her an ID and the military will pay you to move yourself and your spouse to where your ultimate duty station is. All this is stuff that your chain of command can help you with. Make sure that you pay attention to the details in the paper work in this and everything else that you do in the military. You can also find instructions online. Just do a google search and you can find what you are looking for. Hope that this helps and if you need more info just let me know.
I am a military spouse and I married my husband right after basic training. He was still in tech school when we got married and it wasn't a problem at all. I just moved down there and the military gave us a base house to live in. You just take your marriage certificate to personnel and they will add your spouse as your dependent. She will immediately start getting all the benefits and everything.
My husband is in the Army...I can't speak for any other branch. I have no clue if its different or the same in other branches.
After bootcamp you will go to AIT for your MOS training. If your AIT education lasts longer than 19 weeks she will be able to go with you. If it is shorter than 19 weeks, she will have to wait until you have completed AIT and are assigned to your duty station. If you are married before bootcamp you still get BAH. If you wait until after bootcamp and are married while you're in AIT...you will still get BAH. I'm not so sure about health benefits because I was working at the time and had insurance of my own. I'm pretty sure that she would be eligible for insurance though. You wont get your food allowance until you turn in your meal card. It would be easier to either get married before bootcamp or after all of your training. Just my opinion though.
Make sure you get a sealed copy of your marriage certificate. You will need it to enroll her in DEERS.
Good luck.
If you join the military you can get married whenever you want. If you get married your spouse can come live with you on base or you can choose to live off base and the government will give you a housing allowance. The housing allowance depends on the zip code where you will live but it is usually a fair amount.
If you deploy overseas then your spouse cannot go with you during the time of your temporary deployment. Your spouse can go with you overseas only if you are getting permanently stationed overseas and usually depends on the branch you join or the unit you are in.
If your primary concern is to have your spouse with you at all times, I would advise against military service. During your time in the military you will be away from home a lot and if you join while single, I suggest you stay that way.
You're going to have to be more specific. Are you asking about BAH, housing, Family seperation or duty assignments?
it's easier if you get married before you leave, that way she is already on your paperwork, and nothing is going to get delayed because of her.
You need to get married NOW. If you marry her after she will not be on your orders and it will be hard as HELL to get her on them.
You would have to turn in a marriage certificate and work on getting your wife on your orders. Sometimes it can be done in a timely manner before you go to your first station if you are saying you would marry between basic and ait, but often times she would just be moving on her own to your first station and would then be added to future orders when you PCS. If you are sure you want to marry her and take her to your first station after training, the best idea would be to marry before you leave for basic so you have your marriage certificate in with your papers at the beginning.How does the whole spouse thing work when you are on active duty?
First thing you are going to want to do is enroll her into DEERS and then TRICARE. After that you can get her an ID and the military will pay you to move yourself and your spouse to where your ultimate duty station is. All this is stuff that your chain of command can help you with. Make sure that you pay attention to the details in the paper work in this and everything else that you do in the military. You can also find instructions online. Just do a google search and you can find what you are looking for. Hope that this helps and if you need more info just let me know.
I am a military spouse and I married my husband right after basic training. He was still in tech school when we got married and it wasn't a problem at all. I just moved down there and the military gave us a base house to live in. You just take your marriage certificate to personnel and they will add your spouse as your dependent. She will immediately start getting all the benefits and everything.
My husband is in the Army...I can't speak for any other branch. I have no clue if its different or the same in other branches.
After bootcamp you will go to AIT for your MOS training. If your AIT education lasts longer than 19 weeks she will be able to go with you. If it is shorter than 19 weeks, she will have to wait until you have completed AIT and are assigned to your duty station. If you are married before bootcamp you still get BAH. If you wait until after bootcamp and are married while you're in AIT...you will still get BAH. I'm not so sure about health benefits because I was working at the time and had insurance of my own. I'm pretty sure that she would be eligible for insurance though. You wont get your food allowance until you turn in your meal card. It would be easier to either get married before bootcamp or after all of your training. Just my opinion though.
Make sure you get a sealed copy of your marriage certificate. You will need it to enroll her in DEERS.
Good luck.
If you join the military you can get married whenever you want. If you get married your spouse can come live with you on base or you can choose to live off base and the government will give you a housing allowance. The housing allowance depends on the zip code where you will live but it is usually a fair amount.
If you deploy overseas then your spouse cannot go with you during the time of your temporary deployment. Your spouse can go with you overseas only if you are getting permanently stationed overseas and usually depends on the branch you join or the unit you are in.
