How do you support/live with a clinically depressed spouse for whom doctors have been unable to help?

Spouse can work but otherwise has no energy for anything. Depression centers around not having achieved what he wanted to in his life. Doing well financially, but thought money would be no object by now. Also unhappy with work situation, which has been the same for years.


Also, feels guilty about various things that happened over 30 years ago and recently.How do you support/live with a clinically depressed spouse for whom doctors have been unable to help?
It takes a gracious soul to live and support a loved one with clinical depression or any other mental illness. It's a rollercoaster where you are many times picking up the pieces. If you choose to stay as in my case (husband is bipolar II ) please find yourself a support group of kindred people so to speak. And take care of your self because not only does it affect the inflicted person , by the loved ones who love them. A last resort for my husband was a series of electr-convulsive shock treatments aka ECT. A competent psychiatrist can do them and if not will recommed who can. Most insurances cover this. Good luck. If you need support contact me thru Anwsers, Ok ?How do you support/live with a clinically depressed spouse for whom doctors have been unable to help?
well i guess you can't help those who don't want to be helped


but sometimes, it's really hard


i mean when i am depressed, it gets so bad and i do want to get out of it but at the same time, i can't maybe because my system needs more time





and supporting, this is hard as well


but i would just try to be patient and understanding


cause let's face it, in reality, when we are depressed, all we want is understanding...some sort of comfort it is knowing that the person can relate to you





let's say, if your spouse says 'please believe me i try so hard and i want to overcome this' you just say 'i believe you and i feel your pain and i am here to help...i know you are strong and we ll go through this together'


people seem to follow encouragements when they see that you really believe in them


good luck!
encourage him to make wild and drastic changes in his existance. get him into the Word. show him that you are a living breathing human that requires him to revitalize his sense of happiness to survive loving him. depression is heavy and it can require drastic measures or really good pills, like buspar.