What if your spouse is deployed and he starts to treat you meanly for no reason?

So, If he gets deployed and wants you to move into housing and you leave a really good job to move on base with him and once you move you are unemployed then he go to Iraq and starts treating you like crap and starts arguments with you then hang up in your face and don't call email nothing to you for like two months don't even ask how his child is doing.... what could cause this? Why is he being this way?What if your spouse is deployed and he starts to treat you meanly for no reason?
Well now that you quit your ';Good Job'; and


have No Income he has complete control


over you...





My educated guess is that he is ';Whoring Around';


with some other ';In Service Whore';...in his Unit


or one that is stationed near his.


Guilt will do it everytime...


Happens all the time...





You need to look after you...and the Baby...


See if you can get your old Job back...


File for Divorce asap...


For first time enlistees the Divorce


Rate is heading for 60%...What if your spouse is deployed and he starts to treat you meanly for no reason?
The military has found that the more combat training and preparation they put these servicemembers through, the more time they spend downrange, the harder and harder it is for them to make the transition back the ';real world.';





Try going around him by talking to a military support center, first sergeant, supervisor, superintendent, chaplain or a doctor. Seriously. The sooner the better too. Coming home and spending time with you guys is what the military calls ';reintegration'; and they know it's rough on families. You need to get him to talk to someone.
I was in the army. When you deploy you are moody and irritable. Talking to my wife on the phone was the highlight of my days usually. Sure we would fight but we trusted each other. It doesn't sound like there is a lot of trust on his end. He honestly sounds controlling and manipulative. I say get rid of him. It's like he views you as just something else he has to deal with. A husband, especially a soldier, should never view his family like that. It sounds like he is being disrespectful and doesn't want you to work so he can have control. I know because I've viewed your previos questions as well. You need couples therapy if you are going to stay together. You need to start working again so he doesn't feel so entitled to be a j@ck@ss. There are a lot of guys in the army that are like that. Women are below them...it sounds like he is one of them.





Oh and a thank you to Brittany for saying what she did. There are so many military wives out there that take being a military wife as a career choice or something. I knew a ssgt who actually got busted down to a cpl because his wife didn't know when to shut up.
My ex did the same thing. The big problem was when he came home. Throwing things, tearing up the house, yelling and hitting.


Maybe he has some PTSD issues. Actually, I am almost certain he does. If this is all out of character for him, maybe you should go talk to the chaplain. He is very busy and trying to stay alive. Worry about your jobs on he home-front. Make sure you have your life in order, just in case...
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I am going thru a deployment as well...before he left we would fight for no reason...and now he is gone its the same thing...we just have to be the strong ones..we are their rear d..we have to be there for them and support them every step of the way...





if its real bad talk to his rear d..let them know...but dont stress on it..thats how most soldiers get when they get over there bc they want to be home and all they can think about is us





just stay strong
Well he might not be able to call you, OPTEMPO can make it real difficult to call home on deployments. Also deployments do stress people. Annnnndddd truth be told you have only given us one side of the story. Go see your chaplain, cause you aren't going to get the help you need on a public board.
If he's in a war zone, he DOESN'T need any crap from you. He needs positive reinforcement and nothing but love vibes. Do NOT add to his stress level with your daily problems. Take your problems to family, chaplain, etc. but leave them at home when he calls.


Also, if he comes home rude, he's probably shell shocked. You either have to learn to live with the new him, or leave. He has no control over what war has done to him.
you have to understand he is extremely stressed! hes in a war environment 24/7 and reallywants to be with yall. hes just stressed. just let him know everything will be ok and to deal with your problems when he gets home
WOOHOOO! Go Brittany!
it's just the stress. all couples in deployment / or preparing for deployment fight for no reason. Sorry :(
I agree with Brittany.
I don't know but it sounds like something a ***** gets choked for. Didn't you hear about Rhianna??