If your primary concern is to have your spouse with you at all times, I would advise against military service. During your time in the military you will be away from home a lot and if you join while single, I suggest you stay that way.
You're going to have to be more specific. Are you asking about BAH, housing, Family seperation or duty assignments?
it's easier if you get married before you leave, that way she is already on your paperwork, and nothing is going to get delayed because of her.
You need to get married NOW. If you marry her after she will not be on your orders and it will be hard as HELL to get her on them.
I am curious about the economic stimulus rebate and filing injured spouse?
My husband is being charged with child support arrears he does not really owe. Our federal refund has been intercepted every year that we have been married. We have filed injured spouse in the past, but this past year I did not work and had no income. My question is, is there any way to save my portion of this stimulus rebate? I have one child not belonging to my husband, and we have 2 children together. I am hoping there is a way to prevent his ex, who will be getting her own rebate, (plus my husband's $2000 federal refund) from benefiting from MY children.I am curious about the economic stimulus rebate and filing injured spouse?
Since the ex has convinced IRS (probably using some kind of a court order) that she is due any refund that might otherwise be coming to him. I'm afraid you will be out of luck.
He needs to talk with an IRS Enrolled Agent who can go to bat with IRS for him armed with any court orders or records he has that show she should NOT be getting the refund.
Meanwhile he could adjust his withholding (file a new W-4 with his employer) so that he has a small or no refund coming so there won't be anything for her to get her hands on.
I'm not sure if she can get the Stimulus payment for your kids or not.
Check the IRS website at;
www.irs.gov
see if they address the question.john masters oil acne
Since the ex has convinced IRS (probably using some kind of a court order) that she is due any refund that might otherwise be coming to him. I'm afraid you will be out of luck.
He needs to talk with an IRS Enrolled Agent who can go to bat with IRS for him armed with any court orders or records he has that show she should NOT be getting the refund.
Meanwhile he could adjust his withholding (file a new W-4 with his employer) so that he has a small or no refund coming so there won't be anything for her to get her hands on.
I'm not sure if she can get the Stimulus payment for your kids or not.
Check the IRS website at;
www.irs.gov
see if they address the question.
Can a South korean spouse of US perment resident get a student visa in the USA?
My wife has already been accepted to a graduate school in the USA. However, people have told me that because she is married to a permanent resident of the USA, she may not get the student visa. We had lived in USA for 5 months last year, but we are currently in Africa, working and volunteering. How can she prove that she does not intend to immigrate to USA when applying for a student visa? Although I am a permanent resident of the USA, I work overseas in development.Can a South korean spouse of US perment resident get a student visa in the USA?
You need to talk with a Lawyer anyways the fact that he is married with you applying for a Student visa could sound that she wants to Immigrate to the States !Can a South korean spouse of US perment resident get a student visa in the USA?
you need to go to the USCIS website and read up on the facts. They are the people that will deal with your case, so they have your answers
You need to talk with a Lawyer anyways the fact that he is married with you applying for a Student visa could sound that she wants to Immigrate to the States !Can a South korean spouse of US perment resident get a student visa in the USA?
you need to go to the USCIS website and read up on the facts. They are the people that will deal with your case, so they have your answers
How long after a spouse dies is it appropriate to clean out their things and start giving stuff away?
As long as it takes for you to feel good about doing it. Everybody gets over death at their own schedule. Grieving is usually a long slow process, but some people move on faster than others. You will know when it is time!How long after a spouse dies is it appropriate to clean out their things and start giving stuff away?
Only you will know when it's the right time. It's when you can look at those things, and not break down into tears over the thought of cleaning them out.
Are the memories when you look at those things good or bad? If they are bad, then start getting rid of stuff, you have enough pain that you don't bring more on yourself. If they are good memories, then you may hold on to some things a bit longer.
In the end, it comes down to when YOU and no one else but YOU is ready to let it go.
I'm sorry for your loss, but try to be strong and remember that your life is not over, when you are ready, move forward and live your life, on your terms.
Just my thoughtsHow long after a spouse dies is it appropriate to clean out their things and start giving stuff away?
There isn't any set time to give things away after someone dies. It is done whenever you feel that you are ready and can deal with it. I knew a woman and her husband died and she left everything in her home the way that it was before he had died for a year. Some people can deal with death easier than others.
Thats so personal...but i can say if you feel like you should do it and u just aren't...then pick 10 things that you really love and hold on to those things..give the rest away to a charity.. when there are no pictures, no keepsakes we always have the memories that is the best reminder of people we've shared our lives with..and the memories are always with you..u can pull them out anywhere...anytime. Best to you :)
The moment you're comfortable with it. I'd check with some of the other family members and ask if they'd like to have anything of your spouses. If not donate them to a needy organization or have a garage sale. Move at your own pace though.
It is up to the surviving spouse. No one elses business. People deal with their grief differently. Some clean out and move on to avoid the pain. Some keep it all forever. No one correct way to do grief.
what ever feels right to you and whatever helps you move on. Why do you have to get other peoples approval before doing what feels right to u? If you have the urge to purge, do it...and don't worry about what others will think!
Two years.
Give yourself two years
You will need those things again.
You want to get rid of them but that is your pain.
take two years before you do anything.
Put the stuff in storage.
When ever you feel the need to let it go. The grieving process is normal. Remember, your spouse would still want you to be happy also.
It depends on you. I could not stand to look at my mothers stuff when she passed away. We had her funeral on 22nd her apt was cleaned out before the 30th.
Four weeks ago your Husband was alive (a previous question). If it was your Husband who has passed away you are asking this way to early.
If you did not love them usually the day after the burial ,but some people never do thing like that because they want to keep things of their loved ones in their life....
Shortly after the viewing %26amp; when not too many of his close relatives that said they loved him might drop by.
if my husband died i wouldn't ever be ready to do that...i'd hold on to everything i possibly could.
When the widow decides it is time. Some widows hang on to SOME of their late husband's things forever. I do.
Whenever you feel up to it. This is one of those ';only you know when'; situations.
Whenever the person feels like, but I would at least wait till after the funeral.
I think a spouse who loved their partner will know when the time is right.
You have to wait til they are dead?
A decent time would be 6 months. You could box up things if you are up to it. Give it 6 months, out of respect.
how did they die?
how did you feel about them?
i would say 30days
mrs_g2 said it best.......Take your time.....
when it feels right
Only you will know when it's the right time. It's when you can look at those things, and not break down into tears over the thought of cleaning them out.
Are the memories when you look at those things good or bad? If they are bad, then start getting rid of stuff, you have enough pain that you don't bring more on yourself. If they are good memories, then you may hold on to some things a bit longer.
In the end, it comes down to when YOU and no one else but YOU is ready to let it go.
I'm sorry for your loss, but try to be strong and remember that your life is not over, when you are ready, move forward and live your life, on your terms.
Just my thoughtsHow long after a spouse dies is it appropriate to clean out their things and start giving stuff away?
There isn't any set time to give things away after someone dies. It is done whenever you feel that you are ready and can deal with it. I knew a woman and her husband died and she left everything in her home the way that it was before he had died for a year. Some people can deal with death easier than others.
Thats so personal...but i can say if you feel like you should do it and u just aren't...then pick 10 things that you really love and hold on to those things..give the rest away to a charity.. when there are no pictures, no keepsakes we always have the memories that is the best reminder of people we've shared our lives with..and the memories are always with you..u can pull them out anywhere...anytime. Best to you :)
The moment you're comfortable with it. I'd check with some of the other family members and ask if they'd like to have anything of your spouses. If not donate them to a needy organization or have a garage sale. Move at your own pace though.
It is up to the surviving spouse. No one elses business. People deal with their grief differently. Some clean out and move on to avoid the pain. Some keep it all forever. No one correct way to do grief.
what ever feels right to you and whatever helps you move on. Why do you have to get other peoples approval before doing what feels right to u? If you have the urge to purge, do it...and don't worry about what others will think!
Two years.
Give yourself two years
You will need those things again.
You want to get rid of them but that is your pain.
take two years before you do anything.
Put the stuff in storage.
When ever you feel the need to let it go. The grieving process is normal. Remember, your spouse would still want you to be happy also.
It depends on you. I could not stand to look at my mothers stuff when she passed away. We had her funeral on 22nd her apt was cleaned out before the 30th.
Four weeks ago your Husband was alive (a previous question). If it was your Husband who has passed away you are asking this way to early.
If you did not love them usually the day after the burial ,but some people never do thing like that because they want to keep things of their loved ones in their life....
Shortly after the viewing %26amp; when not too many of his close relatives that said they loved him might drop by.
if my husband died i wouldn't ever be ready to do that...i'd hold on to everything i possibly could.
When the widow decides it is time. Some widows hang on to SOME of their late husband's things forever. I do.
Whenever you feel up to it. This is one of those ';only you know when'; situations.
Whenever the person feels like, but I would at least wait till after the funeral.
I think a spouse who loved their partner will know when the time is right.
You have to wait til they are dead?
A decent time would be 6 months. You could box up things if you are up to it. Give it 6 months, out of respect.
how did they die?
how did you feel about them?
i would say 30days
mrs_g2 said it best.......Take your time.....
when it feels right
Saturday, January 9, 2010
How to tell my spouse he is suffering from paranoid personality disorder with psychotic features.?
He feels that he is perfectly alright and is a very un co-operative patient. Help please. ThanksHow to tell my spouse he is suffering from paranoid personality disorder with psychotic features.?
If he is paranoid then you don't need to tell him anything. he will just see you as part of the problem. the fact that he has psychotic features can make him very dangerous. If he has actually been seen by a mental health professional and received the above stated diagnosis and is being uncooperative or medication non-compliant then you need to contact that mental health professional right away. If you agitate a paranoid person and he reaches an acutely psychotic state you have a serious problem on your hands. If he is not taking his meds contact a mental health professional.How to tell my spouse he is suffering from paranoid personality disorder with psychotic features.?
if what you say is true, then your spouse is either in dinial or he is one difficult person to have to deal with. push the issue, take movies and recordings, and then give him an intervention, if the intervention dont work then give him an ultimatum.
Is that his diagnosis or do you just think that's what he is suffereing from? If it is what his doctors say, you probably can't be the one to slap him with the truth. I went through a similar thing with my husband but he was in your place. I was really sick and depressed after my baby was born but when he pointed things out or asked me to go with him to get help I would lash out at him and defend myself. You are supposed to be your husbands partner and teamate. If he is uncomfortable admitting he needs help, any contradiction of this that comes out of your mouth he is going to view as an attack on him, from someone who is supposed to be routeing for him and standing by him as an equal. You will be heard as over-riding his decision and trying to pull rank, pulling out of the team posistion and trying to be coach. My mom had to be the one to get through to me. She has always been someone that I've seen as higher up than me or in charge of me, someone I respect and listen to and try to emulate. Like a mentor. If you could find someone like this in your husbands life, an old friend he respects, a parent or aunt or uncle, and they felt the same way you do, you could ask their help to talk to your husband. If there is no one like that for him in his life then you need to find a doctor or someone he will feel is an athority on the subject and hopefully he will listen more easily than if you said it. It might still not be all sunshine and lolly pops but it would help him continue to turn to you and see you as his teammate through all of this. He'll be able to look to you for comfort and understanding instead of someone constantly against what he feels. Even if you want to tell him to feel something different or that he needs to clue in and change his attitude don't say it. It will cause damamge to a relationship that really needs to stay intact for him to recovery. You being right there by his side will get him to come around to your way of thinking faster than anything. Just validate everything that is applicable. ';I know you feel like you are fine. I love you no matter what you feel like or say. I'm with you forever. I know when doctors express concern that you don't feel it's warranted. I would have a hard time accepting anything was wrong with me if I didn't feel it. If something still was and I didn't notice but you did, I would want you to quietly tell me what you thought. Then we could sit down and decide together what was really happening. I don't want you to go through anything if you don't have to. Let's just see what this doctor says and maybe you might notice something. What doctor do YOU want to see and maybe we can start from there. Can we just compromise and see 1 doctor and you can pick and answer only the questions you want to. etc.'; The more he feels you are on his side the more he will listen to you and trust you. Because really you are on his side, he just has to feel it.
Sometimes the ones closest to him can't be heard. Try calling his family doctor and explaining your concern, see if he will go for a check-up and let the doctor delve further into it for you. Beware of the drugs they will want to put him on however, sometimes they can be worse for the body than the original problem. A check-up in in order however. I have found a whole fruit product that helps if you are interested go to www.usapowerline.com and read about it.
Good Luck:)
if you are not a mental health specialist, there is no reason why he should listen to you.
If he is paranoid then you don't need to tell him anything. he will just see you as part of the problem. the fact that he has psychotic features can make him very dangerous. If he has actually been seen by a mental health professional and received the above stated diagnosis and is being uncooperative or medication non-compliant then you need to contact that mental health professional right away. If you agitate a paranoid person and he reaches an acutely psychotic state you have a serious problem on your hands. If he is not taking his meds contact a mental health professional.How to tell my spouse he is suffering from paranoid personality disorder with psychotic features.?
if what you say is true, then your spouse is either in dinial or he is one difficult person to have to deal with. push the issue, take movies and recordings, and then give him an intervention, if the intervention dont work then give him an ultimatum.
Is that his diagnosis or do you just think that's what he is suffereing from? If it is what his doctors say, you probably can't be the one to slap him with the truth. I went through a similar thing with my husband but he was in your place. I was really sick and depressed after my baby was born but when he pointed things out or asked me to go with him to get help I would lash out at him and defend myself. You are supposed to be your husbands partner and teamate. If he is uncomfortable admitting he needs help, any contradiction of this that comes out of your mouth he is going to view as an attack on him, from someone who is supposed to be routeing for him and standing by him as an equal. You will be heard as over-riding his decision and trying to pull rank, pulling out of the team posistion and trying to be coach. My mom had to be the one to get through to me. She has always been someone that I've seen as higher up than me or in charge of me, someone I respect and listen to and try to emulate. Like a mentor. If you could find someone like this in your husbands life, an old friend he respects, a parent or aunt or uncle, and they felt the same way you do, you could ask their help to talk to your husband. If there is no one like that for him in his life then you need to find a doctor or someone he will feel is an athority on the subject and hopefully he will listen more easily than if you said it. It might still not be all sunshine and lolly pops but it would help him continue to turn to you and see you as his teammate through all of this. He'll be able to look to you for comfort and understanding instead of someone constantly against what he feels. Even if you want to tell him to feel something different or that he needs to clue in and change his attitude don't say it. It will cause damamge to a relationship that really needs to stay intact for him to recovery. You being right there by his side will get him to come around to your way of thinking faster than anything. Just validate everything that is applicable. ';I know you feel like you are fine. I love you no matter what you feel like or say. I'm with you forever. I know when doctors express concern that you don't feel it's warranted. I would have a hard time accepting anything was wrong with me if I didn't feel it. If something still was and I didn't notice but you did, I would want you to quietly tell me what you thought. Then we could sit down and decide together what was really happening. I don't want you to go through anything if you don't have to. Let's just see what this doctor says and maybe you might notice something. What doctor do YOU want to see and maybe we can start from there. Can we just compromise and see 1 doctor and you can pick and answer only the questions you want to. etc.'; The more he feels you are on his side the more he will listen to you and trust you. Because really you are on his side, he just has to feel it.
Sometimes the ones closest to him can't be heard. Try calling his family doctor and explaining your concern, see if he will go for a check-up and let the doctor delve further into it for you. Beware of the drugs they will want to put him on however, sometimes they can be worse for the body than the original problem. A check-up in in order however. I have found a whole fruit product that helps if you are interested go to www.usapowerline.com and read about it.
Good Luck:)
if you are not a mental health specialist, there is no reason why he should listen to you.
Can you sponsor your spouse if your mother recieved social assistance and you were a dependant child?
does recieving social assistance as a dependant child effect your sponsorship eligibility????Can you sponsor your spouse if your mother recieved social assistance and you were a dependant child?
you are not responsible for what happened to you when you were a kid.
basically as long as you have a job NOW, then you can sponsor a spouse.Can you sponsor your spouse if your mother recieved social assistance and you were a dependant child?
If you are the sponsor, then you yourself must have earned income that is at least 125% of the poverty level. If your mother is receiving social assistance then she cannot be a co-sponsor, however your father could (if employed full time with sufficient earned income). The exact income your father would need depends on how many dependents he has (including your spouse).
If you can meet the financial eligibility requirements, then it won't be a problem. You couldn't use your mother as a joint sponsor, it appears.
if someone can meet the 125% of poverty line...ur good to go. Otherwise, you will need to find a joint sponsor that fits the bill.
you are not responsible for what happened to you when you were a kid.
basically as long as you have a job NOW, then you can sponsor a spouse.Can you sponsor your spouse if your mother recieved social assistance and you were a dependant child?
If you are the sponsor, then you yourself must have earned income that is at least 125% of the poverty level. If your mother is receiving social assistance then she cannot be a co-sponsor, however your father could (if employed full time with sufficient earned income). The exact income your father would need depends on how many dependents he has (including your spouse).
If you can meet the financial eligibility requirements, then it won't be a problem. You couldn't use your mother as a joint sponsor, it appears.
if someone can meet the 125% of poverty line...ur good to go. Otherwise, you will need to find a joint sponsor that fits the bill.
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